Effective Communication and Relationships

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Effective Communication and Relationships

• Key to Success!

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Communication

• the process of sharing information, thoughts or
  feelings.

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What is the most common way you communicate?

• Text messages
• Phone calls
• In person talking
• Non-Verbal
• Email
• Social Media

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Effective communication skills include

• I Messages a statement that expresses your
  feelings, but does not blame or judge the other
  person.

• Active Listening is focusing your full
  attention on what the other person is saying and
  letting that person know you understand and care.

• Assertive able to stand up for yourself while
  expressing your feelings in a way that does not
  threaten the other person.

• Body Language includes posture, gestures,
  facial expressions, and body movements. Ie eye
  contact)

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Cooperation

• working together toward a common goal.
• Builds strong relationships that are based on
  mutual trust, caring, and responsibility.

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Examples of where you need to use cooperation
throughout your day
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Compromise

• is the willingness of each person to give up
  something in order to reach agreement.

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Examples of where you needed to compromise either
today or yesterday
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Checklist for choosing friends

• Complete the Personal Inventory worksheet to
  identify important qualities you look for in a
  friend.

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Friendship

• a relationship based on mutual trust, acceptance,
  and common interests or values.
• People look to their friends for honest
  reactions, encouragement during bad times, and
  understanding when they make mistakes.

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Types of Friendships

• Casual Friends-
• Close Friends-
• Friends of the opposite sex-

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Problems in Friendships

• some possible problems in friendships are envy,
  jealousy, cruelty, and cliques.
• For the relationship to be a lasting one, it is
  important that friends face any problems that do
  arise and work together to resolve them.

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Envy and Jealousy

• appearance, talent, popularity, when a best
  friend wants to develop a closer bond with
  another friend.

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Cruelty

• sometimes a friend may act cruel because they may
  be facing problems at home or other reason and
  take it out on you.
• Confront friend with I messages that they are
  treating you unfairly and try to find the real
  reason,show concern and desire to help friend
  work things out.

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Cliques

• narrow exclusive group of people with similar
  backgrounds or interests.

Pros can give a member a sense of belonging
Cons can deprive a person of forming friendships
with a variety of people, discourages members
thinking or acting independently, may experience
peer pressure.
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Responsible Relationships

• Physical Attraction and Dating

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Journal Question

• Do you think dating during high school is a good
  idea? Why or why not?

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Infatuation

• intense attraction to another person

What can you gain by dating someone?
you can learn about his or her interests,
personality, abilities, and values.
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Going out.

• As a group- group of teens going bowling together
  for example gives the advantage and opportunity
  to see how people behave when they are with
  others and get to know more about each other.

As couples- may find an attraction to a friend
and enjoy spending time and bonding with
another couple as a small group with similar
interests.
Steady dating- after a few dates, a couple may
decide not to date others and see each other on a
regular basis. May have drawbacks since you
limit you chances of meeting other people you
might like, feel pressured to make decisions
about sexual intimacy, and if conflicts arise it
may be difficult to break off the relationship.
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Dating Violence

• a pattern of emotional, physical or sexual abuse
  that occurs in a dating relationship. One
  partner uses the abuse to gain control of the
  other partner.

• Examples slap, make fun of the others looks or
  abilities or constantly check up to find out what
  the person is doing.

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Cycle of Violence

• 3 Stage Cycle
• -Tension building stage
• -Violent episode
• -Calm or honeymoon stage.

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Warning Signs of Abuse

• 1-Your date is jealous when you talk to others.
  Your date makes fun of you in front of others.
• 2-Your date makes all the decisions and tries to
  control what you do.
• 3-Your date has a history of bad relationships.
• 4-You feel isolated from your friends and family.
• 5-You feel less self-confident. You worry about
  doing or saying the right thing. You change how
  you behave to avoid an argument.

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Date Rape

• More than half of young women who are raped know
  the person who raped them. It may have been a
  steady date, a casual date, or an acquaintance.
• A date rape drug may be used since it is easily
  slipped into drinks because they are colorless,
  tasteless, and odorless. Later, the victim will
  feel hung-over and be unable to recall the rape.
  Friends will say the victim acted drunk.

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Why would a teen remain in a abusive
relationship? Or hide it from others?

• Some teens may view a possessive or jealous
  partner as romantic.
• They may think the behavior is normal because
  friends are in similar relationships.
• Females may think that makes are supposed to act
  in a controlling manner or that physical
  aggression is a sign of masculinity.
• Males may be ashamed to admit that they are being
  abused for fear of being seen as weak.
• Sadly, some teens may think that deserve to be
  abused.
• Others may fear being alone.

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Ending the Abuse

• Admit the abuse exists
• Realize that you are not to blame for the abuse
  and you cannot change how the abuser behaves
• You dont have to deal with the problem on your
  own support help from friends and family -
  call abuse hotline talk to teacher, counselor,
  doctor or social worker

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Class Discussion Question

• What precautions could someone take to reduce the
  risk of being raped or taken advantage of by a
  friend or an acquaintance?

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Homework Assignment

• Read the Sports Illustrated Article Why did
  Yeardley Love have to die?
• Write a 1 full-page response (3-4 paragraphs)
• Please include
• What you thought and learned about this story
• What warning signs were given?
• Who could have done something to change the
  outcome of the storywhen?
• Why wouldnt someone do something?
• How has this changed your opinion on
  relationships or domestic abuse?
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