Communication

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Communication Theatre 4/510 Advanced
Interpersonal Communication Families and Friends
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communication serves to construct and reflect
family
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there many types of families that work . . .
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Military dependents (interpersonal 2007)
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communication is the method of family culture
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previous generations influence family patterns
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Well-functioning families manage communication
patterns

• adapt
• create change
• share intimacy
• manage conflict

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Gottman - two marriages his and hers

• men have a harder time recovering from being
  upset - blood pressure heart rate rise higher
  and stay high longer.

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• physiologically men dont need to relate to
  people as much as women . . .

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a relation ship . . . who tends to be in-charge?
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In order to keep a man engaged in a difficult
discussion, a woman often raises the intensity to
keep the man responsive.
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Galvin and Brommel Stepfamilies
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In less than two years, the stepfamily will be
the most common form . . .
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characteristics of stepfamilies

• history loss
• parent-child relationship predates couple
  relationship
• differential rituals
• children live in two households

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• complex extended family network
• no legal relationship between stepparent and
  stepchildren
• relationships are often involuntary

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issues to be negotiated

• who are the real members?
• what space is mine?
• who is in charge?
• who gets time?

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identify personal preferences for fight patterns,
and discuss this in relationships.

• avoid
• accommodate
• compete
• compromise
• collaborate

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• avoid - avoid
• avoid - accommodate
• avoid - compete
• avoid - compromise
• avoid - collaborate

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• accommodate - accommodate
• accommodate - compete
• accommodate - compromise
• accommodate - collaborate
• compete - compete

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• compete - compromise
• compete - collaborate
• compromise - compromise
• compromise - collaborate
• collaborate - collaborate

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Mary Pipher
Strong families find something to appreciate in
every day and reach their members to wrest beauty
from a mottled reality.
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• Three strategies for protecting families
• more, and meaningful celebrations
• connecting rituals
• the family stories and metaphors

Respond to Peg Cuccis story about process and
celebration people. Which are you??
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A moms life . . . any comments?
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Steve Duck
Come to chat with your own requirements for
friendship, be certain to review pages 268-269.
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• Provisions of friendship . . .
• Belonging
• reliability
• emotional integration
• emotional stability
• opportunity to self-disclose

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• More provisions of friendship . . .
• provide assistance
• provide physical support
• reassure our worth
• need to help others
• personality support

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Friends with benefits
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Same sex friendship 2006
Brokeback mountain 2006