Boys Are from Mars, Girls Are From Venus

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Boys Are from Mars, Girls Are From Venus

• Sue Bohlin
• Probe Ministries
• sue_at_probe.org
• Suebohlin.com

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Not All Kids Are the Same
Active,athletic
Sensitive, creative
Tomboy, jockette
Girly-girl
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Boys Girls

• Sense of self relationships
• Relationally-oriented
• Connected to others
• Ask for help compliment

• Sense of self achievement
• Have to have something to do
• Self-reliant
• Ask for help weakness

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Boys Girls

• Cooperative

• Competitive

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Boys Girls

• Analytical

• Intuitive

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Boys Girls

• Multi-taskers juggle many little things at once
• Connected (like a ball of yarn)

• Linear focus on one thing at a time
• Compartmentalized (like a chest of drawers)

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Boys Girls

• Action-oriented
• Hostility physical

• Verbal
• Hostility verbal

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Boys Girls

• Need a goal

• Enjoy the process

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Boys Girls

• Bond shoulder to shoulder

• Bond face to face

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Girls

• Empathy nurturers
• Relating to and understanding others feelings
• Compassion
• Softness
• Tenderness
• Comfort

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Boys

• Aggression nurturers
• Physically aggressive touch and words
• Challenging
• Competition
• Youre OK, get up

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Boys Girls

• Show stress by increased aggressiveness
• Often need help putting words around their
  stressful feelings

• Show stress by increased passivity
• Handle stress better by verbalizing it

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Boys Girls

• Primarily needs cherishing
• Tender care, understanding, respect, devotion,
  validation, reassurance
• Needs to be protected.

• Primarily needs respect
• Trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration,
  approval, encouragement
• Needs to be needed.