Experts Advice on Parental Discipline

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Experts Advice on Parental Discipline

• Bridges to the Baccalaureate
• By Renee LaPlant

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Introduction

• In my study I am searching for the answers to
  the questions most parents
• have, what do the experts say are the best and
  worst ways for parents to
• discipline their children? Parenting is one of
  the most difficult jobs that
• anyone can have, but the experts have some great
  advice on what to do and
• what not to do in certain situations with
  everyday problems and situations.
• In my study I have compiled what the experts say
  are the best and worst ways
• to discipline children, because of this I have
  seen the best ways to verbally
• discipline children without damaging them
  mentally or physically. I have
• also studied some very severe cases of abuse and
  neglect, but my main focus
• will be on the best ways to discipline your
  children.

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Methods and Materials

• The main instrument used in compiling this
  information was the Maternal Discipline
  Techniques Self Report Instrument Typical
  Child Behavior Problems. It is a series of 42
  questions given to parents who are being observed
  to determine if their parental rights should be
  given back to them. The parents are required to
  respond to the question a total of three times in
  order to receive the most accurate answer. In
  order to understand these 42 questions, I also
  completed the Typical Child Behavior Problems
  packet.
• I have also studied an interview with a
  dysfunctional family titled The Trouble With
  Adam. The main focus of this film was on 11
  year old Adam who was physically and mentally
  abused by his mother and step-father. I used
  this information to gain knowledge on the effects
  of abuse on the entire family in general.
• I have also read a series of books that have
  helped me to determine what the best ways are to
  raise and discipline a child of any background.
• I have also helped create and compile new
  questions to add to the Typical Child Behavior
  Problems Questions.
• My mentor Paul Silverman was also a big help in
  this project.

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Examples of Typical Child Behavior Problems
Questions

• 1. misbehavior Your child is potty-training,
  but continuously pees on
• the carpet and walls.
• First method What would you do?
• Second method What do you do if s/he does it
  again?
• Third method What if it happens again?
• 2. fears/victim You find out that your child
  has been bullied or
• beaten up after school.
• First Method What would you do?
• Second Method What if it happened again?
• Third Method What if this happens constantly
• 3. Your 3 year old is taking a bath, you hear
  him/her start crying
• when you go into the bathroom you see that s/he
  was standing up and
• then fell.
• First Method What would you do?
• Second Method What if it happened again?
• Third Method What if your child didn't listen
  and always stood up in the tub?

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Abstract

• I am searching for what the experts say are the
  best and worse ways to discipline children. I
  look at parenting as a learning experience for
  both the parents and children, but I also see
  parents as the main teachers in a childs life.
  This information was compiled mainly for the
  benefit of the parents. All of the information
  that was used in this study came from previous
  work completed by many authors and psychologists.
  I have used books, films, and questionnaires to
  complete my study. In the final stages of the
  study I found out that communication and
  preparation are the main things to focus on while
  parenting children.

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Results What the experts say are the best
ways to discipline your child.

• Develop coping patterns for your children and
  yourself.
• Parenting classes are a good start for anyone
  even considering becoming a parent.
• Planning will help the parent to decide if they
  need to make any changes to the childs
  environment in order to have a successful
  confrontation.
• Work with your children, you cant have a
  relationship with your children all by yourself,
  get cooperation from your children.
• Listen to what your children have to say,
  communication may prevent misunderstandings which
  can lead to an even bigger fight.
• If you want cooperation, be cooperative, if you
  want respect, be respectful.
• Make sure your rules are clear.

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Results What the Experts say are the Worst ways
to Discipline your child

• Ignoring Misbehavior
• Physically force to do a task
• Humiliate child
• Reject child
• Soap in Mouth
• Restrain
• Threaten with physical harm or punishment or
  throw away or destroy toy

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Discussions

• In this study I have found out that the best
  parenting methods
• are preparation and communication. Parenting
  classes will help anyone
• who is considering becoming a parent, and they
  will help families work
• through problematic times and situations. I also
  found out that
• most of the discipline tactics that have been
  used on people for a
• very long time now, are the worst ways to
  discipline children. Some of
• the points on What the Experts say are the Best
  Ways to Discipline
• your Child were taken from a book based on
  raising spirited
• children, I feel that all children are different,
  and because of this
• they should all receive the attention and
  nurturing that spirited
• children receive.

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References

• Raising Your Spirited Child (1992). Mary S.
  Kercinka. NY Harper-Collins.
• Parenting Teenagers (1990). D. Dinkmeyer and G.D.
  McKay. Circle Pines, MN American Guidance
  Service
• Toddlers and Parents Dell Publishing Co., Inc 1
  Dag Hammarskjold Plaza new York, New York 10017
  1974.
• Family Evaluation in Child Custody Litigation,
  Kreskill New Jersey.
• Creative Therapy, Gardner R.A. 1982
• Dr. Paul Silverman, Missoula Mt, The University
  of Montana, 2004