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Title: Love and Communication in Intimate Relationships


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Love and Communication in Intimate Relationships
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What is Love?
  • Difficult to define
  • Special attitude with behavioral and emotional
    components
  • Different things to different people
  • Difficult to measure

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Rubins Love Scale
  • 13-item questionnaire
  • 3 components of love
  • Attachment
  • Caring
  • Intimacy

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Types of Love Passionate Love
  • Passionate Love
  • Also known as romantic love or infatuation
  • Intense psychological feelings
  • Generalized physiological arousal
  • Strong sexual desire
  • Avoid conflict
  • Feelings of completeness
  • Short-lived

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Types of Love Companionate Love
  • Companionate Love
  • Less intense than passionate love
  • Friendly affection deep attachment
  • Familiarity tolerance for short-comings
  • More enduring than passionate love

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Sternbergs Triangular Theory
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Sternbergs Triangular Theory
  • Passion, Intimacy, Commitment are the three
    love components
  • Passion builds then fades
  • Intimacy Commitment continue to build
  • Variations in components yield different kinds of
    love
  • Intimacy alone friendship
  • Passion alone infatuation
  • Commitment alone empty love

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Lees Styles of Loving
  • Romantic (eros)
  • Game-playing (ludus)
  • Possessive (mania)
  • Compassionate (storge)
  • Altruistic (agape)
  • Pragmatic (pragma)

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Lees Styles of Loving
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Falling in Love
  • The chemistry of love
  • Neurotransmitters
  • Norepinephrine
  • Dopamine
  • Phenylethylamine (PEA)
  • Oxytocin
  • Endorphins
  • Loss of romantic love and neurotransmitter
    withdrawal

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Falling in Love Proximity
  • Proximity
  • Mere exposure effect
  • Familiarity breeds predictability which leads to
    greater comfort
  • Greater proximity often reflects shared interests

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Falling in Love Similarity
  • Similarity
  • Level of physical attractiveness
  • Age, educational status, and religion
  • Race and ethnicity
  • Why Similarity?
  • Share similar interests activities
  • Communicate better
  • Confirm own views experiences
  • Supportive of values beliefs

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Role of Similarity in Relationships
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Role of Similarity in Relationships
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Falling in Love Reciprocity
  • Reciprocity
  • When someone shows they like us, we tend to like
    them back
  • Increases in self-esteem
  • Increases likelihood of relationship enduring

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Falling in Love Physical Attractiveness
  • Physical Attractiveness
  • Belief that Whats beautiful is good
  • Status by association
  • Most important in early stages
  • May be an indicator of physical health
  • Heterosexual males place greater emphasis on
    physical attractiveness

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Falling in Love How willing are you. . .?
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Attachment
  • Attachment Intense emotional tie
  • Adult attachments are influenced by our
    attachment to caregiver in infancy
  • Attachment Style (Ainsworth)
  • Secure attachment
  • Insecure attachment
  • Anxious-Ambivalent attachment

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Attachment
  • Attachment styles in Adulthood
  • Paired couples often are similar in their
    attachment styles
  • Attachment style affects interaction in
    relationship

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Attachment Styles and Relationships
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Issues in Loving Relationships
  • Relationship between love sex
  • Relationship between the two is not always clear
  • Consider hook-ups and friends with benefits
  • Questions to ask
  • Does sexual intimacy deepen a love relationship?
  • Do men and women have different views of sex
    love?

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Sexual Orientation and Attitudes about Love Sex
  • Many people stereotype same-sex relationships as
    primarily sexual
  • However, lesbians and gay men generally seek
    loving, trusting, caring relationships that
    embrace many dimensions of sharing
  • Sex differences among lesbians and gay men are
    consistent with general sex difference in
    attitudes toward love and sex
  • Gay men are more likely than lesbians to separate
    love from sex
  • Lesbians more likely to postpone sex until
    intimacy has been established

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Jealousy in Relationships
  • Jealousy-prone person
  • Low self-esteem
  • High value on wealth and popularity
  • Negative consequences
  • Precipitates partner violence
  • Stifles relationship development
  • Raises anxiety, depression, anger
  • Sex differences

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Maintaining Relationship Satisfaction
  • Ingredients in a lasting love relationship
  • Self-acceptance
  • Appreciation of each others qualities
  • Commitment
  • Good communication, realistic expectations and
    shared interests
  • Ability to face and deal with conflict

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Maintaining Relationship Satisfaction
  • Characteristics of high quality relationships
  • Supportive communication
  • Companionship
  • Sexual expression and variety
  • Seeing partner as best friend
  • Maintaining frequent positive interaction

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Maintaining Relationship Satisfaction
  • Individual and relationship growth
  • Growth and change maintain relationship
  • Overcome obstacles
  • View problems as challenges
  • Negotiate and renegotiate wants
  • Accept each other as unique

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Maintaining Relationship Satisfaction
  • Sexual Variety
  • Communication is critical
  • Be spontaneous
  • Plan for intimate time
  • Dont worry about frequency standards
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