Building Strong Families

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Building Strong Families
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What is the definition of FAMILY?

• 2 or more adults related by blood, marriage, or
  affiliation who cooperate economically, share a
  common dwelling place and rear children

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Family Structure

• Nuclear Mother, Father, Child
• Single Parent Mother or Father and child
• Blended Single parent marries another person
  who may or may not have children
• Extended Parent or parents, one child at least
  and relatives

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Building Strong Families

• Forming traditions
• Handling family conflict
• Feel accepted
• Adults and children learn and grow
• Sense of belonging
• Emotional support
• Security
• Spend time together
• Share responsibilities
• Work to resolve differences
• They listen to each other
• Share goals and values and show appreciation

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Family Placement Activity

• Students who are
• The oldest child go to the 1 corner.
• The youngest child go to the 2 corner.
• The middle child go to the 3 corner.
• The only child go to the 4 corner.
• What is great about your placement?
• What is not so great?

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Birth Order

• The order in which children are born into a
  family influences the development of the
  children.
• Oldest children bear the burden of the parents
  heaviest expectations and also of the parents
  inexperience in raising children.
• Second or third children are generally treated in
  a more relaxed way by the parents.
• Youngest children often have a more difficult
  time in making the transition to adulthood.

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Oldest Child

• Usually set up as an example to the other
  children.
• Treated more like an adult by his/her parents.
• A high achiever.
• Given and accepts more responsibility than the
  other children.
• Usually college-bound.
• Independent.
• Affectionate.

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Middle Child

• May work extra-hard to get recognition.
• Is usually a peacemaker.
• Is somewhat average in schoolwork, but is an
  all-around good student.
• Is usually a calm, even-tempered adult.

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Youngest Child

• Gets a lot of attention, along with a lot of
  bossing.
• May be spoiled.
• Usually matures quickly.
• May be undisciplined and irresponsible.
• Is easy-going about school.
• Likes to associate with someone who takes charge
  of situations.

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Parenting Styles

• AUTHORITARIAN (limits without Freedom)
• Parents word is law, parents have absolute
  control.
• Children are told what to do, how to do it,and
  where to do it, and when to do it.
• PERMISSIVE (Freedom without limits)
• Parents allow their children to do their own
  thing.
• Non-controlling, non-demanding
• Children walk all over their parents
• DEMOCRATIC (Freedom within limits)
• freedom along with rights of others and
  responsibilities of all
• Parents set limits and enforce rules.
• They are willing to listen receptively to
  childs requests and questions.
• Parents are loving, consistent, and demanding.

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Guiding Behavior..

• Be sure you have their attention
• Be polite
• Use positive statements
• Use words they can understand
• Begin with action verb
• Give limited directions at a time
• Be clear
• Give praise and love
• Be a good role model
• Set limits
• Positive reinforcement

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Punishment

• Must be appropriate and effective
• Role of warnings
• Negative reinforcement
• Natural consequences
• Logical consequences
• Loss of privileges
• Time out

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What doesnt work?

• Bribing
• Promising to behave
• Shouting / Yelling
• Shaming / Belittling
• Threatening to withhold love
• Exaggerating the consequences

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Consistency

• Consistent guidance is key
• Develops confidence, trust and expectations