Marriage Is Honorable

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Marriage Is Honorable

• (Hebrews 134)

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Even those who look no further than the temporal
happiness of individuals and the welfare of
existing society, are not insensible to the great
importance of our domestic relations, which the
strongest affections of nature secure, and which
even our wants and weaknesses cement. We can form
no conception of social virtue or felicity, yea,
no conception of human society itself, which has
not its foundation in the family. No matter how
excellent the constitution and laws of a country
may be, or how vast its resources and prosperity,
there is no sure basis for social order, or
public as well as private virtue, until it be
laid in the wise regulation of its families.
After all, a nation is but the aggregate of its
families, and unless there be good husbands and
wives, fathers and mothers, sons and daughters,
there cannot possibly be good citizens. Therefore
the present decay of home life and family
discipline threaten the stability of our nation
today far more severely than does any foreign
hostility (Arthur W. Pink, An Exposition of
Hebrews)
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Marriage Is Honorable

• (Hebrews 134)

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That Which is Honorable in Scripture

• Gods work (Ps. 1113)
• for a man to stop quarreling (Prov. 203)
• should show that quarreling is dishonorable in
  marriage!
• the law (Is. 4221)
• the Christians conduct (1 Pet. 212)
• marriage (Heb. 134)
• Greek word translated precious (1 Cor. 312
  Jas. 57 1 Pet. 17, 19 2 Pet. 14 Rev. 174
  1812 etc.)

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Marriage Honored by Christ

• by miracle
• the first sign was at the wedding in Cana (Jn.
  21-11)
• by parable
• kingdom of heaven is likened to (Matt. 222ff)
• in selecting the church to be His wife
• Ephesians 531, 32

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Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed
undefiled but fornicators and adulterers God
will judge (Heb. 134, NKJV)

• marriage is honorable among all
• this doesnt grant people to marry, divorce,
  remarry, divorce, remarry, divorce, etc. (Matt.
  199)
• rather, God gave marriage to man for his benefit
• It is not good that man should be alone (Gen.
  218)
• Two are better than one (Eccl. 49)
• Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let
  each man have his own wife, and let each woman
  have her own husband (1 Cor. 72)

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1 Timothy 215

• Nevertheless she will be saved in childbearing
  if they continue in faith, love, and holiness,
  with selfcontrol
• God assigned the woman the place of child-bearing
  and home duties (cf. 1 Tim. 211-14)
• womankind shall be saved in bearing her part of
  the primeval curse . . . In pain you shall bring
  forth children. . . (Gen. 316)
• as man In the sweat of your face you shall eat
  bread. . . (Gen. 319 1 Tim. 58 2 Thess.
  310)
• if continue in faith, love, holiness and
  self-control

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Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed
undefiled but fornicators and adulterers God
will judge (Heb. 134, NKJV)

• the marriage bed is not defiled
• the fornicators bed is defiled and will be
  judged
• the adulterers bed is defiled and will be judged
• IT DOES MATTER WHETHER YOU ARE MARRIED OR NOT!

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3 GENERAL PURPOSES FOR MARRIAGE

• propagation of GODLY children
• thus God created male and female (Gen. 127)
• Then God blessed them, and God said to them, Be
  fruitful and multiply. . . (Gen. 128)
• But did He not make them one, Having a remnant
  of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly
  offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit,
  And let none deal treacherously with the wife of
  his youth (Mal. 215, NKJV)
• Proverbs 226

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3 GENERAL PURPOSES FOR MARRIAGE

• remedy against fornication
• But because of the temptation to sexual
  immorality, each man should have his own wife and
  each woman her own husband (1 Cor. 72, ESV)
• fornicators and adulterers can bear children,
  BUT, it violates Gods moral code!
• IT DOES MATTER WHETHER YOU ARE MARRIED OR NOT!
• remedy against the challenges of loneliness
• Genesis 218

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Marry Who?

• Not a close relative
• None of you shall approach anyone who is near of
  kin to him, to uncover his nakedness I am the
  LORD (Lev. 186)
• Why marry a non-Christian?
• Can you give me reasons why you should marry a
  non-Christian?
• Consider. . .

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Two Kinds of People to Marry in this Life

• child of God
• children of promise

• child of Satan
• children of wrath

In this the children of God and the children of
the devil are manifest Whoever does not practice
righteousness is not of God, nor is he who does
not love his brother (1 Jn. 310, NKJV)
Now we. . .are children of promise (Gal. 428,
NKJV)
. . . and were by nature children of wrath. . .
(Eph. 23, NKJV)
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Two Kinds of People to Marry in this Life

• sons of God
• sons of light

• sons of the wicked one
• sons of darkness

The field is the world, the good seeds are the
sons of the kingdom, but the tares are the sons
of the wicked one (Matt. 1338)
You are all sons of light and sons of the day.
We are not of the night nor of darkness (1
Thess. 55)
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Two Kinds of People to Marry in this Life

• obedient children

• sons of disobedience

as obedient children, not conforming yourselves
to the former lusts, as in your ignorance (1
Pet. 114, NKJV)
Let no one deceive you with empty words, for
because of these things the wrath of God comes
upon the sons of disobedience (Eph. 56, NKJV)
Who Do You Want Raising And Disciplining Your
Children?
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Ask

• Will this person help or hinder me from going to
  heaven?
• Will he/she be willing to trod the narrow road
• Will this person help lead my children to Christ?
• Will this person patiently love me when I am not
  so lovable?
• Will this man be willing to provide for a family?
• Will this woman be willing to make the home a
  home?
• Why does this person love me?

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Do You Expect A Perfect Marriage?

• one where your husband brings flowers everyday?
• one where your wife is always nicely dressed and
  sweet?
• one where disagreements are absent?
• one where lifes weight cannot strain it fabric?
• one where children always obey?
• one where sickness is nonexistent?
• one where no temptations enter?
• IT DOESNT EXIST!

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One Can Marry A Person

• who has a good reputation/name (Prov. 221)
• who has wisdom flow from her mouth (Prov. 3126)
• whose beauty radiates (Gen. 1211 267)
• AND STILL BE TRIED AND TROUBLED!
• WE LIVE IN A SIN-CURSED WORLD!
• SIN HAS A WAY OF CORRUPTING EVEN GOOD THINGS!
• THE ROSE STILL SMELLS SWEET BUT HAS THORNS
• DONT DREAM OF A FAULTLESS PERSON. . .SEEK A
  FORGIVEN AND FORGIVING ONE. . . SEEK A FORGIVEN
  COMMITTED CHRISTIAN

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Some Final Considerations

• let the attitude and actions in your marriage be
  done in love
• holy, sacrificial and enduring
• as Jesus to the church, Husbands, love your
  wives, just as Christ also loved the church and
  gave Himself for her (Eph. 525)

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Some Final Considerations

• honor the wife
• Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with
  understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to
  the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of
  the grace of life, that your prayers may not be
  hindered (1 Pet. 37)
• dont place the concerns of others before the
  concerns of your wife
• dont run her down
• raise her up in your speech and conduct

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Some Final Considerations

• the husband as head
• For the husband is head of the wife, as also
  Christ is head of the church. . . (Eph. 523,
  NKJV)
• But I want you to know that the head of every
  man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the
  head of Christis God (1 Cor. 113, NKJV)
• God has committed the rule/gov. to the husband
• the family suffers when the husband is not the
  head as Christ is
• the family suffers when the husband is rarely
  around to rule the house

• he is over the familys education
• he is over the familys finances
• he is over the familys place of residence
• the woman is to be a helper in these things,
  not the ruler

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Husband/Headship

• Prepare your outside work, Make it fit for
  yourself in the field And afterward build your
  house (Prov. 2427, NKJV)
• first prepare your outside work. . .make sure you
  can support a family
• then build your house!

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Some Final Considerations

• subject to the husbands rule
• Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the
  Lord (Eph. 522, NKJV)
• a woman should submit to her husband
  fundamentally because of her respect for Christ
• cannot submit when husband forbids what Jesus
  commands or commands what Jesus forbids

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Some Final Considerations

• subject to the husbands rule
• when the wife resists her husband she teaches her
  children to defy their parents/government/God!
• do not challenge/contradict/undermine the
  fathers discipline/rule (especially before the
  children)
• For in this manner, in former times, the holy
  women who trusted in God also adorned themselves,
  being submissive to their own husbands as Sarah
  obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. . . (1 Pet.
  35, 6, NKJV)

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Marriage is Honorable

• ENTER IT HONORABLY
• ABIDE IN IT HONORABLY