Dysfunctional Relationships

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Dysfunctional Relationships

• What are some causes of dysfunctional
  relationships?

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Causes of Dysfunctional Families

• Chemical Dependence
• Other Addictions
• Emotional Abuse
• Perfectionism
• Violence

• Physical Abuse
• Neglect
• Sexual Abuse
• Abandonment
• Mental Disorders

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Chemical Dependence/Other Addictions

• Family life is neglected
• Teens may follow in the footsteps of parents
• Teens addictions may cause family problems
• All energy is focused on the addiction

4
Perfectionism

• Feeling inadequate
• Overcritical of oneself
• Destructive harmful behavior

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Violence in the Family

• Physical Force to injure damage or destroy
  oneself, others or property
• Domestic violence sexual, physical emotional
  abuse
• Violent family members are usually controlling
• An ongoing cycle

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Abandonment

• When a person chooses to give up or refuses
  responsibility for those in his/her care
• Physical or emotional abandonment
• Children who have been abandoned feel unlovable,
  worthless and guilty
• Teens who have been abandoned are more likely to
  act tough defy authority figures, refuse to
  follow school rules and have negative attitudes

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4 Kinds of Abuse

• Teens may have to deal with the following types
  of abuse in their families

• Physical violent treatment that results in
  physical injury
• Sexual sexual contact that is forced on a
  person by physical force or manipulation

• Emotional verbal put downs, making someone feel
  worthless, withholding affection in order to
  cause pain
• Neglect failure to provide care or guidance

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The Tree of Codependence
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Codependent Relationships

• Codependent people have difficulties with
  intimacy
• Intimacy a deep meaningful kind of caring
  between two people
• Enmeshment a condition in which a person becomes
  obsessed with the needs of another person and no
  longer can recognize his or her own needs.
• Interdependence a condition in which two people
  depend upon each other, yet each has a separate
  identity

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Enmeshment or Interdependence

• Read the following scenarios and decide whether
  it is describing interdependence or enmeshment
• Carlos I cant go out with you on Friday because
  my parents are having friends over and they want
  me there. Can we go to a movie on Sunday
  instead?
• Caitlin Sure, Ill work on my report on Friday
• Interdependence

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Enmeshment or Interdependence

• Eddie I cant help you with your French homework
  tonight because I have a big project due
  tomorrow.
• Jenna But you promised to help me every day!
• Eddie Ok, maybe I can just stay up later to work
  on my project
• Enmeshment

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Complete the following

• Abandonment
• Affection
• Alateen
• Dysfunctional family
• Enmeshment
• Family
• Family relationships
• Healthful family
• Interdependence
• Recovery program
• Value
• Work ethic

1. __ is a tender feeling a person has towards
   another
2. A(n) __ is the basic unit of society.
3. __ is a relationship in which two people depend
   upon one another, yet each has a separate
   identity
4. A(n) __ is an attitude of discipline, motivation,
   and commitment towards tasks.
5. A(n) __ is a family that promotes loving,
   responsible relationships.
6. __ is refusing responsibility for those in your
   care
7. A(n) __ is a group that supports people who want
   to change their behavior
8. A(n) __ is a family that doesnt promote loving,
   responsible relationships.
9. ___ is a recovery program for teens with a family
   member who has an addiction
10. __ is a condition in which a person is obsessed
    with the needs of others.