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Title: Friendship and Love Relationships


1
CHAPTER 8
  • Friendship and Love Relationships

2
Attraction
  • Familiarity and attraction
  • Familiarity is necessary for a close relationship
    to develop (according to social psychologists).
  • For the most part, friends and lovers are people
    who have been around each other for a long time.
  • Similarity and attraction
  • Opposites may attract in some cases, but our
    friends and lovers are much more like us than
    unlike us.
  • Consensual validationour attitudes/behaviors are
    validated when someone elses attitudes/behaviors
    are similar to ours

3
Attraction (cont.)
  • Physical attractiveness
  • Men prefer good looks more than do women.
  • Women rate considerateness, honesty,
    dependability, kindness, and understanding as
    most important.
  • Men prefer good looks, cooking skills, and
    frugality (cost-conscious/thrifty)
  • Matching hypothesiswe end up choosing someone
    who is close to our own level of attractiveness
  • Gender-based tactics (Buss, 1988)
  • Men used tactics that involved resource
    possession (cars, money) and display (strength in
    athleticism).
  • Women use tactics that altered their appearance
    (make-up, stylish clothes, jewelry).
  • Personality traits and attraction
  • Positive traits that attractsincere, honest,
    understanding, loyal, truthful, trustworthy,
    intelligent, dependable
  • Negative traitsmean, obnoxious, insulting,
    greedy, conceited, rude, thoughtless

4
Friendships
  • Close relationships that involve intimacy, trust,
    acceptance, mutual liking, and understanding
  • Benefits of friendships
  • Reduces loneliness can be a source of
    self-esteem provides emotional support
  • Friendships and gender
  • Women have more close friendships, and their
    friendships involve more self-disclosure and
    exchange of mutual support.
  • Female friends like to talk male friends engage
    in activities (e.g., outdoor activities)
  • Male friendships are more competitive than female
    friendships (men disagree more).
  • Can men and women be friends?

5
Love
  • Liking (sense that someone else is similar to us)
    vs. loving (being close to someone)Rubin, 1970
  • Types of love
  • Romantic (passionate)sexuality and infatuation
  • Im in love.
  • Affectionate (companionate)desire to be near
    deep, caring affection
  • Consummate (passion, intimacy, commitment)the
    strongest, fullest type of loveSternberg, 1988

6
Attachment and Romantic Relationships
  • Three forms of attachment identified by
    Ainsworth
  • Securetrust is formed between caregiver and
    infant
  • Avoidantinfants suppress desire to be close to
    caregiver
  • Ambivalentinfants may cling anxiously to
    caregiver and then fight against the closeness by
    pushing away
  • Attachment styles during infancy/childhood appear
    to be linked to attachment styles during
    adulthood.

7
Gender and Love
  • Men
  • conceptualize love in terms of passion
  • refrain from disclosing as much as women
  • in marriages, have more trouble understanding
    what wives want from them
  • Women
  • think of love more in terms of friendship
  • rate affection as more important than do men
  • disclose more
  • more spontaneous in expressing positive emotions
  • wives more likely to initiate divorce

8
Falling Out of Love
  • Can be painful and highly emotional
  • May be wise if
  • You are obsessed with a person who repeatedly
    betrays your trust
  • Youre being drained emotionally and/or
    financially
  • Your feelings arent being returned
  • Can lead to depression, obsessive thoughts,
    sexual dysfunction, inability to work
    effectively, difficulty in making new friends,
    self-condemnation

9
The Dark Side of Close Relationships
  • Anger
  • Anger justifies itself pattern
  • Passivity and outburst pattern
  • Catharsis-perceived injustice pattern
  • Jealousyfear of perceived possibility of losing
    someones exclusive love there is a challenge to
    a special relationship, or we think there is
  • Men are more concerned about sexual infidelity
    women are more concerned about emotional
    infidelity

10
The Dark Side of Close Relationships
  • Spouse/partner abuse
  • Myths about domestic violence
  • Batterers are just being men and they cannot
    control their violence, which is biologically
    caused.
  • Battering behavior is a mans response to
    provocation by the woman.
  • The man only uses violence because he is drunk or
    high on drugs.
  • Battered women stay in battering relationships,
    so therefore they must be masochistic or like
    being beaten up.
  • Dependency
  • Some individuals never develop enough
    responsibility and depend excessively on others,
    especially partners in close relationships.
  • Loneliness
  • People have a basic human desire to seek the
    company of others.Chronic loneliness can be
    linked with impaired physical and mental health.
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