Parenting

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Parenting

• Scott Gardner

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A Transition Person is

• Taking a leadership position in your family you
  help your family make a transition from those
  areas in your family life that are less effective
  to a more effective family culture. You break out
  of the paradigms created by others and the
  comfort zone of unworthy habits
• Steven Covey

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Becoming a transition person

• By changing self
• By changing children

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Negative Family Patterns

• Addictions
• Sexual abuse
• Physical abuse
• Domestic violence

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• Emotional abuse
• Poverty
• Permissiveness in parenting
• Rigidity in parenting
• Neglect in parenting (lack of love)

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How to change yourself

• 1. Recognize problem
• 2. Conscious decision and plan
• 3. Persist (remember the pain)

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Changing The Next Generation

• Important parenting basics
• 1) share your values with your child

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Summary of research on transmission of values

• Explaining parents
• Parent-adolescent interaction
• Compliance among democratic parents
• Confidence in democratic parents

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Parenting Basics Continued

• 2) time with child - quantity (how much) time is
  most important

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Parenting Basics Continued

• be clear, consistent, provide consequences, be
  kind

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According to one recent study

• 3 General, important interactions that parents
  need to have with their children
• 1. connection
• 2. regulation
• 3. psychological autonomy (Tripp,1997)

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Priorities

• A hundred years from now it will not matter what
  my bank account was, the sort of house I lived
  in, or the kind of care I drove...but the world
  may be different because I was important in the
  life of a child.

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