Preoccupied for Attachment Style

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Attachment style intimate relationship
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Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment Style

• Desperate to form a fantasy bond.
• Instead of feeling real love or trust toward
  their partner, they often feel emotional hunger.
• Frequently looking to their partner to rescue or
  complete them.
• Although theyre seeking a sense of safety and
  security by clinging to their partner, they take
  actions that push their partner away.

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Anxious /Ambivalent Attachment Style

• Anxious because they can never predict when and
  how their care givers will respond to their needs
• These children display considerable distress when
  separated from a parent or caregiver
• but do not seem reassured or comforted by the
  return of the parent.
• May be wary of strangers
• Become greatly distressed when parents leave
• Do not appear comforted when parents return

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How Attachment Style Impacts Relationship?

• Ainsworths Attachment Theory

• As adults those with Ambivalent Attachment Style
  often -
• Worry that their partner does not love them
• Worry that their partner does not reciprocate
  their feelings.
• Seek closeness to others
• But, experience mixed, conflicting feelings even
  when they are in loving relationship.
• Clingy and over-dependent.

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How Attachment Style Impacts Relationship?

• Bartholomews Attachment Styles

• Those with Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment Styles
• Inclined to feel more nervous and less secure
  about relationships in general, and romantic
  relationships in particular
• Concerned with what others feel about them.
• Dependent on others for feelings of validation
  and approval
• Want excessive intimacy and are often overly
  involved and clingy when it comes to relationship
• When they feel unsure of their partners feelings
  and unsafe in their relationship, they often
  become clingy, demanding or possessive toward
  their partner.