What is Bullying?

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What is Bullying?
Middle School
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Bullying can be...

• One person making fun of another.
• One person trying to beat up another.
• A group of people ganging up against others.

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How does it make you feel?
Depressed
Hurt
Alone
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Does it have to be a part of growing up?

• No
• Each and every person has the right to feel safe
  in your life and good about yourself.

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The 3 types of Bullying.
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The three types with examples
Physical Bullying Verbal Bullying Relationship Bullying
Hitting, Kicking, or Pushing someone Stealing, Hiding or ruining someone's things Making someone do something he or she doesn't want to do Name calling Teasing Insulting Refusing to talk to someone Spreading lies and rumors about someone Making someone feel left out or rejected
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Who is a Bully?
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All bullies have one thing in common

• Something or someone is making them feel
  insecure.
• Therefore they bully to make themselves feel
  better.

• They could have something going on in their
  family.
• They might not feel like they are getting enough
  attention from parents or teachers.
• They might have watched their parents or older
  siblings get their way by being angry and pushy.
• Maybe they are also bullied.
• They might be spoiled by their parents.

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Who is a Target for Bullying?
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Possible reasons for being a Target.

• The bully or the target are either smaller or
  bigger than most kids their age.
• The target may be a minority.
• May have a disability.
• Maybe you have a name that is not ordinary.

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Possible reasons for being a Target.

• If you get anxious or upset easily.
• If you usually are alone and don't have many
  friends.
• If you don't have a lot of confidence and don't
  stand up for yourself.

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How to Deal with Bullying!!
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What to do In the moment
Ignore them! Pretend you didnt hear them Dont even look at them
Dont Cry Dont get angry Dont show them that you are upset
Talk about it to someone else Write it down so you dont forget to tell someone Respond to the Bully evenly and firmly

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In the moment continued
Turn the comment into a joke. Turn and walk away.
Remove yourself from the situation. Go somewhere that an adult is present.
Remember you are not the one with the problem. The bully is. Talk to an adult!
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Ways to avoid future bullying

• Dont bring expensive things or money to school.
• Label your belongings with permanent marker in
  case they get stolen.
• Avoid unsupervised areas.
• Sit near the bus driver on the bus or walk with a
  teacher to class.

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More ways to avoid future bullying

• Act confident. Hold your head up, stand up
  strait, and make eye contact.
• Dont walk alone, travel with at least one other
  person.
• Avoid places where bullying happens.

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Why do others LET it happen?
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Reasons

• The bully is someone others look up to and want
  to hang out with.
• They want to side with the bully because to do
  that makes them feel strong.

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Reasons

• Theyre entertained by the bullying.
• They dont think speaking up will help.
• Theyre afraid that if they say something, the
  bully will turn on them.

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Some things you can say if someone is getting
bullied.
"That's Not Funny"
"How would you like it if someone did that to
you?"
"Cut it out"
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Remember the golden rule

• Treat others the way you want to be treated.
  Stand up for someone when he or she needs it, and
  when you need it, someone will stand up for you.

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Are you a Bully?
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Ask yourself these questions.

• Does it make you feel better to hurt other people
  or take their things?
• Are you bigger and stronger than other people
  your age? Do you sometimes use your size and
  strength to get your way?

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• Have you been bullied by someone in the past and
  feel like you have to make up for doing the same
  thing to others?
• Do you avoid thinking about how other people
  might feel if you say or do hurtful things to
  them?

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How can you STOP being a Bully?
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If you are a bully, here are some ways to stop.

• Apologize to people that you have bullied, and
  follow it up by being friendly.
• They might not trust you right away, but
  eventually they will see that you have changed.

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More ways to stop

• If you are having a hard time feeling good about
  yourself, explore ways to boost your self-esteem.
  
• If you feel like youre having trouble
  controlling your feelings, especially anger, talk
  to a school counselor about it.

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Questions?
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Credits

• Source- www.pbskids.org/itsmylife
• Publication Year- 2005