Parenting

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Parenting Skills

• Unit 3
• Parenting
• Mrs. Dollard

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Curriculum Frameworks

• FW 3.1 Define terms related to parenting skills.
• 3.1.1 Apply terms
• FW 3.2 List rights and responsibilities of
  parents. (N.S. 15.1)
• 3.2.1 Analyze parental rights.
• 3.2.2 Analyze parental responsibilities.
• FW 3.3 List rights and responsibilities of
  children.
• 3.3.1 Analyze rights of children.
• 3.3.2 Analyze responsibilities of children.
• FW 3.4 Describe parenting styles.
• 3.4.1 Compare parenting styles.

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• FW 3.5 Explain the importance of parents as
  positive role models.
• 3.5.1 Compile traits of a positive role model.
• FW 3.6 Describe the importance of a nurturing
  environment. (N.S. 12.3.1)
• 3.6.1 Determine ways to promote a positive self
  concept in children.
• 3.6.2 Determine the relationship between
  nurturing and the fulfillment of potential.
• FW 3.7 Describe guidance, discipline, and
  punishment.
• 3.7.1 Compare and contrast guidance, discipline,
  and punishment.

Curriculum Frameworks
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• FW 3.8 Designate guidance techniques for
  promoting positive behavior.
• 3.8.1 Determine guidance techniques for
  promoting positive behavior.
• FW 3.9 Name roles parents play in childrens
  education.
• 3.9.1 Explain ways parents can be actively
  involved in their childs education.
• FW 3.10 Name guidelines for establishing a
  strong family unit.
• 3.10.1 Compile a list of guidelines for
  establishing a strong family unit.
• 3.10.2 Compare and contrast strong families
  verses dysfunctional families.

Curriculum Frameworks
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Unit 3 Vocabulary Terms

• Authoritarian a parenting style where parents
  are highly demanding and controlling with little
  or no affection.
• Consistent repeatedly acting the same way.
• Democratic a parenting style in which parents
  allow children some input into rules and limits
  put on their behavior.
• Discipline training that corrects, molds, and
  perfects ones actions.
• Dysfunctional Family family system in which one
  or more family members do not fulfill their
  responsibilities throwing the system out of
  balance.

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Vocabulary Continued

• Guidance help in learning acceptable behavior.
• Negative Reinforcement a response that tend to
  discourage a particular behavior from being
  repeated.
• Nurturing providing love, support, attention,
  and encouragement.
• Permissive a type of behavior allowing freedom,
  behavior that is tolerant of practices
  disapproved of by others.
• Positive Reinforcement a response that
  encourages a particular behavior.

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Vocabulary Continued

• Potential what a person is capable of becoming.
• Punishment a penalty inflected on a child for a
  violation.
• Responsibility an obligation or duty for which a
  person is held accountable.
• Rights special privilege, benefit, or personal
  favor to which one is entitled.
• Self Concept the mental picture people have of
  themselves their opinion about themselves.
• Self Control the ability to control ones
  actions.
• Values ideas about right and wrong and what is
  important in life.

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Rights and Responsibilities of Parents

• Rights

• Responsibilities

• Choose living location
• Name choice
• Religious Affiliation
• Educational Decisions
• Medical Decisions
• My Sisters Keeper

• Meet Basic Needs
• Nurturing
• Protect
• Fulfill childrens intellectual, emotional, and
  social needs.
• Shape moral development and instill values.

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Rights and Responsibilities of Parents

• What are the Human Rights of Children and Youth?
• Human Rights are universal, and civil, political,
  economic, social and cultural rights belong to
  all human beings, including children and young
  people.
• Children and youth also enjoy certain human
  rights specifically linked to their status as
  minors and to their need for special care and
  protection.
• The human rights of children and youth are
  explicitly set out in the Convention on the
  Rights of the Child, the most widely ratified
  human rights treaty in history.

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Rights and Responsibilities of Parents

• The human rights of children and youth include
  the following indivisible, interdependent and
  interrelated human rights
• to an adequate standard of living for a child's
  intellectual, physical, moral, and spiritual
  development, including adequate food, shelter and
  clothing.
• to freedom from discrimination based on age,
  gender, race, color, language, religion,
  nationality, ethnicity, or any other status, or
  on the status of the child's parents.
• to the highest possible standard of health and
  to access to health care.

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Rights and Responsibilities of Parents

• to a healthy and safe environment.
• to education -- to free and compulsory
  elementary education, to readily available forms
  of secondary and higher education, and to freedom
  from all types of discrimination at all levels of
  education.
• to protection from neglect and all types of
  physical or mental abuse

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Rights and Responsibilities of Parents

• Support their children
• Provide basic needs food, clothing shelter
• Provide medical care
• Provide an education
• Supervise and control behavior
• Parents are responsible for a childs accidental
  or intentional injury of others, destruction of
  property, stealing, truancy, curfew violations
• Parents can control as they see fit as long as
  they do not abuse or neglect the child or as
  him/her do something illegal

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Rights and Responsibilities of Children

• Rights

• Responsibilities

• Adequate standard of living.
• Free from discrimination.
• Highest possible standard of health.
• Safe Environment
• Healthy Environment
• Education
• Protection from neglect and abuse.

• Show respect
• Abide by parents rules
• Be trustworthy and honest
• Care for possessions

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What Influences Parenting?

• Your parents parenting techniques.
• Your views on the world.
• Your individual beliefs/values.
• Your personality.
• The experiences that you have in life.

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Personal Influences on Parenting

1. Personality.
2. Feelings about children.
3. Parenting Values.
4. Reaching Goals

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Personal Influences on Parenting

• A parents personality has a strong impact on
  children.
• Personality your special blend of intellectual,
  emotional, and social traits.
• The childs attitude may often mirror the
  parents attitude.
• Both negative and positive traits can be passed
  along from the parent to the child.

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Personal Influences on Parenting

• Certain personality traits in a parent can hurt
  children.
• A bad temper can scare a child.
• A parent who withholds affection may cause the
  child to feel unloved.
• Parents need to examine their own personalities
  and recognize areas for improvements for the
  benefit of the children.

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Personal Influences on Parenting

• As people grow and experience life they gain a
  greater control over how the personality
  develops.
• Even if negative personality traits are present,
  learning to manage them can help the person
  change.
• Improvements can benefit the person and the
  entire family.

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Personal Influences on Parenting

• Feelings About Children
• People who dont like children are not good
  prospects for parents.
• Those who like children have a built-in incentive
  to be good parents.
• Feelings about parenting goes beyond liking and
  disliking.

• Beliefs about children and childhood influence
  the environment you create.
• Your own memories of growing up will help you
  decide on issues.
• Examples opinions about what a child learns,
  when they learn, what behavior is reasonable.

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Personal Influences on Parenting

• Parenting Values
• What is important for good parenting?
• Good Education
• Financial Security
• Time
• Everyones opinion on what makes a good parent
  will differ depending on their values or what
  they think is most important for parenting.

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Personal Influences on Parenting

• Reaching Goals
• Everyone should have a goal in life to keep
  themselves on track.
• Parents should have a goal as well.
• Goal a conscious target that requires planning
  and effort in order to reach.
• Having a parenting goal affects the way you
  parent.
• Having clear goals helps keep parents focused on
  what is important.
• Goals force you to think about where you are
  headed and what steps are needed to get there.

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Outside Influences on Parenting

• The shaping of a parent comes from outside
  sources as well as personal ones.
• All of the experiences that you are having now
  will shape what you will be like as a parent.
• Families and Culture
• Economic Conditions
• Social Policies
• Parental Roles
• Theories

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Outside Influences on Parenting

• Families and Culture
• Everything about the way people live makes up
  their culture.
• Culture shared customs, traditions, and beliefs
  of a large group of people, such as a nation,
  race, or religious group.
• The actions of a parent are deeply rooted in
  cultural experience.
• Examples
• Some cultures restrict the number of children
  born into a family.
• Other cultures encourage people to have as many
  children as they desire.

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Outside Influences on Parenting

• Picture of a traditional Chinese wedding.

• Families and Culture
• Values and beliefs are a part of culture.
• Within a culture, each generation teaches the
  next about educating and guiding children.
• Many customs arise from needs and circumstances.
• Cultural approaches differ from one another, but
  one is not better than the other.

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Outside Influences on Parenting

• Economic Conditions
• Economic conditions affect parenting on 2 levels.
• Individual
• Social
• People have some control over the individual and
  less over the social.
• Raising a child is expensive.
• The lower the income the more difficult it is to
  provide.
• The strain of making financial ends meet can be
  hard on parents.

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Outside Influences on Parenting

• Economic Conditions
• Some parents may have to take on the burden of
  working 2 jobs.
• Less quality family time together.
• 2 employed parents may have trouble getting
  everything done at home.
• No matter what the income level, parents can get
  discouraged about the financial effects on
  raising a child.

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Outside Influences on Parenting

• Economic Conditions
• Money is not the key to happiness.
• Money offers
• Security
• Opportunity
• People who are employed and learn how to manage
  their money are less likely to have financial
  problems.
• Without serious financial worries, parenting is
  easier.
• Experts suggest having savings to cover up to 3
  months of living expenses as a buffer against
  hard financial times.

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Outside Influences on Parenting

• Social Policies
• Protective laws are enacted to insure that
  parents live up to their responsibilities.
• Family-related laws cover areas related to
• Welfare
• Divorce
• Domestic Relations
• Violence
• Child Abuse
• Child Abandonment
• Adoption
• Child Care

• What not to do!

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Parenting Styles

• Parenting styles fall into 3 broad categories.
• Authoritarian
• Democratic
• Permissive
• Most parents combine elements of each style, but
  a parents overall style tends to be one of 3
  types.

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Parenting Styles

• Authoritarian Style based on the idea that
  children should obey their parents without
  question.
• A parent tells a child what to do, the child is
  supposed to do what the parent wishes.
• When rules are broken, the authoritarian parent
  acts quickly and firmly.

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Parenting Styles

• Parents who use the authoritarian style are
  strong leaders.
• To prepare children for adulthood, they believe
  in setting certain standards for behavior, they
  expect their children to meet those standards.
• How children deal with this style
• Children feel secure, knowing their parents are
  in charge.
• They know what behavior is and is not allowed.
• Children may meet with limited failure and
  disappointment.

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Parenting Styles

• Democratic Style a parenting style in which
  parents allow children some input into rules and
  limits put on their behavior.
• Children are give a certain amount of
  independence and freedom of choice within those
  rules.

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Parenting Styles

• Democratic parents try to look at individual
  circumstances when making decisions.
• Children are gradually allowed to make their own
  decisions, with parents giving as much input as
  needed.
• How children deal with this style
• Children move easily toward independence.
• They learn through practice to make wiser
  decisions and gain confidence.

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Parenting Styles

• Permissive Style a parenting style in which
  parents give children a wide range of freedom,
  with children being able to set their own rules.

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Parenting Styles

• Parents who use this style set fewer rules but
  make their expectations known.
• They impose fewer penalties for actions, and
  often let children experience the consequences of
  their choices.
• How children deal with this style
• Children tend to develop and rely on their own
  abilities.
• They solve problems creatively for themselves and
  learn lessons from experience.

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Making Parenting Styles Work

• Certain principles can help parents make
  parenting styles work
• Choose a style that feels right for you.
• Parents are more effective doing what makes them
  feel most comfortable.
• Consider the childs personality.
• Use each style in moderation
• Identify areas where 2 parents styles conflict.
• If parents have different styles, they still need
  areas of agreement. If parents react differently
  to the same situation this will confuse the
  child.

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Blending Parenting Styles

• By blending styles, parents adapt their actions
  to the situation.
• When dealing with children of different ages or
  personalities, parents may need to change styles.
• Parents may use different styles with the same
  child.

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Consistency in Parenting

• Blending parenting styles is a useful technique,
  as long as a parent doesnt change styles
  suddenly and without thinking.
• Children need to know what to expect from
  parents.
• Otherwise, children may feel uncertain about what
  may happen.
• They may lose confidence in the parent.
• They may lose respect for the parent.
• Children may learn to take advantage of
  situations.

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Forming a Philosophy

• If you dont know where youre going, you might
  wind up someplace else.
• As your ideas about parenting come together you
  will form a parenting philosophy.
• Parenting philosophies guide parents.
• Being true to these beliefs and values will help
  parents guide their children to where they want
  them to be in life.

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Your Philosophy

• Write your own philosophy of parenting.
• This should be about 1 page in length.
• A Style for You
• Which parenting style do you think you would use?
  
• Give reasons why you think this approach would be
  most effective for you, your spouse, and your
  children.

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Parents as Positive Role Models

• Traits
• honesty
• trustworthiness
• fairness
• loyalty
• patience
• high self esteem (the sense of worth a person
  attaches to oneself)
• positive self concept (the sense of worth a
  person attaches to oneself)
• Importance
• Childs first teacher
• Children imitate behavior
• Imitation Learning

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Nurturing Children

• Show love and affection
• Provide limits
• Encourage further development
• Physical
• Mental
• Emotional
• self respect (the ability to hold oneself in high
  esteem)
• Social
• Practice diplomacy (using tact and skill when
  dealing with others)
• Be consistent (repeatedly acting the same way)

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Guidance, Discipline, and Punishment

• Guidance is help in learning acceptable behavior.
  
• Discipline is training that corrects, molds, and
  perfects ones actions.
• Punishment is a penalty inflicted on a child for
  a violation.

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Promoting Positive Behavior through Guidance

• Negative Reinforcement (a response that tends to
  discourage a particular behavior from being
  repeated)
• Positive Reinforcement (a response that
  encourages a particular behavior)
• Self Control (the ability to control one's
  actions)

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Parents Roles in Kids Education

• Children are greatly influenced by their parents
  attitude about education. Children model their
  views after their parents.
• Roles (a way of acting to fulfill certain
  responsibilities in life, most often taught by
  
• family members)
• Encourage and support the children without
  pushing them.
• Interact with the children as they play and do
  school work.
• Seize teachable moments and expand on the childs
  natural curiosity.
• Encourage children to work to their full
  potential (what a person is capable of
  becoming).
• Help them adjust to school and its routine.
• Provide a good environment to do schoolwork.
• Parents should be involved in the school.

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Parents Roles in Kids Education

• Use teachable moments
• Encourage
• Be your childs biggest cheerleader!!!
• Create a homework friendly environment
• Interact with childrens teachers
• Know what is going on at school

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Establish a STRONG Family Unit

• Families must provide for the physical needs of
  all family members.
• food, clothing, shelter, health, safety
• 2. Families must meet the emotional needs of all
  family members.
• love, acceptance, support
• 3. Families should avoid self destructive
  behavior
• (self-imposed activities that can cause
  physical, mental, or emotional harm)
• drug and alcohol use and abuse
• 4. Families must provide guidance.
• discipline, reasonable limits, consistency
• 5. Families must nurture (providing love,
  support, attention, and encouragement) the growth
  of all family members.
• mental, physical, emotional, social

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Establish a STRONG Family Unit

• Show Affection
• Spend QUALITY time together
• Use effective communication techniques
• Family Traditions
• Family Values
• Family Rituals
• Build and Earn Trust
• Show Respect