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Title: Relational Aggression


1
Relational Aggression
  • What is it?
  • Is behavior that is intended to harm someone by
    damaging or manipulating his or her relationships
    with others (Crick and Grotpeter, 1995)?

2
What does it look like?
  • Exclusion
  • Malicious gossip and rumor spreading
  • Taunting and name calling
  • Alliance building
  • Covert physical aggression
  • Cyber-bullying
  • Three way calling
  • All the above aim to promote cruelty through the
    social networks.

3
What motivates relational aggression?
  • Belonging- If I share the secret she told me
    with you , my information can get me 'in' with
    the popular group.
  • Fear- I'm afraid of being rejected by my
    classmates, or that I'll be the next target, so I
    go along with it.
  • Drama- I'm bored, and relational aggression
    creates drama and excitement.

4
Girl bullies don't leave black eyes, just agony!
  • What 's She like?
  • Typically, there are 3 groups of girls
  • The Aggressors
  • The Victims
  • Girls in the Middle

5
The aggressors
  • Often called
  • the Queen Bees,
  • the RMG's (Really Mean Girls) or the alpha girls
  • Characteristics
  • They are false. They are overconfident. They're
    loud.
  • Manipulatively affectionate
  • Skinny, pretty, and seemingly perfect
  • Well liked by adults- Eddie Haskell
  • Does well in school
  • Controlling

6
The Victims
  • Passive Victims
  • Walk with their heads down
  • Usually quiet
  • Usually terrified
  • Alone
  • Anxiety ridden
  • Provocative Victims
  • Reactive
  • Fight back
  • Attention seek

7
Girls in the Middle
  • The pivotal and largest group!
  • They may be the victims or aggressors, often
    choosing to be bullies because the alternative is
    too devastating.
  • They don't know the power they have be it /- .

8
What are the effects of relational aggression?
  • Headaches
  • Stomachaches
  • Fatigue
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Loss of appetite
  • Unexplained crying
  • Drop in grades
  • Anger
  • Self injury
  • Substance abuse
  • absenteeism/truancy

9
What can parents do about it?
  • Don't minimize your child's pain. Empathize and
    keep the conversations going
  • Challenge your child. Acknowledge the
    pervasiveness of gossip
  • If you are a parent or guardian of victim,
    encourage documentation (RA journal)
  • Acknowledge that there are always two sides to a
    story! Yes, your daughter may be bullying back.
  • Encourage them to effect change
  • Be a good role model
  • Different activities different social circles
  • Talking to other parents

10
What not to do!
  • Do not intervene on behalf of pre-teen unless
    absolutely necessary.
  • Do not minimize the anguish.
  • Do not assume their perspective is the whole
    story.
  • Do not stop asking questions when their body
    language such as eye rolling occurs. Keep trying
    but be less direct.
  • Be aware of your own experiences painful
    memories-it will interfere with your wisdom and
    will contribute to overreacting.
  • Don't confront the bullies parents.

11
Cyber-bullying
  • Using the internet or other mobile devices to
    send to post harmful or cruel text or images to
    bully others.
  • -Nancy Willard, Director, Center for Safe and
    Responsible Internet Use
  • Kowalski (2005) conducted a study involving 6th,
    7th, and 8th graders. He reported that Instant
    Messaging was the most common form of
    cyberbullying by children/adolescents in grades
    6-8. Kowlaski also reported that girls are about
    twice as likely to be the victims and the
    perpetrators of cyber-bullying.

12
The most common forms
  • Instant messaging
  • Chat rooms or discussion groups
  • Web pages
  • Web blogs
  • E-mails
  • Text or digital imaging messages

13
What can we do?
  • Notify school counselor or outside counselor to
    help victim process their feelings.
  • Immediately contact law enforcement if the
  • cyber-bullying involves any of the following
  • Threats of violence
  • Extortion
  • Obscene or harassing phone calls or text messages
  • Harassment, stalking, or hate crimes
  • Child pornography

14
Kirsten Donohue- Dean of Students
  • St. Anthony Middle School's Procedure for dealing
    with Bullying, Harassment, and Relational
    Aggression

15
  • Resources

16
Acknowledgments
  • Many thanks to Shelley Freeman for her dedication
    and devotion to this district for the past 37
    years. Her own research and proactive programs
    are invaluable to our students and their
    families. She has had a profound impact on many
    student's lives.
  • Many facts and figures for this presentation were
    taken from the Ophelia Project.
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