Sibling Rivalry

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Sibling Rivalry

• Birth Order

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• Draw a picture of your family. After drawing the
  picture, list the qualities, traits, etc. that
  you feel you have because of your place in the
  family.

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SIBLING RELATIONSHIPS

• How can a sibling relationship be a positive part
  of a family?
• Role models
• Supporters
• members of a coalition for dealing with parents.

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SIBLING ROLES

• Playmates and Companions
• Teachers and Learners
• Protectors and dependants
• Adversaries
• Role Models

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SIBLING RIVALRY

• Question What are some typical things brothers
  and sisters have problems with or argue about?
• Competition among children of the same family for
  their parents affections or for dominance is
  called sibling rivalry. It is extremely common,
  and it sometimes persists into adult life.

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• Younger children typically copy and try to excel
  in areas in which older children have previously
  succeeded.
• One or both parents sometimes single out one
  child as the best and another as the black
  sheep.
• children perceive the parents attitudes and
  compete with one another for affection and
  approval.

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Next to the parent-child relationship, the
sibling relationship is probably the strongest.

• Enjoy deep sharing.
• Teaching and socializing is
• often the role of an older brother or
• sister.
• The older sibling is not only teacher but
  caretaker and companion.

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• Assignment
• Complete the handout Living with Bothers and
  Sisters.
• Volunteer some of the things you wrote on your
  handout.

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Activity

• Each member of the group needs to think of an
  adjective that describes you as a person. You
  will then share these will the rest of your
  group. If the majority of the group agrees that
  characteristic fits them as well then you write
  it on your butcher paper. Continue to do this
  until you have a list of characteristics that are
  common in your group. After your group is done
  hang it on the board.

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Things to remember about Birth Order

• Exceptions in traits
• Focus on positive traits of each birth order
• Becoming aware of uniqueness
• Use the information to understand ourselves and
  others
• Do not use traits as labels or stereotypes

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BIRTH ORDER

• The order in which children are born in to a
  family has an influence on the development of the
  children.
• The stages in the family life cycle are based on
  the age of the oldest child because everything
  the firstborn does in new to the parents.

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The oldest child is

• Usually set up as an example to the other
  children.
• Treated more like an adult by his/her parents.
• A high achiever
• Given and accepts more responsibility than the
  other children.
• Usually college bound.
• Independent
• Is affectionate

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The middle child

• May work extra-hard to get recognition.
• Is usually a peace maker.
• is somewhat average in schoolwork, but is an
  all-around good student
• Is usually a calm, even-tempered adult.

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The youngest child

• Gets a lot of attention, along with a lot of
  bossing.
• May be spoiled
• Usually matures quickly
• May be undisciplined and irresponsible
• Is easy-going about school.
• Likes to associate with someone who takes charge
  of situations.

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MARRIAGE IN RELATION TO BIRTH ORDER

• Oldest and youngest the youngest is use to
  being taken care of and the oldest likes taking
  care of others.
• Two youngest - will have lots of fun together,
  but may resent each other later because no one is
  taking care of each other.
• Two Oldest admire and respect each other
  because of the traits they possess. However
  later on they may have problems trying to agree
  on things.

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WHAT IS YOUR TEACHER?

• Oldest child
• Create complicated projects for students to
  complete.
• They like structure and order in the classroom.
• They are happiest when students are sitting in
  nicely arrange desks, straight in a line.
• Students are quiet and do as they are told.
• the oldest child teacher will be frustrated
  unless they learn how to achieve the organization
  in a different way.

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• A middle child teacher
• is interested in the psychological well being as
  well as the academic achievement of the student.
• They seek out the rebellious students in hope of
  influencing them in a more positive direction.
• They try to achieve order through mutual respect
  and understanding.

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• A teacher who is a younger child
• are more creative, fun loving, adjust well to
  noise and disorder.
• Teachers allow students to take
• more responsibility so they wont
• have to do everything
• themselves

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