How Knowing Your Attachment Style Can Help You

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How Knowing Your Attachment Style Can Help You
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• Adult attachment styles often develop during
  childhood and carry on into adulthood. They
  influence the way to look at and behave in
  relationships with others. There are four main
  attachment styles in adultssecure,
  anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and
  fearful-avoidant.

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• Adults with secure attachment styles typically
  have a strong sense of self and desire to be
  close to others. Their lives are balanced, since
  they are happy with themselves and their
  relationships with others. Those who are
  anxious-preoccupied are often very self-critical
  and insecure, and seek validation from other
  people. Theyre afraid that others will reject
  them and have a hard time trusting. People with
  dismissive-avoidant attachment styles tend to be
  loners and regard relationships as unimportant.
  They tend to avoid conflict and respond to stress
  by withdrawing. The fearful-avoidant attachment
  style leads people to detach themselves from
  their feelings when theyre stressed or
  traumatized. They dont have a clear sense of
  self.

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• These attachment styles all influence the way a
  person behaves in a relationship. People who are
  secure manage to have fairly balanced
  relationships, since they are comfortable with
  themselves and with others. Those with a
  preoccupied style are usually afraid of rejection
  and act clingy and desperate in relationships.
  Dismissive-avoidant people tend to not form
  relationships at all. Fearful-avoidant people
  desire close relationships, but often panic when
  the relationship deepens and requires them to be
  emotionally vulnerable.

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• Thankfully, it is possible to change your
  attachment style and work toward becoming secure.
  Because attachment styles often stem from
  childhood experiences, you can work with a
  counselor to figure out your story and identify
  influential moments in your past. Understanding
  your narrative and where your attachment style
  comes from can help you repair what needs to be
  fixed.

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