Social Skills

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Social Skills
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Getting Over Shyness

• Learn to act
• You can learn new social skills and become
  more confident by playing a social situation as
  if you were an actor
• playing out a role.

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Getting over Shyness

• Start small (remember baby steps in the goal
  setting lesson). Begin with small situations and
  work up to more difficult ones.
• Prepare yourself write out a brief script and
  rehearse it at home, look in a mirror and listen
  to your voice. (this is what actors do to prepare
  for a role)

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Saying Hello
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Saying Hello

• A good way to get used to saying hello to people
  is by practicing. Here are some ways you can
  greet new people.
• Hello or Hi
• Hows it going?
• Good to see you.
• Have a nice day.
• Gestures ( a nod, a smile, a wave)

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Meeting New People

• Try to meet new people.
• Start a conversation wherever you go.
• (while standing in line at the movies,
• at an amusement park, at a sporting
• event.

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Meeting New People

• Start the conversation with something you have in
  common.
• Asking questions is effective
• This line is so long, this must be a good
• movie. Have you heard anything about
• it?
• Thats a nice jacket. Where did you get
• it?

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Giving Compliments
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Giving Compliments

• You can compliment people by looking at
• What they are wearing (ex. I like your
• shirt.
• How they look (ex. Your hair looks great.)
• Something they do well (ex. Youre
• really good at sports.

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Giving Compliments

• Their personality (ex.Youve got a good
• sense of humor.
• Other personal features (ex. Youve got
• a nice smile.

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Tips for Startinga Conversation

• Here are some ideas for starting a conversation
  with someone you dont know like at a party or
  dance.
• Pick someone who looks like they would be easy to
  talk to they are smiling at you, sitting alone
  or just walking around.

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Tips for StartingA Conversation

• Introduce yourself - hello or hiand start
  talking about where you go to school, where you
  live, what you enjoy doing.
• Give a compliment, then ask a question.
• You were really good in the talent show. Do
  you take lessons?

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Keeping a Conversation Going

1. Ask questions
2. Tell a story about yourself.
3. Get the other person to talk about themselves.
4. Let the other person know you are interested.
5. Be happy and up.

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Tips for StartingA Conversation

• Ask for help, or offer it. (ex. Carry books, help
  with a package, lending books, pencils, etc.)
• If nothing is working, you can start talking
  about the weather there is always something
  interesting there.

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Keeping a Conversation Going

• 6. Be an active listener. Show that you are
  listening by
• a. Using verbal cues (uh-huh, I see,
• Thats really interesting.
• b. Using nonverbal cues (lean forward,
• sit closer, nod your head, keep eye
  contact.

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Ending a Conversation

• The ending should be as smooth as possible.
• Dont cut the person, try to find a natural way
  to end.

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Ending a Conversation

• 3.Nonverbal cues break eye contact, move
  towards the exit, shake hands, etc.
• 4. Be sure the person understands you are ending
  the conversation.
• 5. You can say I enjoyed the conversation. or
  I hope we meet again soon.