Relational Aggression Bullying in the Girls World

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Relational Aggression - Bullying in the Girls
World
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What is Bullying?

• Bullying is a pattern of repeated mean behavior
  that is intended to harm physically, emotionally
  or socially and usually has an imbalance of power.

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Girls vs. Boys Bullying

• Girls tend to rely more heavily on
  behind-the-back bullying.

• Boys tend to rely more heavily on face to face
  bullying.

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Understanding the Girls World

• Girls are typically social beings with their
  identity gained within social groups.
• Relational Aggression is
• Aggressive, hurtful behaviors from within social
  relationships or friendship groups
• Main form of bullying used by girls (Girl
  Bullying)

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Roles within the Girls Social Group

• Queen Bee holds all the power
• Sidekick allows herself to be controlled by the
  Bee
• Wannabee like the name implys
• Gossiper using info to gain power
• Floater moves in and out of groups
• Direct Bully uses violence and threats
• Target receiver of violence and/or threats
• Bystander witness who feels caught in the middle

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Why Should WE Address Bullying?

• Negative/harmful affects
• Lower level bullying escalates in later years
• Statistics
• Role rehearsal for adulthood
• Significant incident and the police ask what
  prevention programs were in place?
• New legislation
• Because we CARE

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Speaking the Same Language

• Class Lessons include
• Bullying definition
• Three roles of bullying Aggressor,
  Target/Victim and Bystander
• Tattling vs. telling
• Conflict vs. bullying

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How Can We Help?

• Support students in all three roles
• Bully behavior
• Target/Victim
• Bystander
• HOW?

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Help the Student with Bully Behavior by

• Involve the student in a helping activity
• Offer the Behavior Change Worksheet
• Give consequences 3 Rs of Discipline
• Look for positive leadership roles for the
  student
• Refer to the class lesson summary poster, The
  Roles of Bullying and What to do

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Help the Target so They Dont Become a Victim of
Bullying by

• Review the difference between a conflict and
  bullying
• Utilize the Bully Behavior Reporting Sheet
• Clarify with the student the IN/OUT Rule
• Dont rescue the target/victim EMPOWER them.
  Respond by asking the target/victim
• Do you believe what they said?
• What can you think or tell yourself about it the
  would help?
• As the student shares a positive way to think
• about the situation COMPLIMENT the student with a
  statement such as
• Sounds like a smart way to think! or Very
  mature of you!
• 5. Refer to the class lesson summary poster,
  The Roles of Bullying and What to do

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Help the Bystander by

• Clarifying with the student the IN/OUT Rule.
• Complimenting the student for having the courage
  and caring to tell.
• Referring to the student lesson summary poster,
  The Roles of Bullying and What to do Discuss
  with the bystander
• If and what they could say to the bully
• What they could do to help the target
• And how they can show the target their support

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What else can we do to support an effective
schoolwide bullying program?
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• I have come to a frightening conclusion that I
  am the decisive element in the classroomAs a
  teacher, I possess tremendous power to make a
  childs life miserable or joyous. I can be a
  tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration,
  can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all
  situations, it is my response that decides
  whether a crisis will be escalated or
  de-escalaed, and a child humanized or
  de-humanized.
• -Haim Ginott

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Teachers DO make a differencein the lives of
children!