Self Awareness Model SAM

1
SELF AWARENESS MODEL(SAM) JOHNNETTA MCSWAIN, BS,
MSW
2
Self Awareness Model (SAM)

• The Self Awareness 12-step model is for women of
  all races, cultures, and backgrounds.
• It is used as a set of guiding principles to
  encourage, promote, and empower women to break
  away from unresolved traumatic life experiences.

3
What we know

• This 12-Step Program is a set of guiding
  principles for recovery from addictive,
  compulsive behavioral problems.

4
This Self Awareness Model

• Will help women from all backgrounds become self
  aware of breaking their negative cycles and
  beating the odds they may face in their daily
  lives.

5
SAM

• The SAM fosters self awareness of inner strengths
  and makes use of them to overcome childhood
  traumas, physical and mental abuse, as well as
  feelings of anger and self-hate.

6
SAM is Built upon 4 Absolutes

• These absolutes encapsulate spiritual, moral,
  and teaching practices for personal change and
  enable those who embrace it to heal and overcome
  negative scripts, or personal stories, in life.

7
The Four Absolutes are Built upon Personal
Insight and Absolute Candor

• Absolute Honesty --- no half truths, no denials,
  no skimming. In other words, total honesty with
  oneself
• Absolute Purity --- clear vision, clear heart,
  clear emotions. In other words, pure and factual
  reality

8

• Absolute Unselfishness --- acting upon what is
  right rather than what is wanted. In other
  words, not letting personal weaknesses and
  desires cloud what is the right thing to do.
• Absolute Love --- uphold thy body, trust thyself
  and demand respect. In other words, hold thyself
  in highest esteem and embrace spiritual support

9

• The Self Awareness Model is grounded in the
  Theory of Planned Behavior (TpB) or Reasoned
  Action Model, which was formed in 1980 by Ajzen
  and Fishbein as the Theory of Reasoned Action
  (TRA).

10
Using an example, lets explore the Conceptual
Model for SAM

• Example Wanting to change my behavior of
  manipulation. In this example, the action
  (control/self gratification), the target (male),
  and the time frame (duration of relationship) are
  specified, but the context (any place, any time,
  event, situation, etc.) is not.

11
Human action is guided by three kinds of
considerations

• beliefs about the likely outcomes of the behavior
  and the evaluations of these outcomes (behavioral
  beliefs) I will get anything I want if I
  manipulate others
• beliefs about the normative expectations of
  others and motivation to comply with these
  expectations (normative beliefs) If you want
  something get it any way you can, love equals
  getting what you want

12

• beliefs about the presence of factors that may
  facilitate or impede performance of the behavior
  and the perceived power of these factors (control
  beliefs) I will play him and he will fall in
  love with me which will lead to me receiving
  expensive gifts, trips. clothes, money, etc

13

Behavioral Beliefs
Attitude toward the Behavior
Intention
Behavior
Normative Beliefs
Subjective Norm
Actual Behavioral Control
Control Beliefs
Perceived Behavioral Control
14
The 12 Steps of the SAM

• Becoming self aware and admitting there are
  cycles in our life
• Family Generational Cycle
• -Intimate relationship
• -Friendship cycle
• -Environment cycle
• -Victim blaming cycle
• -Mental cycle
• Abuse (sexual, mental, physical, self)
• Education
• Drugs

johnnetta_at_breaking-the-cycle.com
15

• Intimate Relationship Cycle
• Attracting the wrong/same kind of men
• Needy/cant say NO
• Staying in a bad relationship
• But, this is my babys daddy
• Too giving
• But, we have been together so long
• Its too hard to find a man
• He will change

johnnetta_at_breaking-the-cycle.com
16

• Friendship Cycle
• Same old kind of friends
• Jealous friends
• Good friends/Bad friends/Childhood friends
• How to be a friend
• Choosing friends
• New friends

johnnetta_at_breaking-the-cycle.com
17

• Environmental Cycle
• Product of your environment
• Because this is the way I was raised/taught/family
  tradition
• Relocating from your environment (drugs,
  violence)
• Better neighborhood/community housing
• Better opportunities (school, career, positive
  experiences, and quality of life)

johnnetta_at_breaking-the-cycle.com dashko_at_aol.com
narolds_at_msn.com
18

• Victim Blaming Cycle
• Because this happened to me I cant
• Its your fault/ if it wasnt for you
• Nobody loves me anyway
• Nobody has never done anything for me
• The world owes me
• The MAN got me down
• I cant do it why should I do it

johnnetta_at_breaking-the-cycle.com dashko_at_aol.com
narolds_at_msn.com
19

• Mental Cycle
• Discover the traumas buried deep down inside us
• Be able to forgive unconditionally in order to
  gain closure and move on
• Let go of the past and everybody that is involved
  in it
• Think positive surround yourself with
  positiveness
• Failure should be not an option

johnnetta_at_breaking-the-cycle.com
20

• Mental Cycle
• Stop holding on to hate and revenge it will keep
  you down
• Stop being the victim you are your own biggest
  enemy
• Stop blaming yourself for things out of your
  control
• Stop re-living your childhood!
• It is said, You can not do anything about your
  childhood but you can do something about your
  adulthood

johnnetta_at_breaking-the-cycle.com
dashko_at_aol.com narolds_at_msn.com
21
Mental Cycle

• Change your way of thinking if you do not change
  your mental environment you can not change your
  physical environment.
• Think positive surround yourself with
  positiveness
• Failure should not be an option
• Stop running from reality it will catch up with
  you when you least expect

22

• Becoming self aware of your environment
• If you never leave your environment you stay the
  same and do the same
• If you can not see outside of your environment
  you will remain stuck

23

• 3. Becoming self aware that you do not have to
  be the victim
• You were beaten, sexually assaulted, mistreated,
  or not loved
• You didnt finish school, you are not smart, you
  cant cant keep up.
• Its just too hard
• You are not as strong as someone else
• You have children
• You have no help or support

24

• Becoming self aware that you do not have to be
  POOR
• Your entire family is poor
• You make minimum wages you are struggling to
  make ends meet
• Going to school is a waste of time what good is
  a degree
• Somebody has to be poor
• I do not need to be rich
• johnnetta_at_breaking-the-cycle.com

25

• Becoming self aware that you do not have to be
  what people say you are going to be
• You will never be anything
• Nobody wants you, but me
• You will never change
• You will be back you will not make it
• I failed so will you
• You are not good enough/smart enough
• You are just dreaming its not possible
• Nobody I know has accomplished anything

26

• Becoming self aware there are injustices in the
  world but that we can still rise above these
  obstacles and become successful
• You are a woman
• You are a woman of color
• You did not finish school
• You do not fit in
• You are poor
• You can not attend the best schools/universities/c
  olleges
• Society says you cant

27

• Becoming self aware that we are women of strength
  who stand for survival, empowerment, motherhood,
  leadership, love, nurturing, beauty, respect, and
  courage to overcome anything
• You had children out of wedlock
• You have had children with more than one man
• Youre living off the System (welfare, food
  stamps/Section 8/projects/Medicaid, etc.
• You have been in bad/violent relationships
• You have been incarcerated

28

• 7. Becoming self aware that we are women of
  strength who stand for survival, empowerment,
  motherhood, leadership, love, nurturing, beauty,
  respect, and courage to overcome anything
• You do not fit the description of a model
• You are too fat, dark, tall, short, ugly,
  slow
• You have been evicted/ jobless/ car less
• You have lost all hope
• You didnt grow up with two parents, good
  parents or any parents
• You didnt grow up with a silver spoon in
  your mouth

29

• Becoming self aware of your worth
• You are are beautiful
• You deserve to be loved
• You are raising your children the best you can/
  the best you know how!
• You dont need a man to complete you, lay down
  next to you or provide for you financially
• You dont need a man to define you

30

• Becoming self aware of your worth
• You are a survivor
• You do not have to accept anything less than the
  best for you
• You deserve R-E-S-P-E-C-T
• You should be treated like the queen you are

31

• Becoming self aware of your fear of failing or
  success
• Because I might just be successful then what?
• What good is it going to do me anyway?
• I am afraid of what people will think or say
  about me
• I am too old theres no hope for me
• I am not smart enough

32

• Becoming self aware of your fear of failing or
  success
• I have been at my job so long I cant do
  anything else
• I have too many bills
• I dont have the time
• I dont need an education
• I already have enough I am fine

33

• Becoming self aware of negative influences in
  your life
• Yourself
• Bad thinking
• Bad environment
• Bad family members
• Bad friends
• Bad relationships
• Bad job

34

• Becoming self aware of change
• I dont want/need to change
• I like it just the way it is
• Its too hard to find a good man/job
• It is easier to live off the System
• Changing your attitude your way of thinking
• Change is good
• Life brings changes
• I have been like this all my life
• You dont have to face reality it will face you
• Its never too late to change you are never too
  old to change

35

• 12. Becoming self aware of your inner strength to
  change your past, to overcome traumatic
  obstacles, and to break barriers of self
  destruction
• You dont have to continue your path of self
  destruction
• You dont have to repeat your past cycles
• You dont have to breed hate and anger
• You do not need to be an abuser because you were
  abused
• You dont have to give up and die
• Life goes on
• Happiness is obtainable

36

• Becoming self aware of your inner strength to
  change your past, to overcome traumatic
  obstacles, and to break barriers of self
  destruction
• Love is real
• -Forgiveness is divine
• Hope is alive
• - Success and prosperity is reachable
• Dreams are achievable
• -Believing is receiving
• Attitude is King in the battle to success
• -Life is worth living and you can live well!!!