Title: Gay and Lesbian Families
1Gay and Lesbian Families
2What is a Gay/Lesbian Family?
- Families with only Gay/Lesbian Members
- Families with some Gay/Lesbian Members (whether
they accept them or not) - Families that embrace their Gay/Lesbian Members
- Families that support a Gay/Lesbian Rights Agenda
3Gay and Lesbian Parents-Not a New Phenomenon
- Living as straight (even to selves)
- Living in the Closet (out to selves and maybe a
select few) - Living out-
- Formerly married, adopting of new partners
children from former relationships
4The Marriage Question
- Marriage is a powerful legal and social
institution that protects and supports intimate
family relationships by providing a unique set of
rights, privileges, and benefits. - Same-sex couples are currently denied the right
to legally marry anywhere in the United States. - In Vermont, same-sex couples can have civil
unions, which confer many of the benefits of
marriage to couples who are residents. However,
these unions are not recognized outside of
Vermont.
5Canadas Example
- In 2002, a three-judge panel of the Ontario
Superior Court decided that granting marriage
licenses only to heterosexual couples violates
Canada's Charter of Rights and Freedoms. - The court also ordered the federal Parliament to
officially redefine "marriage" within the next
two years. Current federal law defines marriage
as "a union between one man and one woman to the
exclusion of all others."
6The Canadian Example- The Plantiffs
- "We're no longer second-class citizens in this
country, and the time has come for a change," Joe
Varnell, one of the plaintiffs who sued the
Ontario government for the right to marry another
man, said after the ruling. "My relationship is
validated, and nobody can say we're not a real
family anymore."
7How Does the Canadian Decision Impact the United
States?
- Will we be required to recognize foreign same sex
marriages? - as a general rule, most foreign marriages
historically have been respected (that is,
treated as valid) for most purposes in the United
States if they were validly entered in the
country where the couple married under what are
known as "principles of comity. - This is a flexible doctrine that says that
countries generally should respect the legal acts
of other countries because its important that
other countries be willing to respect your own
country's legal acts, and because people should
not have to worry about whether another country
won't do so, as they cross borders.
8Will the United States Recognize Gay Marriages?
- Break into groups of 4.
- Discuss this issue.
- What can you conclude?
9The Defense of Marriage Act
- In 1996, the "Defense of Marriage Act" (DOMA) was
passed - limiting the federal definition of
marriage to exclude same-sex couples. Many states
have passed similar legislation, further denying
same-sex couples the protections and recognition
that heterosexual couples receive.
10Defense of Marriage Act- May 8, 1996
- Section 7- In determining the meaning of any act
of Congress, or of any ruling, regulation, or
interpretation of the various administrative
bureaus and agencies of the United States, the
word marriage means only a legal union between
one man and one woman as husband and wife, and
the word spouse refers only to a person of the
opposite sex who is a husband or a wife. - -Section 1738B- No state, territory, or
possession of the United States, or Indian tribe,
shall be required to give effect to any public
act, record, or judicial proceeding of any other
state, territory, possession, or tribe respecting
a relationship between persons of the same sex
that is treated as a marriage under the laws of
such other State, territory, possession, or
tribe, or a right or claim arising form such
relationship.
11Because lesbians and gays cannot marry, they have
no right to
- Accidental death benefit for the surviving spouse
of a government employee - Appointment as guardian of a minor
- Award of child custody in divorce proceedings
- Beneficial owner status of corporate securities
- Bill of Rights benefits for victims and
witnesses - Burial of service member's dependents
- Certificates of occupation
- Consent to post-mortem examination
- Continuation of rights under existing homestead
leases - Control, division, acquisition, and disposition
of community property - Criminal injuries compensation
12- Death benefit for surviving spouse for government
employee - Disclosure of vital statistics records
- Division of property after dissolution of
marriage - Eligibility for housing opportunity allowance
program of the Housing, Finance and Development
Corporation - Exemption from claims of Department of Human
Services for social services payments, financial
assistance, or burial payments - Exemption from conveyance tax
- Exemption from regulation of condominium sales to
owner-occupants - Funeral leave for government employees
- Homes of totally disabled veterans exempt from
property taxes - Income tax deductions, credits, rates exemption,
and estimates - Inheritance of land patents
13- Insurance licenses, coverage, eligibility, and
benefits organization of mutual benefits society
- Legal status with partners children
- Making, revoking, and objecting to anatomical
gifts - Making partner medical decisions
- Nonresident tuition deferential waiver
- Notice of guardian ad litem proceedings
- Notice of probate proceedings
- Payment of wages to a relative of deceased
employee - Payment of worker's compensation benefits after
death - Permission to make arrangements for burial or
cremation
14- Proof of business partnership
- Public assistance from the Department of Human
Services - Qualification at a facility for the elderly
- Real property exemption from attachment or
execution - Right of survivorship to custodial trust
- Right to be notified of parole or escape of
inmate - Right to change names
- Right to enter into pre-marital agreement
- Right to file action for nonsupport
- Right to inherit property
- Right to purchase leases and cash freehold
agreements concerning the management and
disposition of public land - Right to sue for tort and death by wrongful act
- Right to support after divorce
- Right to support from spouse
- Rights and proceedings for involuntary
hospitalization and treatment
15- Rights by way of dour or courtesy
- Rights to notice, protection, benefits, and
inheritance under the uniform probate code - Sole interest in property
- Spousal privilege and confidential marriage
communications - Spousal immigration benefits
- Status of children
- Support payments in divorce action
- Tax relief for natural disaster losses
- Vacation allowance on termination of public
employment by death - Veterans' preference to spouse in public
employment - In vitro fertilization coverage
- Waiver of fees for certified copies and searches
of vital statistics.
16Cultural Variation
- There is a wide range of variation in how
sexuality is regarded. - How the individual is regarded varies widely as
well. - A few examples follow.
17The Aleut and Kodiak Islanders
- Among the Aleut and Kodiak Islanders in Southern
Alaska, for example, a Russian explorer in 1812
described berdaches, called shopan or achnucke,
as respected shamans. A Koniag who has an
Achnucek instead of a wife is regarded as lucky.
A father or a mother design a son for an Achnucek
from his infancy, if he seems to them to resemble
a girl. Kodiak parents would select their most
handsome and promising boy to raise as feminine.
His hair was styled like a womans, he was
dressed in womens clothing, and any facial hair
was carefully plucked out. At the age of ten to
fifteen years, he would be married to a wealthy
man. The husband regarded his boy-wife as a
major social accomplishment, and the boys family
benefited from association with their new wealthy
in-law. Since the boy was treated with great
respect, this practice seemed to provide a
no-lose situation for easy social mobility among
Aleut and Kodiak families.
18The Lache Indians of Colombia
- It was a law among them that if a woman bore
five consecutive male children, without giving
birth to a female, they could make a female of
one of the sons, when he reached the age of
twelve that is to say, the could rear him as a
woman and teach him the habits of a woman,
bringing him up in that wise. In their bodily
form and manners they appeared so perfectly to be
women that no one who beheld them could
distinguish them from the others, and these were
known as cusmos and they performed womanly tasks
with the strength of men, as a result of which,
when they had attained the proper age, they were
given in wedlock as women. And indeed the Laches
preferred them to true women, whereby it follows
that the abomination of sodomy was freely
permitted. (As described by a Spanish explorer)
19Navaho and Lakota Examples
- Williams reports on Navahos the Nadle (man
woman) are high status individuals. Nadles are
seen as compassionate and kind, so if a Nadle
takes an interest in your child, it is
flattering. They are seen as loving toward
children, and good parents- since adoption of
children is common in most American Indian
societies, Nadle and others in other Nations
often adopt children - Ie. Terry Calling Eagle, a Lakota Berdache has
adopted and raised seven orphaned children.
20The United States Today
- According to the American Psychological
Association, "More and more lesbian women and gay
men are choosing to parent. They are adopting
children, becoming foster parents, having
biological children through donor insemination,
etc., either as single parents or with other gay
or lesbian co-parents." (Lesbian and Gay
Parenting A Resource for Psychologists, 1995.)
21Gay/Lesbian Parenting in the United States Today
- Bisexual and transgender people are also making
choices to maintain or expand their families.
While there have always been GLBT parents, there
has been a recent increase in the number of GLBT
people who are making that choice and who are
being visible about it. - For many years, people assumed that if someone
was homosexual, bisexual or transgender, they
either didn't want to or couldn't become parents.
This is not true. GLBT people are just like
everyone else - some want to have children and
some don't. But being gay, lesbian, bisexual or
transgender is quickly becoming less of a barrier
to starting a family.
22Gay/Lesbian Parenting
- For much of GLBT history, parenting was possible
only if you engaged in a heterosexual
relationship or marriage. - GLBT parents had to chose between coming out of
the closet and losing their family, or staying
closeted and denying their true selves. - Now, people who come out in heterosexual
marriages are able to maintain a relationship
with their children, while being honest with
themselves. - At the same time, thanks to medical advances and
progressive adoption laws, GLBT couples or
singles can decide to become parents on their
own.
23View Daddy and Papa
- While Viewing the film ask yourself
- What obstacles to they face that other parents
dont face? - How do others react to their choices?
- How do cultural stereotypes inform reactions?
24Research on Gay/Lesbian Parents
- There is no evidence that GLBT people are not
good parents, or that there are negative
emotional or psychological impacts on their
children. - On the contrary, studies have consistently shown
that there are no differences in the emotional
and psychological development between children
with gay parents or children with heterosexual
parents. (See the American Psychological
Association report.) - There are some negative costs for children of
GLBT parents, but they come from others - Unfortunately, young children and teens of GLBT
parents are subject to anti-gay teasing and
harassment, regardless of their own sexual
orientation.
25Research on Gay/Lesbian Parents
- Like families headed by heterosexual parents,
lesbian and gay parents and their children are a
diverse group (Martin, 1993). - Negative outcomes such as loss of physical
custody, restrictions on visitation, and
prohibitions against adoption are additional
burdens faced by Gay and Lesbian Parents (Falk,
1989 Editors of the Harvard Law Review, 1990). - As with all socially stigmatized groups, the
beliefs held generally in society about lesbians
and gay men are often not based in personal
experience, but are instead culturally
transmitted (Herek, 1991).
26Understanding the Research
- Systematic research comparing lesbian and gay
adults to heterosexual adults only began in the
late 1950s, and research comparing children of
gay and lesbian parents with those of
heterosexual parents is of a more recent vintage.
- Research on lesbian and gay adults began with
Evelyn Hooker's landmark study (1957) and
culminated with the declassification of
homosexuality as a mental disorder in 1973
(Gonsiorek, 1991). - Case reports on children of gay and lesbian
parents began to appear in the psychiatric
literature in the early 1970s (e.g., Osman, 1972
Weeks, Derdeyn, Langman, 1975) and have
continued to appear (e.g., Agbayewa, 1984).
27Stereotypes and Assumptions
- One belief that often underlies both judicial
decision-making in custody litigation and public
policies governing foster care and adoption has
been the belief that lesbians and gay men are not
fit to be parents. - In particular, courts have sometimes assumed that
gay men and lesbians are mentally ill, that
lesbians are less maternal than heterosexual
women, and that lesbians' and gay men's
relationships with sexual partners leave little
time for ongoing parent-child interactions
(Editors of the Harvard Law Review, 1990).
Results of research to date have failed to
confirm any of these beliefs (Falk, 1989, 1994
Patterson, 1994b, 1995b, 1996).
28Not a Mental Disease/Defect
- The psychiatric, psychological, and social-work
professions do not consider homosexual
orientation to be a mental disorder. More than 20
years ago, the American Psychiatric Association
removed "homosexuality" from its list of mental
disorders, stating that "homosexuality per se
implies no impairment in judgment, stability,
reliability, or general social or vocational
capabilities" (American Psychiatric Association,
1980). - In 1975, the American Psychological Association
took the same position and urged all mental
health professionals to help dispel the stigma of
mental illness that had long been associated with
homosexual orientation (American Psychological
Association, 1975). The National Association of
Social Workers has a similar policy (National
Association of Social Workers, 1994).
29Parental Fitness
- Lesbian and heterosexual women have not been
found to differ markedly either in their overall
mental health or in their approaches to child
rearing - Recent evidence suggests that lesbian couples who
are parenting together tend to divide household
and family labor relatively evenly and to report
satisfaction with their couple relationships.
Research on gay fathers has similarly found no
reason to believe them unfit as parents.
30Fears About Gay and Lesbian Parents
- In addition to judicial concerns about gay and
lesbian parents themselves, courts have voiced
three major kinds of fears about effects of
lesbian or gay parents on children. - 1) Gender Identity Issues
- 2) Childs Personal Development
- 3) Difficulty in Social Relations
31Gender Identity Issues
- The first general concern is that development of
sexual identity will be impaired among children
of lesbian or gay parents. For instance, that
children brought up by gay fathers or lesbian
mothers will show disturbances in gender identity
and/or in gender role behavior. - It has also been suggested that children brought
up by lesbian mothers or gay fathers will
themselves become gay or lesbian. - No evidence supports either concern.
32Child Personal Development
- A second category of concerns involves aspects of
children's personal development other than sexual
identity. - For example, courts have expressed fears that
children in the custody of gay or lesbian parents
will be more vulnerable to mental breakdown, will
exhibit more adjustment difficulties and behavior
problems, and will be less psychologically
healthy than children growing up in homes with
heterosexual parents. - No Evidence appears to support such fears.
33Difficulty in Social Relations
- A third category of specific fears expressed by
the courts is that children of lesbian and gay
parents may experience difficulties in social
relationships. - For example, judges have repeatedly expressed
concern that children living with lesbian mothers
may be stigmatized, teased, or otherwise
traumatized by peers. Another common fear is that
children living with gay or lesbian parents may
be more likely to be sexually abused by the
parent or by the parent's friends or
acquaintances. - No evidence supports the belief that gays are
lesbians are more likely to abuse children.