Importance of Assertiveness in Relationships

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Importance Of Assertiveness
In Relationships
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• Be it your personal or professional life, being
  assertive can help you build and maintain
  self-confidence in all situations. However,
  assertiveness doesn't come naturally to everyone
  and most people have to learn this skill through
  the life experiences. Assertiveness is not just
  about speaking your mind, but it is also about
  how you speak your mind.

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It is about expressing your feelings, opinions
and thoughts without being disrespectful to
others and without hesitation. In simple words,
assertiveness means, asking confidently for what
you want whilst being able to politely say no to
what you do not want.
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Why should you be assertive? Honesty and mutual
respect are two key elements that help sustain
long-term relationships. By being assertive, you
are respectful of yourself as well as the person
you are speaking with. On the other hand, lack of
assertiveness may lead to various negative
consequences, such as emotional withdrawal,
resentment and eventually loss of relationship.
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Basically, there are three communication styles
passive which means you keep your feelings and
thoughts to yourself and don't express yourself
easily and aggressive which means screaming or
yelling at others to make a point. Assertiveness
is a midpoint between being passive and being
aggressive.
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How to be assertive in your relationship First,
you have to work on building your
self-confidence. Remind yourself of all your
positive qualities and capabilities so you do not
feel like you don't deserve a voice. Ask
yourself how should you handle the situation,
which is completely different from how you feel
like dealing with it. Look for the best way to
express yourself and remember, you do not have to
necessarily sugarcoat what you want to say.
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Try to focus on I statements instead of you,
because usually the more times one says You,
the more defensive other person becomes. For
instance, 'I am upset because I was expecting you
for dinner', vs., 'You are not reliable'. Deal
with the issue immediately rather than allowing
the frustration to build. If you wait too long,
it can escalate emotions and spark heated
response.
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Don't bring up the past, and focus on only one
issue at a time. Its not a good idea to
overwhelm the other person with many issues all
at once. For more such helpful tips and advice
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