The Rope of Life Model

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The Rope of Life Model

• Objective
• To illustrate how things we learn as a child
  affect our adult life and our decision
  making
• To illustrate what occurs when the
  emotional subconscious takes control

Developed by
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Rope of Life Model
The outer Blue strands are the Conscious,
Rational, Adult mind
ADULT
This is where the Emotional mind takes control as
an Adult

• The White inside strands are the Emotional
  mind and each strand is an Emotion,
• Early Life Decision, or Habit

BORN
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When We Are First Born

1. We have only an Emotional mind
2. It takes about six weeks to two months before the
   Conscious mind begins to reason
3. As the Conscious (Adult) mind develops, the
   Emotional mind becomes part of the also
   developing Subconscious
4. The Conscious mind bases all decisions on
   rational learned information that it can remember
5. The Subconscious mind bases all its decisions on
   emotion, habit and Early Life Decisions (ELDs)

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Early Life Decisions
Make each of us what we are today
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Early Life Decisionsare

• 1. made mainly between the ages of one and three
• 2. the Childs attempts to make sense of the
  Adult world
• 3. based on emotion and not rational thinking
• 4. part of our Adult Subconscious
• 5. part of all our decision making
• 6. sometimes like a filter to reality
• 7. what makes each one of us different
• 8. difficult but not impossible to change

9. strong influencers of our Adult behaviour
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Early Life Decisions
Provide each of us with a map of life as we
see it Provides each of us with our values Are
the basis for our attitude Makes each of us what
we are today
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Whos Takes Control?
Conscious or Subconscious?
Rational or Emotional?
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E.L.D. for Road Rage?
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Rational versus Emotional
Is a part of all decision making.
Is a part of all decision making.
Controls your emotions, happiness ability to
enjoy life

• Controls your reasoning

Born with a finite amount
Born with a full range of emotions
Can improve only within a very limited range
Can be increased, massaged or squelched - limited
only by one's wiliness to apply
Environment has a great influence on it
Environment has little influence on it
Is developed mainly by learning
Is developed mainly by experiences
Very difficult to measure
Measurable
Will help determine what you do in life
Will determine how well you do in life
Can do everything with it if willing to make
the effort
Can do little about it
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AlwaysKnow Who is Making The Decision