6 Signs That You Need Marriage Counseling NOW

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6 Signs That You Need Marriage Counseling Right
NowBy Lisa Pennhttp//how-to-save-marriage.org
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• You must forgive my morbid analogy, but marital
  problems are like cancer. The earlier you detect
  it and treat it, the more chances you have to
  beat it and survive.
• Marriage problems are the same. If you address
  your problems early on and solve them on time,
  you dramatically increase the survival chances of
  your relationship. If you put it off and wait for
  the problems disappear on their own, dont be
  surprised to be heading straight to divorce.

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6 Signs That You Need Couples Counseling Right
Now

• This is a list of the most dangerous marital
  problems those that left unsolved will most
  likely end your marriage. If you have one or more
  of these problems, its time to seek some kind of
  marriage counseling, or couples therapy Right
  now.

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Sign 1 Lack of Communication and Support

• Two recent studies, published in the American
  Journal of Family Psychology, found that couples
  who went on to divorce were more likely to be
  poorer communicators, and tended to display more
  negative emotions and support mechanisms than
  people who stayed married.

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• For example, the couples who went on to divorce
  were more likely to use blame and invalidation in
  their communication efforts. They were more
  likely to discourage a spouse from expressing his
  or her feelings, and to display inappropriate
  pessimism. Husbands who were more verbally
  aggressive early on were also more likely to be
  part of couples who went on to divorce later.
  (Source is here)
• No problem in a marriage can be solved without
  open, honest communication. Lack of personal,
  intimate exchange in a marriage is a very bad
  sign.

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Sign2 Marriage Resembles a Battlefield

• No matter how in love you used to be and how much
  fun you used to have, many of us wake up one
  morning and realize that the marriage has turned
  into a battlefield (Very often After having
  children).
• Lines are drawn you stick to your guns on every
  issue. You dig in on your side your husband digs
  in on the other side. Neither of you will budge.
• This pushes all your intimacy away and you no
  longer enjoy his company.

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• With time, you find yourself taking a side
  opposite your spouse. This damages the very
  foundation of your marriage. When We turns into
  me is a definite reason to seek marriage
  therapy immediately.

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Sign 3 The Wrong Fighting Style

• Seven long term studies have found that that the
  way that a couple handles conflicts can predict
  if they will end up divorcing. The studies
  included people from all ranges on the marriage
  spectrum, from newlyweds to long-term marriages.

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• While fighting is normal in any relationship, and
  even essential (because no two people will ever
  agree about everything), your fighting style
  can predict if the marriage can survive the
  conflicts or not. These are the signs that your
  conflict resolution process requires urgent help
• 1. When conflict emerges, you wait until things
  build up and than explode. You or your partner
  talks down to you and criticizes you harshly. One
  or both of you are simply mean to each other.
• 2. You or your spouse do not express yourself
  directly, but beat around the bush hoping the
  other side will get itand you constantly bring
  up past hurts.
• 3. A simple disagreement is always escalated and
  getting out of control.

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Sign 4 Relationship Stagnation

• Are you one of many couples out there who, every
  night, sit across the dinner table from one
  another (if you still have dinner together) and
  wonder who is this person I am living with? Why
  did I marry him?

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• When a marriage falls into stagnation, its
  because somewhere along the line one or both of
  you stopped taking care of it. Nothing is really
  wrong with our marriage its just boring and
  stuck. You have to work to pay the bills, maybe
  you have kids to take care of, and/or sick,
  elderly parents who require your care and
  attention. You dont have time to spend with your
  spouse.
• If your relationship doesnt continue to grow,
  its wallowing. This is a dangerous seed that
  needs to be attended to. Marriage stagnation is
  why a marriage breaks down. You care about
  everything else but the marriage and it will be
  sacrificed as a result

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Sign 5 Little to No Sex Life

• The breakdown of your sex life is one of the most
  recognized signs of a failing marriage. Sexual
  intimacy is critical for the bond between a
  husband and a wife.
• To put is simply, a marriage without sex will, at
  some point, end up in divorce or being a marriage
  of convenience. The next step is usually an
  emotional and/or physical affair.

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• If your husband has a low sex drive My article
  about Sexless Marriage will help YOU. If you are
  the one losing interest in sex, my post titled I
  Love My Husband but I Dont Want Sex Anymore may
  interest you.

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Sign 6 The Bad Overweighs the Good

• Most of us are able to look deep inside and
  answer this question truthfully Is there more
  bad than good in our marriage?
• If the answer is yes, your marriage is in trouble
  and you need marriage counseling of some sort.
  The cancer will grow and eat up your marriage
  until its over, if you dont act and do
  something right now.

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• If you are hesitant about traditional marriage
  counseling (many of us are) because of the high
  costs, the lack of privacy, availability and
  comfort, you have other options.
• The first option is a marriage saving program
  online, which is a step by step self-help book
  (with work books) that shows you exactly what and
  how to resolve your marital problems. It costs
  less than one session of marriage therapy and it
  can be just as effective (it was for me anyway).

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• The second option is online marriage counseling,
  which is also much less expensive (because you
  usually per minute) and you can do it from home
  at your preferred time and with total privacy
  (you can learn more about this option Right
  Here).
• What ever you decide to do Just do it. Dont
  let the marriage cancerous problems doom your
  relationship and dont wait until its too late.
  There are some points in a marriage when nothing
  can help it anymore, but you can prevent yourself
  from getting there.  
• Dont WAIT, ACT NOW.

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• If you are hesitant about traditional marriage
  counseling (many of us are) because of the high
  costs, the lack of privacy, availability and
  comfort, you have other options.
• The first option is a marriage saving program
  online, which is a step by step self-help book
  (with work books) that shows you exactly what and
  how to resolve your marital problems. It costs
  less than one session of marriage therapy and it
  can be just as effective (it was for me anyway).