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Murmuring 101

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A Magic Key
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DES MOINES, Iowa 

• Jane Hambleton has dubbed herself the
  "meanest mom on the planet."
• After finding alcohol in her son's car, she
  decided to sell the car and share her
  19- year-old's misdeed with everyone by
  placing an ad in the local newspaper.
• The ad reads "OLDS 1999 Intrigue. Totally
  uncool parents who obviously don't love
  teenage son, selling his car. Only driven
  for three weeks before snoopy mom who
  needs to get a life found booze under front
  seat. 3,700/offer. Call meanest mom on the
  planet."
• The 48-year-old from Fort Dodge says she has
  fielded more than 70 telephone calls from
  emergency room technicians, nurses, school
  counselors and even a Georgia man who wanted to
  congratulate her.
• "The ad cost a fortune, but you know what? I'm
  telling people what happened here," Hambleton
  says. "I'm not just gonna put the car for resale
  when there's nothing wrong with it, except the
  driver made a dumb decision.
• "It's overwhelming the number of calls I've
  gotten from people saying 'Thank you, it's nice
  to see a responsible parent.' So far there are no
  calls from anyone saying, 'You're really strict.
  You're real overboard, lady."'
• The only critic is her son, who Hambleton says is
  "very, very unhappy" with the ad and claims the
  alcohol was left by a passenger.
• Hambleton believes her son but has decided mercy
  isn't the best policy in this case. She says she
  set two rules when she bought the car at
  Thanksgiving No booze, and always keep it
  locked.
• The car has been sold, but Hambleton says she
  will continue the ad for another week just for
  the feedback.

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Testimony Meeting

• Im grateful for all my many blessings,
• Im grateful for to be married to a priesthood
  holder who fulfills all his callings.
• Im grateful all my sons went on missions and are
  now all married in the temple.
• Im grateful I had parents who never yelled.
• Lastly, Im grateful to be a member of the only
  true church on the face of the earth.

Great! And if these are not true, do we still
have a right to be grateful? Are we somehow less
blessed?
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Blessings
Blessings
Trials
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How do you see things?

• Nephi
• And so great were the blessings of the Lord upon
  us, that while we did live upon raw meat in the
  wilderness, our women did give plenty of suck for
  their children, and were strong, yea, even like
  unto the men and they began to bear their
  journeyings without murmurings.
• And thus we see that the commandments of God must
  be fulfilled. And if it so be that the children
  of men keep the commandments of God he doth
  nourish them, and strengthen them, and provide
  means whereby they can accomplish the thing which
  he has commanded them

• Laman and Lemuel
• and we have wandered in the wilderness for these
  many years and our women have toiled, being big
  with child and they have borne children in the
  wilderness and suffered all things, save it were
  death and it would have been better that they
  had died before they came out of Jerusalem than
  to have suffered these afflictions.
• Behold, these many years we have suffered in the
  wilderness, which time we might have enjoyed our
  possessions and the land of our inheritance yea,
  and we might have been happy.

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Neal Maxwell

• First, the murmurer often lacks the courage to
  express openly his concerns
• Second, murmurers make good conversational
  cloak holders. Though picking up no stones
  themselves, they provoke others to do so.
• Third, while a murmurer insists on venting his
  own feelings, he regards any response thereto as
  hostile. Furthermore, murmurers seldom take into
  account the bearing capacity of their audiences.
• Fourth, murmurers have short memories. Strange,
  isnt it, brothers and sisters, how those with
  the shortest memories have the longest lists of
  demands! However, with no remembrance of past
  blessings, there is no perspective about what is
  really going on.
• Murmur Not, Ensign, Nov 1989, 82

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1 Nephi 17

• And it came to pass that after I, Nephi,
  had been in the land of Bountiful for the
  space of many days, the voice of the Lord came
  unto me, saying Arise, and get thee into the
  mountain. And it came to pass that I arose and
  went up into the mountain, and cried unto the
  Lord.
• And it came to pass that the Lord spake unto me,
  saying Thou shalt construct a ship, after the
  manner which I shall show thee, that I may carry
  thy people across these waters.
• And I said Lord, whither shall I go that I may
  find ore to molten, that I may make tools to
  construct the ship

Wadi Sayq
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Thomas B. Marsh

• I became jealous of the Prophet and overlooked
  everything that was right, and spent all my time
  in looking for the evil I thought I saw a beam
  in Brother Josephs eye, but it was nothing but a
  mote, and my own eye was filled with the beam
• I got mad and I wanted everybody else to be mad.
  I talked with Brother Brigham Young and Brother
  Heber C. Kimball, and I wanted them to be mad
  like myself and I saw they were not mad, and I
  got madder still because they were not.
• Brother Brigham Young, with a cautious look,
  said, Are you the leader of the Church, Brother
  Thomas? I answered No. Well then, said he,
  why do you not let that alone?
• Testimonies of the Divinity of The Church of
  Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints by Its Leaders,
  comp. Joseph E. Cardon and Samuel O. Bennion,
  Independence, Mo. Zions Printing and Publishing
  Co., 1930, pp. 103, 105.

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A cure for murmuring-Unrealistic Expectations

• About a year and a half ago I
  developed a severe case of respiratory
  flu. After six weeks had passed I was
  still weak, had developed a chronic
  cough, and continued to feel awful.
  Ruefully realizing that the doctor who
  treats himself has a fool for a patient, I
  finally gave up and made an appointment with a
  colleague. "I can't afford to feel like this.
  I've got too much to do," I complained.
• Muttering, he punctuated his thorough physical
  examination with some rather pointed questions.
  "How many Church jobs do you hold?" "How many
  scientific papers did you write this last year?"
  "How many hours sleep do you get a night?" "How
  many miles a day did you say you run?" "Did you
  have a garden again this year and put up all your
  own produce?"
• When he'd finally finished he put his hands on
  his hips, looked me sternly in the eye, and
  demanded, "Just exactly who or what do you think
  you are? Wonder Woman? You're expecting a
  thirty-five-year-old woman's body to perform as
  it did when you were twenty-one. In fact, you're
  copping out. You're avoiding making decisions by
  trying to do everything. Grow up. You don't need
  a doctor you need a good verbal spanking!"
• Sheepishly I acknowledged he was absolutely
  right. And I have subsequently tried to temper my
  choices, realizing that my strength and energy
  are limited. I still try to do too much, but at
  least I'm gradually getting a little better at
  choosing among equally worthy activities.
• Balance the Joy of Perspective," in LDS
  Women's Treasury Insights and Inspiration for
  Today's Woman, 112.