Bullying

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Bullying
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Watch and Respond

• http//www.youtube.com/watch?vnWJut7KQhI4
• Whats going on?
• How do you think the boy feels?
• Why is the group acting this way?

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What is bullying?
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Adam dreaded gym class. Smaller and less
developed than the other boys, he lacked athletic
skill, which earned him a daily barrage of
shoves, jeers and threats from Kevin, the class
hulk. On the big, open playing field, Adam
could neither hide his awkwardness nor
disappear as he had learned to do almost
everywhere else on the school grounds. Talking
back to Kevin only fueled his tormentors
contempt and , since the coach either didnt
notice, or didnt care, Adam coped by skipping
school as often as possible.
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Donald Rudy were rivals in their
neighborhood. No one was ever sure why. Maybe it
was because their respective families were always
arguing about parking spaces, noise levels yard
maintenance. Whatever the reason, the boys didnt
like each other frequently ended up in fights,
even at school. Both were big for the 5th
grade both had a group of supporters, so their
fights usually drew crowds. Even kids who werent
involved seemed compelled to watch, there was
much calculating betting about who would win
each bout.
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What is bullying?

• Bullying is a pattern of aggressive behavior that
  is intentional, cruel, hurtful and repeated
• There is an imbalance of strength
• Bullied children are harassed, taunted, rejected
  and assaulted
• People who bully often want power over others

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How does it differ from peer conflict?

• Power Bullies are almost always more powerful
  than their victims
• Support Bullies choose victims in part for
  their relative isolation
• Vulnerability - Bullies look for potential
  victims among the weak
• Intensity and Duration Bullying is rarely a
  one-time occurrence
• Intent to Harm Bullies are sadistic

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What forms does bullying take?

• Teasing to physical aggression
• Physical
• Emotional
• Psychological
• Sexual
• The intent matters!
• The effect on the victim matters!

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What is the bullys goal?

• To do damage
• Victims pain, anger and humiliation are proof
  that damage has been done

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Myths about bullying

• Its just teasing
• Some people deserve to be bullied
• People who complain about bullying are babies
• Only boys bully
• Bullying is a normal part of growing up

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Myths about bullying

• People who bully will stop the behavior if you
  ignore them
• All bullies have low self-esteem thats why
  they pick on others
• Its tattling to tell an adult when youre
  bullied
• The best way to deal with a bully is by fighting
  or trying to get even
• People who are bullied will get over it

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Appropriate responses to bullying

• REPORT IT
• If a situation is dangerous, get away as quickly
  as possible
• If it is safe, stand up to bullying
• Avoid the person who is bullying
• Try to stay around others
• Befriend those who have been bullied

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Inappropriate responses to bullying

• Fighting back or trying to get even
• Joining in bullying
• Staying quiet about the bullying

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Be a Hero!

• http//www.youtube.com/watch?vPtFtbaKIYyg

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Will You Take the Pledge?

• http//www.youtube.com/watch?vfv1d0kjMORE

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Our bullying program

• Class rules
• Weekly meetings
• Lesson
• Conflict box
• Caught You Caring box