Overcoming Issues with Your Teen after a Divorce

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Overcoming Issues with Your Teen after a Divorce

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Going through a divorce and the lengthy processes
to get it finalized can be a stressful and hectic
period of time, not only for you, but also if you
have a teenager.

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Initially, your teen may seem like the perfect
gentleman or lady and attempt to remain neutral
about the divorce of their parents.

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They often have to make some adjustments, but in
stable homes, where both parents are contributing
equally, their life continues on.

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As they hit those rebellious years during
puberty, which we all have experienced to some
extent, things can start to change.

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Your teen has figured out which parent is the
cool parent in their eyes and which one is the
more restrictive parent with all these rules.

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This can often lead to your teen blurting out
they want to go live with the other parent,
especially when you teen is trying to get their
way, regardless of any established house rules,
like a set curfew on school nights.

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Initially, you might feel a sense of shock
because you cannot believe what came out of your
teens mouth. However, as it starts to sink in,
it is not uncommon to feel hurt or slightly
angered.

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The key thing to remember is your teen is
experiencing growing pains and testing out the
new boundaries of a post-divorce household.

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Avoid taking what they said personally or
responding in a negative manner. Sure, all
divorced parents with teenagers have thought
about responding by telling their unruly teen,

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Fine, if you do not like my rules, go live with
your dad (or mom). They should get to experience
how much fun your drama is too!

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Of course, saying this to your teen sends them
the message your love is based on conditions.
This is why, even though the thought is going
through your head, you should refrain from
uttering it aloud.  

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Next, making this threat to your teen lessens
your authority over them. If you do not follow
through on actually dropping them off to live
with their dad (or mom), they will realize you no
longer have control over them.

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This can be troublesome when it comes to more
important issues you take a stand against. They
are just going to shrug it off and not value what
you are saying, let alone respect your decisions.

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This is a common underlying cause why some
divorced parents have issues with their teens
sneaking out at night or not coming home at a
specific time.

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A more appropriate way to handle this specific
type of outburst is by remaining calm. Step back,
take a deep breath, and walk away to give
yourself time to think on what your teen has
said, what the disagreement is truly about, and
how best to address the issue with your teen.

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Many divorced parents also find it beneficial to
discuss these types of outbursts with one of our
communications counsellors, here at Bayridge
Counselling Centre.

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Through counselling they learn how to develop
effective parenting skills to respond to
situations like this to maintain parental
authority over their teens.

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