Skills for Healthy Relationships

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Skills for Healthy Relationships
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One of the most basic human needs is the need to
belong and be loved.
Relationships are bond or connections you have
with other people. Commonly referred to as a
romantic connection there are many different
types of relationships that are important.
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• Family-one thing that makes them special is that
  these relationships
• last your entire life. Healthy family
  relationships strengthen all
• three sides of your health triangle.
• Friends- a significant relationship between two
  people that is based
• on trust, caring, and consideration. This
  relationship can build
• your self esteem and help you resist harmful
  behaviors
• Community- (citizenship) the way you conduct
  yourself as a member
• of the community. Obey laws, being friendly to
  neighbors and
• helping to improve the places where they live .

• Traits of a Healthy Relationship
• Mutual respect
• Caring
• Honesty
• Commitment

• Skills for Building a Healthy Relationship
• Communication
• Cooperation
• Compromise

• 6 traits of good character
• Trustworthiness
• Respect
• Responsibility
• Fairness
• Caring
• Citizenship

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Compromise Activity Directions Compromising is
giving up something in order to reach and
agreement. It is a process of giving and taking
to agree on a common goal. Using the situations
listed, first brainstorm the solutions, then
compromise on the final decision. The guidelines
for compromising are listed below

• Compromise Guidelines
• Everyone MUST get a chance to voice an opinion.
• All group members have a say in the final
  decision
• Any decision must be approved by everyone in the
  group.
• Everyone must agree to support the final decision.

• Topics
• If you could invite any one famous person to
  school for the day who would it be and why?
• A gift of 200,000 was given to our school by a
  wealthy graduate. How should we spend the money?
• The school has decided to give your class a week
  long trip anywhere in the world. Where should
  you go and why?

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Respecting Yourself and Others Personal
Identity- sense of who you are and where you
belong in the world. Personal Value system-
beliefs, ideas, and attitudes about yourself,
important that help guide the way you live.
Upholding your values shows that you respect
yourself, and communicating your values to others
can help them to respect you too.
TREAT PEOPLE THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED!!!!

• Listen to others
• Be considerate of others feelings
• Develop mutual trust
• Be realistic in your expectations

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prejudice
An unfair opinion or judgment of a particular
group of people.
STEREOTYPE
An exaggerated or oversimplified belief about
people who belong to a certain group.
TOLERANCE
The ability to accept others differences
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Activity I
Get into a small group of 4 and brainstorm on
ways teens can discourage prejudice and
stereotyping and encourage tolerance. Be ready
to share your ideas with the class.
Activity II
Develop a short slogan (a very brief, attention
getting phrase that summarizes a goal, an
opinion, or a position) promoting tolerance. Be
ready to share your ideas with the class.
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COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY

• Communication Styles
• Aggressive overly forceful, pushy, or hostile.
  May involve bullying or intimidation.
• Passive- unwilling or unable to express thought
  and feelings in a direct or firm manner
• Assertive- expressing your views clearly and
  respectfully. Standing up for yourself while
  respecting others

Complete Math Activity at the end of chapter in
book p. 163. Must be handed in in 5 minutes.
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Passive, Aggressive, or Assertive Worksheet
Directions Write aggressive, assertive, or
passive on a separate sheet of
paper to describe the response to each question.

1. Can you help me with my book report? I wont get
   a chance to read the whole book. Why should I
   help you? Youre too lazy! Its not my problem!
2. Can I borrow your new outfit? I wont ruin it.
   WellI didnt get a chance to wear it yet, but
   well, okay.
3. I need to borrow 50 to pay a traffic ticket.
   How bout lending it to me? Im really not able
   to lend you the money. I cant help you out.
4. Lets go to the mall and hang out tonight.
   Theres nothing better to do. I dont want to go
   to the mall tonight. Id prefer to go to the
   movies.
5. Can I be on your team for basketball? NO! You
   stinkbesides, we have enough players already!
6. Lets have a few beers, no ones home and theyll
   never find out. Im not sure if thats a good
   idea -but, okay, I guess it would be OK.
7. Lets skip school and go to the beach today. Im
   not taking a chance like that Im going to
   school.
8. Can I stay at your house for the weekend? Well,
   I was having a friend from my old school stay
   over, but OK, I guess.
9. Give me your homework to copy I was on the phone
   all night. No, do your own work, you idiot!
10. Can you babysit for me this weekend? I made
    other plans with my friends, I wont be able to
    help you this particular weekend.

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• Ways to Communicate
• Speaking Skills- Using the I message.
• Listening Skills- Practice active listening by
  paying close attention to what
  someone is saying and communicating.
• dont interrupt
• Show interest
• Restate what you hear
• Ask questions
• Show empathy

• Nonverbal communication
• Body language

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May I Quote You? Directions Look at the two
quotes below and on a piece of paper, write down
the quote and what you think the quote means.
How can these quotes be related to relationships?
Be ready to share your ideas.
Quote 1 You dont have to blow out my candle
to make yours glow brighter.
Quote 2 The only way to have a friend is to be
a friend.