Communication

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Communication Personal Identity

• The self arises in communication with others
• Particular others parents, siblings, peers
• Generalized others collection of rules, roles
• Media institutions
• Reflected appraisals a process of seeing
  ourselves through the eyes of others
• Self-fulfilling prophesy expectations, judgment
  of ourselves (internalized labels)

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Communication Personal Identity

• Communication with family members
• Direct definition Explicitly told
• Identity scripts Rules of living and identity
• Attachment styles Patterns of parenting how to
  approach relationship (next slide)
• Secure attachment Consistent, attentive
  self-worth
• Fearful attachment Rejecting, abusive unworthy
  of love
• Dismissive attachment Rejecting, abusive
  dismissing others as unworthy
• Anxious/ambivalent attachment Inconsistent
  parenting assuming others right / self unworthy
  of love

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Attachment Styles
Views of self
Positive
Negative
Secure
Anxious/Ambivalent
Positive
Consistent, attentive self-worth
Inconsistent parenting assuming others right /
self unworthy of love
Views of others
Dismissive
Negative
Fearful
Rejecting, abusive unworthy of love
Rejecting, abusive dismissing others as unworthy
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Communication Personal Identity

• Communication with society Four aspects of
  identity
• Race
• Gender
• Sexual orientation
• Socioeconomic level

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Challenges in Communicating with Ourselves

• Reflecting critically on social perspectives
• Ethical obligation to promote positive social
  values and a fair social world
• Individual collective efforts to revise social
  meaning
• Seeking personal growth as a communicator
• Set realistic goals
• Assess yourself fairly
• Creative a supportive climate for change
• Uppers
• Downers
• Vultures