Maturity

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Maturity

• Ms. Kissel

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September 15, 2008

• Entry task
• How do decisions impact our goals and dreams?
• Target for today
• Identify the 5 social stages of maturity and
  symptoms of emotional insecurity.

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Social Maturity

• Receiving
• The gimme stage
• where all the person thinks about is what I
  want, what I feel, what I need.
• The self-centered stage of social adjustment of
  infant children (and some adults).

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Social Maturity

• Manipulation
• Using various means to get others to do what one
  wants.
• Crying, threatening, teasing, coaxing, and
  bribing are common methods of getting ones own
  way.
• Still childish, immature approach to problems.

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Social Maturity

• Compromise
• Used by persons who learn they cant always have
  their own way so are willing to give if they can
  take.
• You do this for me and Ill do that for you.

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Social Maturity

• Sharing
• 2 people join forces, share activities, work,
  responsibilities, for the sake of them both.
• Thus, a wife goes to work part-time to help the
  husband support the family
• he helps at home with the housework.
• Or, together they work to buy a new car.

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Social Maturity

• Creative Cooperation
• The family begins to look beyond itself and its
  own selfishness needs to the needs of others.
• Thus, a husband-wife work together to help at the
  Historical Association, build a community meeting
  hall, church, etc.

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Maturity by Dr. Aaron Stern

• To attain emotional maturity, each of us must
  learn to develop two critical capacities the
  ability to live with uncertainty and the ability
  to delay immediate gratification in favor of long
  range goals. Adolescence is a time of maximum
  resistance to further growth.

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Maturity by Dr. Aaron Stern

• It is a time characterized by the teenagers
  ingenious efforts to maintain the privileges of
  childhood, while at the same time demanding the
  rights of adulthood. It is a point beyond which
  most human beings do not pass emotionally.

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Maturity by Dr. Aaron Stern

• The more we do for our children the less they can
  do for themselves. The dependent child of today
  is destined to become the dependent parent of
  tomorrow.

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Symptoms of Emotional Insecurity

• Excessive Jealousy
•  Deep Feelings of Inferiority
•  Exaggerated lack of self-confidence
•  Worry of little things
•  Feelings of being rejected, unwanted and unloved

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Symptoms of Emotional Insecurity

• Exaggerated emotional dependency on others
•  Deep-seated guilt, shame
•  Highly critical, rigid, judgmental attitude
•  Inability to accept responsibility, blame for
  shortcomings, projection of blame on others

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Symptoms of Emotional Insecurity

• Excessive rationalization, making excuses because
  of failure.
•  Overcompensates for insecurities by bragging,
  aggressiveness
•  Tendency to escapism through daydreaming, sleep,
  illness, drugs or alcohol, or walking away from a
  situation

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Symptoms of Emotional Insecurity

• Tendency to regress to infantile manifestations
  of behaviors tantrums, moodiness, and crying
•  Excessive hostility, resentment, bitterness
•  Cannot control their reactions

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Maturity - Dear Abby

• To be able to stick with a job until it is
  finished.
• To do ones duty without being supervised.
• To be able to carry money without spending it.
• To be able to bear an injustice without wanting
  to get even.