CH. 7 COMMUNICATION AND SEXUALITY

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CH. 7COMMUNICATION AND SEXUALITY

• PERSONAL COMMUNICATION
• Each of us chooses what we want others to know
  about us and things we dont. Being open to
  others increases our own self-knowledge and
  understanding.

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Communicating Feelings

• Information is easy to convey, emotions are not
• Some find it hard to say their feelings
• Others find it hard to accept affection
• Sharpen communication skills to adequately
  discuss issues
• Listen as well as speak effectively

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2. Nonverbal communication

• How? Facial expressions, tone of voice, hands,
  shoulders, legs, torsos, posture.
• Learning what people DONT say can reveal more
  than what they DO say.
• More than 90 of communication may be
  nonverbal.
• In some cultures establishing eye contact
  hostile or challenging, other it conveys
  friendliness.

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FORMING RELATIONSHIPS

• I, Myself, and Me
• Must love yourself before loving others
• Self esteem is everything in a relationship
• Friendships the most holy bond of society
• A friend is one who knows you as you are,
• Understands where youve been,
• Accepts who youve become,
• And still gently invites you to grow.

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FRIENDSHIPS (cont)

• Can men and women be friends, without sex?
• For men, a friendship with a woman offers support
  and nurturance, they like talking and relating to
  women.
• For women, view it as light hearted and casual,
  more joking, less fear of hurt feelings. Find out
  what guys really think.
• Toxic relationship either person is made to
  feel worthless or incompetent
• Do you have friends that dont make you feel good
  about yourself and make degrading comments?

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3. Dating p. 166 Dos and Dont with Online Dating

• Any occasion during which two people share their
  time.
• 50 of 18 yr. olds go out at least once/week
• Find out a lot about yourself and your date
• Dating has dangers 1 in 5 female teens
  physically or sexually abused on a date.
• Should you keep dating p. 165-166

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HOOKING UP

• Having sex but not really together as in a
  relationship. (friends with benefits)
• Building Healthy Relationships p. 166
• Assessing A Relationship p. 167
• Improving Your Relationship p. 167
• Dysfunctional Relationships relationship that
  dont promote healthy communication, (toxic).
• Coping with an Unhealthy Relationship p. 168
• Emotional abuse can be far lasting than any other
  form of abuse.

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INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS

• Intimacy the open, trusting sharing of close,
  confidential thoughts and feelings. Comes from
  the Latin within.
• What Attracts 2 People to Each Other?
• Chemistry, sexual attraction, beauty?
• Characterized by emotional arousal, reciprocal
  liking, and mutual sexual desire.
• Romantic Love Sternbergs Love Triangle 3
  Components are Intimacy, Passion, and Commitment.

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Liking (intimacy alone)
Intimacy
Romantic love (intimacy passion)
Companionate love (intimacy commitment)
Consummate love (intimacy passion commitment)
Passion
Commitment
Infatuation (passion alone)
Empty love (commitment alone)
Fatuous love (passion commitment)
Fig. 7-2, p. 170
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STERNBERGS LOVE TRIANGLE

• TYPES OF LOVE INTIMACY PASSION
  COMMITMENT
• LIKING X
• ROMANTIC LOVE X
  X
• INFATUATION
  X
• EMPTY LOVE
  X
• COMPANIONATE X
  X
• FATUOUS LOVE
  X X
• CONSUMMATE X
  X X

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• 3. Mature Love p. 170
• Sexual excitement, tenderness, commitment, and
  passion like youve never had before becoming
  one with your partner.
• 4. When Love Ends
• Why? Sense of dissatisfaction or unhappiness
• How do you break up?
• Better to break up and be sad than to stay in
  relationship and have low self worth.

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• 5. COHABITATION
• Cohabitation living together5 million are
  cohabiting in the U.S. Most are heterosexual 40
  have children.
• Asians and non-Hispanic white couples are the
  least likely to cohabit.

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COMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS

• 1. Domestic Partners
• Gaining legal recognition. Some cities have
  domestic partnership laws to grant spousal rights
  like insurance benefits. Canada has recognized
  marriages between homosexual partners as
  legitimate unions.
• 2. Long-Term Same-Sex Relationships
• Researchers have studied couples who have been
  together for 20 years. (Comparable to
  heterosexual relationships)

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• 3. Marriage
• 9 in 10 people marry, about half divorce after
  7-8 yrs.
• We still have arranged marriages in some cultures
  like Asians.
• Preparing for marriage AZ and LS must get
  premarital counseling.
• Crucial ingredients for commitment shared
  values, willingness to change, willingness to
  tolerate flaws, match in religious beliefs, the
  ability to communicate effectively.

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Premarital Assessments

• Realistic expectations
• Personality Issues
• Communication
• Conflict Resolution
• Financial Management
• Leisure Activities
• Sex
• Children
• Family and Friends
• Religious Orientation
• Belief in human equality (egalitarian)

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Same-Sex Marriage

• Spain and Canada legalized same-sex marriage
• United States only Massachusetts recognizes
  same-sex marriages.
• P. 173 You decide included for Opinion Paper 4.

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FAMILY TIES 3 of every 10 households consist of
blended families.

• Blended families families who bring other
  children into their new household. How many of
  you have half brothers or sisters? What are step
  brothers or sisters?
• Working Parents 70 both parents working
• END

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SEXUAL HEALTH

• DEFINITIONS
• Endocrine System the group of organs that
  produce hormones. Except for the sex organs,
  males and females have identical endocrine sys.
• Gonads the structures that produce the future
  reproductive cells of an individual. Testes for
  men, ovaries for women.

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• Estrogen and Progesterone women hormones
• Testosterone male hormone
• Both have small amounts of hormones of the
  opposite sex. Estrogen is crucial to male
  fertility and sperm their reproductive punch.
• WHY ARE GIRLS STARTING MENARCHE (first
  menstruation) EARLIER EVEN BY 6 YRS. OLD. IN 1900
  GIRLS DIDNT START UNTIL 15.!!!!

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WOMENS SEXUAL HEALTH

• Female Sexual Anatomy
• Labia lips outside of genital area
• Clitoris most sensitive organ
• Urethra opening for urine
• Vagina the canal that leads to the primary
  internal organs
• Cervix opening to the womb
• Uterus the womb, fetus is formed
• Ovaries contain ova or eggs
• Fallopian tubes canals that transport ova from
  the ovaries to the uterus

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(a) External structure
Mons pubis
Labia majora
Clitoris
Urethra
Vaginal opening
Labia minora
Perineum
Anus
Fig. 7-3a, p. 176
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(b) Internal structure
Fallopian tube (oviduct)
Fimbriae
Endometrium
Ovary
Uterus (womb)
Cervix
Pubic bone and mons pubis
Rectum
Bladder
Vagina
Urethra
Perineum
Anus
Clitoris
Labia majora
Vaginal opening
Labia minora
Fig. 7-3b, p. 176
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MENS SEXUAL HEALTH

• Male Sexual Anatomy
• Penis sex and urination
• Scrotum pouch that contains the testes
• Testicles 2 inside the scrotum that mfg. Sperm
• Epididymis coiled tubes that hold immature
  sperm
• Urethra opening at head of penis for urine
• Vas Deferens 2 tubes that carry sperm into the
  urethra
• Prostate Gland produces some of the seminal
  fluid for ejaculation
• Cowpers glands 2 pea sized, on either side of
  the urethra, milky substance appears as a droplet
  at the tip of the penis. Not semen although it
  occasionally contains sperm.

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A. External structure
Penis
Testes (in scrotum)
Glans
Opening of urethra
Uncircumcised
Circumcised
Fig. 7-5a, p. 180
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B. Internal structure
Vertebral column
Urinary bladder
Pubic bone
Rectum
Seminal vesicle
Vas deferens
Ejaculatory duct Prostate gland
Penis
Anus
Spongy bodies of erectile tissue
Cowpers gland
Glans penis
Urethra
Epididymis
Scrotum
Testis
Fig. 7-5b, p. 180
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HOW MANY FLUIDS ARE THERE THEN IN 1 EJACULATION?

• Circumcision surgical removal of the foreskin
  on the tip of the penis
• About 60 undergo, circumcision.
• Boys who are not circumcised are 4 times to
  develop urinary tract infections in their first
  year, but only happens in 1 of circumcised boys.

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RESPONSIBLE SEXUALITY

• Talk about your history of sex with partners, and
  birth control p. 181-182
• Have the person get a test for STDs.
• Saying NO to Sex p. 182
• Improving a Sexual Relationship p. 182
• How Sexually Active are College Students
• About 2/3 of 18-19 yrs. have had intercourse
• 69 women, and 64 men
• p. 184 Race and ethnicity (read)

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Sexual Diversity

• Sexual Orientation attraction toward same sex,
  or opposite sex.
• Bisexuality Freud argued that we all start off
  this way, attracted to both sexes, but then
  choose.
• Bisexuality sexual attraction to both males and
  females can develop at any point in ones life.
  Some cultures boys perform oral sex on each other
  as a rite of passage into manhood. 7-9 million
  men who are married to women who secretly engage
  sex with men. Fear of HIV.
• Homosexuality social, emotional, and sexual
  attraction to members of the same sex.

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Sexual Diversity (cont)

• Heterosexual primary sexual orientation toward
  members of opposite sex.
• Transgender having a gender identity opposite
  to ones biological sex.

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Sexual Activity

• Celibacy abstention from sexual activity, can
  be partial or complete, permanent or temporary.
  Why? Careers, fear of pregnancy or STDs.
• Fantasy thinking of sexual desires and
  pleasures and/or acting them out.
• Abstinence refraining from sexual activities
  which involve vaginal, anal, and oral
  intercourse. Still fool around????? Religious
  beliefs, fear of pregnancy or STDs. What does
  the term virgin mean to you?
• Masturbation manual self-stimulation of the
  genitals, often resulting in orgasm.

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• 5. Kissing and Touching kissing is a universal
  sign of affection. Touching is a silent form of
  communication between friends and lovers.
  Sometimes referred to as foreplay.
  (Outercourse)??
• 6. Intercourse coitus penetration of the
  vagina by the penis.
• 7. Oral Sex cunnilingus oral stimulation of
  womens genitals and fellatio oral stimulation
  of male genitals.
• 8. Anal Sex 25 of adults have experienced it.

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Sexual Response(not in book)

• Excitement phase
• Plateau phase
• Orgasmic phase
• Resolution phase refractory period, men
  incapable of another orgasm.
• Being Sexually Responsible p. 190 (know some)