STEPS IN RELATIONSHIP DEVELOPMENT AND TERMINATION

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STEPS IN RELATIONSHIPDEVELOPMENT ANDTERMINATION

• Initially developed
• by
• Mark Knapp

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REASONS TO DEVELOP RELATIONSHIPS

• To understand ourselves
• To understand others
• To understand our world
• To fulfill our needs
• inclusion
• affection
• control
• To increase and enrich positive experiences

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Points to consider

• Similar Interests
• we think we find friends based on similar
  interests
• Yet, we look more at similar activities
• Which means proximity

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Proximity

• The biggest single factor in
• Establishing
• Ending

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COMING TOGETHER

• INITIATING
• EXPERIMENTING
• INTENSIFYING level a level
  b level c

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JOHARI WINDOW

• Open Self
• Blind Self
• Hidden Self
• Unknown Self

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JOHARI WINDOW
Known to self Not known to self
Known to others Not known to others
Open Self Blind Self
Hidden Self Unknown Self
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SELF-DISCLOSURE

• Telling others about yourself
• Things they cannot find out
• Based on levels of risk
• low
• medium
• high
• Personal definitions for what is self-disclosure

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ISSUES OF SELF DISCLOSURE

• POSITIVE-NEGATIVE
• RECIPROCAL NATURE
• GENDER ISSUES

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Appropriate self-disclosure

• It is not random, it is ongoing
• It is reciprocated
• Concerns what is going on between and in people
  at the present time
• Creates a chance for improving the relationship
• Takes account of the effect it will have on the
  other

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COMING TOGETHER

• INITIATING
• EXPERIMENTING
• INTENSIFYING level a level
  b level c
• most relationships stop here
• INTEGRATION
• BONDING

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COMING APART

• DIFFERENTIATING
• CIRCUMSCRIBING
• STAGNATING
• AVOIDING
• TERMINATING

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If we dissolve.

• Can we go back?
• YES!
• Where do we start?

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Why dissolve.

• Proximity
• Interest levels?
• Activity levels?
• Other reasons?
• time involved
• need levels
• reciprocated self-disclosure