Com 103: Introduction to Public Speaking

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Com 103 Introduction to Public Speaking

• Instructor Iva Thelen
• Spring 2006
• Lecture 15

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So What Are We Doing Today?

• Finish SIS SOS
• Turn in Personal Strengths and Goal Sheets
• Lecture Chapter 11 Committed Romantic
  Relationships

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Committed Romantic Relationships

• Voluntary relationships between unique
  individuals who assume they will be primary and
  continuing parts of each others life.
• - They involve romantic and sexual feelings
• - Considered primary and permanent in our society

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Cultural Shaping of Romantic Ties

• Arranged marriages
• Polygamy
• Divorce is not allowed, with very few exceptions
• Gay marriages
• Every society recognizes and gives privileges to
  relationships it approves and withholds

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Dimensions of Romantic Relationships

• Passion
• Commitment
• Intimacy
• The Triangle of Love

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Styles of Loving

• Primary
• Eros - passionate
• Storge - gradual
• Ludus playful
• Secondary
• Pragma practical (ludus storge)
• Mania games (eros ludic)
• Agape generous (storge eros)

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The Development of Romantic Relationships

• Growth Stages
• Individuals
• Invitational communication
• Exploration communication
• Intensifying communication
• Revising communication
• commitment
• Navigation

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The Development of Romantic Relationships cont

• Deterioration Stages
• Dyadic breakdown
• Intrapsychic phase
• Dyadic phase
• Social support
• Grave dressing

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Long-Term Commitments

• Nonmarital Commitments
• Heterosexual Cohabitation
• Lesbian and Gay Commitments
• Marriage
• Who marries?
• Paths to Marriage
• Marital types ( see pg. 310)
• Dynamics of marital satisfaction ( see pg. 310)

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Long Term Commitments

• The Family Life Cycle
• (see page 312)

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Challenges to Sustaining Romantic Relationships

• Ensuring Equity
• Negotiating Safer Sex
• Avoiding Violence and Abuse
• Managing Long-Distance Romance

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Guidelines for Communication Between Romantic
Partners

• Show respect and consideration
• Dont sweat the small stuff
• Make daily choices that enhance intimacy

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For Next Week

• Quiz 4 on Tuesday 25th