The Art of Hardiness

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The Art of Hardiness

• Brent Blaisdell Ph.D.
• 1.800.832.7733

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Change Stress

• Stress symptoms?
• Gender differences?
• Stress management strategies?

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The Three Cs of Hardiness

• Control
• Commitment
• Challenge

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Control
No Control
Control
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Control

• Internal vs. External locus of control

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Control

• 5 Styles of Distorted Thinking
• FILTERING You take the negative details and
  magnify them while filtering out all positive
  aspects of a situation.
• OVERGENERALIZATION You come to general
  conclusion based on a single incident or piece of
  evidence. If something bad happens once, you
  expect it to happen over and over again.
• MIND READING Without their saying so, you know
  what people are feeling and why they act the way
  they do. In particular, you are able to divine
  how people are feeling toward you.
• CATASTROPHIZING You expect disaster. You
  notice or hear about a problem and start what
  ifs What if the tragedy strikes? What if it
  happens to you?
• PERSONALIZATION Thinking that everything people
  do or say is some kind of reaction to you. You
  also compare yourself to others, trying to
  determine whos smarter, better looking, etc.

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Control

• Five Beliefs That Will Not Cause Problems
• Everyone doesnt have to love me.
• It is ok to make mistakes.
• I dont have to control things.
• I am responsible for my day.
• I can be flexible.

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Commitment

• Hardy individuals are committed to a set of
  personal values
• What are yours?

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Commitment

• Methods to identify your personal values
• Imagine that you have been given a medical
  diagnosis that will allow you to live for six
  months with relatively good health. What
  activities would you fill your time with?
• Imagine your funeral. How you like to be
  described? What will you be known for? Who will
  speak at your funeral?
• Imagine that a 60 minute camera crew has followed
  your movements in the last week. How would the
  reporter summarize what appears to be most
  important to you based on how you spend your
  time?
• What do you consider your greatest
  accomplishments thus far in your life?

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Challenge

• View life and change as a challenge, not a
  threat.
• Bring it on attitude.
• Comfort Zone and Pinky Therapy.

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Challenge Comfort Zone
Comfort Zone
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Challenge Accountability Loop
SELF-EXAMINE
FORGIVE
OWN
ACCOUNTABILITY LOOP
LEARN
RENEW
RECOGNIZE
SITUATION
CHOICE
INTENTION
IGNORE
HIDE
VICTIM LOOP
RESIST
DENY
RATIONALIZE
BLAME