Samantha Wilson

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Empowering Students to Make Safe Choices

• Samantha Wilson
• www.kidproofcanada.com

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You Have the Power

• More control
• Violence is predictable

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Safe Kids Have Safe Teachers Who

• Provide suitable layers of protection
• Distinguishes between real and perceived fear
• Pays attention to situations not places
• Questions motives
• Recognizes limitations

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Layers are Key

• Think of an onion
• Guidelines
• Learn about the potential risks
• Start with minimum level of protection
• Build from that level

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Danger Real or Not?

• You must be able to distinguish between real and
  perceived danger.
• Dont over react to situations

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Reasons Vs Excuses

• Making safe choices for valid reasons based on
  fact not excuses

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4 Common Excuses

• Embarrassment
• Avoidance
• Convenience
• Ignorance

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Validate Reasons

• Because.I cant supervise you
• Becauseyou are not safe alone
• Because

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Can You Reduce All Risk?

• Can reduce but not eliminate all risk
• No control over someone else's behavior
• Best way, is to use current and useful methods in
  child safety

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Out With The Old

• OLD

• NEW

• Dont talk to strangers
• Code words
• Name tags and labeling belongings

• Follow the 1 Rule
• Trust your instincts
• Protect Privacy

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Dont Talk to Strangers

• OLD

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Why?

• Outdated
• Dont work and no bases in fact
• Shifts the responsibility onto the kids

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Strangers are Not Always Dangerous

• Most entrenched lesson in child safety
• Teaching Stranger Danger does not work
• Creates a fear of all strangers
• Focuses on the least likely culprit
• Outdated
• Kids do talk to strangers
• Talking is not what is dangerous

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1 Rule

• Never Go Anywhere With Anyone Without Permission
  First

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Encouraging Code Words

• OLD

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Code Words

• Relies on trust
• Promotes secrets
• Flawed back up plan

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Replace Code Word With..

• Never Go Anywhere With Anyone Without Permission
  First

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Encouraging Labeling Belongings

• OLD

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Name Tags

• Relies on excuses of Convenience
• Aids potential predators

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Replace Labels With

• Symbol unique to your child
• Acts as a visual cue
• Opens an opportunity to discuss safety

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Teaching to Trust Instincts

• S.N.U.R.B.S

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Trusting their instincts How?

• Kids born with perfect instincts
• Instinct is your personal alarm
• Feelings are the trigger
• S.N.U.R.B.S

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S.N.U.R.B.S

• Shaking
• Nervous
• Upset tummy
• Racing heart
• Breathing heavy
• Sweaty

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Learning to Respond

• Validate their feelings (instincts)
• Role Play safe and appropriate responses to these
  feelings
• Heres how
• Situation feelings cause safe response

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Teaching Safety Outside the Physical World

• The Internet and Online friendships

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• The Internet is a PLACE not a Thing

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Who invented the Internet?
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The Internet was Invented by

• The US Military of Defense
• 1969

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Internet vs. WWW

• INTERNET

• WORLD WIDE WEB

• A group of interconnected computers that talk to
  each other

• Collection of websites found on the Internet

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Three Reasons to go online

• Entertainment
• Education
• Communication

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Entertainment

• Play Games
• Download Music
• Write a Blog
• Watch Videos

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Communication

• Email, instant messaging, chat rooms, social
  networking

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Education

• Homework
• Research
• Hobbies and special interest

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Three Key Messages to Teach Kids

• Learn the difference between face-to-face
  friends, and online friends
• Once something is online it is there forever
• Right and wrong is the same online as it is in
  person

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Face-to-face are not online friends

• FACE-TO-FACE

• ONLINE FRIENDS

• Friends that are in their class, on their sports
  team or social club.
• Someone they would invite over to their house.

• People they meet or are introduced to online

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Anonymity Attracts Everyone

• GOOD

• BAD

• It is easier to express their feelings when they
  are not face-to-face.

• People can pretend to be someone else
• Dont get the visual cues that someone may be
  lying to you

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Kids find it easier to talk to online friends
because its easier than face to face friends
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Never give out personal information to an online
friend

• Never meet an online friend in person

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Teaching Safe IMing

• Dont let people on your buddy lists that are not
  face-to-face friends
• Dont share your passwords
• Dont fill out personal profiles
• Be a good online citizen
• Use a safe screen name

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What makes a safe screen name?

• UNSAFE

• SAFE

• Include your name
• Gender
• Location
• Sexual tone

• Gender neutral
• Random series of numbers letters

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Safe or Unsafe?

• Bluejaysfan _at_hotmail.com UNSAFE
• Cheesecon22 _at_hotmail.com SAFE
• Jessie_girl11 _at_hotmail.com UNSAFE
• Cutehottie_67 _at_hotmail.com UNSAFE
• Ilovecats _at_hotmail.com SAFE

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Personal Websites Social Networking

• Facebook
• Myspace
• Nexopia
• piczo

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Personal websites are..

• Fun to create
• Great to share with friends
• Expression of themselves
• Allows kids to share music and pictures with
  friends

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What kids use them for

• Talk to friends on IM
• Create a blog
• Email
• Meet people

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Once its online its there for life!

• Key Teaching Message

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Help them relate

• Apply for a job
• Apply for University or College
• Meet new friends

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Student Activity

• Clean Up Your Website

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Safety Checklists

• Do you have pictures of yourself or friends that
  make you look a lot older?
• Does your profile have any personal information
  on it?
• Do you have links to another website that may
  have your personal information on it?

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More

• Is it available for anyone to find and see?
• Is there any bullying or rumor type talk?
• Are you inviting online friends to comment?
• Are the people linked to your site face-to-face
  friends, or online friends?
• Is there parts that you would not want your
  parents to see?

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Try not to..

• Post things you are going to regret later. Once
  it is online, it is there for life.
• Flirt with online friends
• Meet an online friend in person
• Make your screen name too identifying

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Right and Wrong is The Same Online as it is In
Person

• Key Teaching Message

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Tips to help..

• Blur your pictures a bit so that they wont be
  used by predators or cyber bullies
• Dont do or say anything online that you would
  not say face to face
• Get your friends Okay before posting their
  picture or information online

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Protecting Kids Online

• What are kids doing online?
• What are the risks?
• What can you do to reduce the risks?

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Net Lingo

• Language used in chat rooms, IM, text messaging
  (cell phones)
• Emoticons symbols that express emotion or
  phrases
• ? ? lt3

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What are They Saying?

• WUF? he asks
• CA she replies
• BF? he pries
• No. GF? she teases
• Wanna PM? he suggests
• GTG. 9 she says and quickly shuts down
• the computer screen

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• Where are you from? he asks
• Canada she replies
• Boyfriend? he pries
• No. Girlfriend? she teases
• Wanna Private Message? he suggests
• Got to go. Parent in the room. she says
• and quickly shuts down the computer screen

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RED FLAGS!

• F2F Face to face meeting
• ILU or ILY I love you
• IPN Im posting naked
• LMIRL Lets meet in real life
• NP Nosy parents
• WTGP Want to go private? ( talk
  in a private room)

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www.netlingo.com
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Instant Messaging vs. Chat

• Not the same
• Instant messaging is like a phone call
• Chat rooms are like house parties

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Chat Rooms DANGER

• Chatting is not the same as Instant Messaging
• Un-moderated chat rooms are the most dangerous
  place for kids
• Examples include
• www.nexopia.com
• www.teenspot.com

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Risks to Kids Online

• Online Predators
• Viewing Inappropriate Material
• Cyber Bullying

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Online Predators

• Three Myths

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Myth 1

• Internet Predators are all Pedophiles

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Myth 2

• Internet Predators Always Pretend to be
• Kids Themselves

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Myth 3

• Online predators use force and coercion to
  sexually abuse and abduct their victims

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Past Methods in Education

• Dont meet anyone in person that they have met
  online
• Dont give out personal information
• Dont trust people you meet online

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New Methods in Education

• Explain why relationships are a bad idea
• Criminal activity
• Deceptive manipulative motives of predator
• Increased danger for others

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Warning Signs

• Spends prolonged periods of time online
• Loss of sleep and change of behavior
• Receives packages in mail
• Unknown phone number on phone bill
• Online at odd hours at night
• Withdrawn from friends and family
• Vague when confronted about activity

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WWW.CYBERTIP.CA

• 911 for Internet Crimes against Kids

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Viewing Inappropriate Material

• The real risk to kids

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Viewing Inappropriate Material

• Racist sites
• Pornography
• Criminal activity
• Violence
• Pro smoking / alcohol
• Video streaming (i.e.. YouTube)

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Cyber Bullies

• A growing problem

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Cyber Bullying

• Instant Messenger, email, text
• messaging, Personal websites, blogs and
• cell phones have become the new tools
• for the bully.

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Future Problems

• Potential to increase the bully population
  exponentially
• Long term effects of Internet postings

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What you can do

• Keep the lines of communication open
• Monitor and save communication
• Report incident to police
• Support your students and remind them that they
  do not have to put up with the harassment

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5 Tricks to Get Kids Empowered and Motivated to
be Safe
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5 Tricks

• Incorporate safety into each element of
  curriculum
• Catch students making safe choices small or
  large
• Turn the decision making skills onto the student
• Create student mentors
• Involve parents

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Whos job is it to teach kids to be safe?

• Yours, mine, neighbors, the school board,
• friends, politicians, community leaders,
• police, and society.EVERYONE!

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Thank You!

• Questions?
• Email
• info_at_kidproofcanada.com