Being There: A Study of Godly Manhood

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Being ThereA Study of Godly Manhood

• Lesson 5 Being There for Your Wife (part 3)

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Being There for Your Wife
Will to Obey
Work to Do
Woman to Love
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Casual Mens Poll -- Results

• How does satan effectively attack men?
• Sex
• Ego
• Selfishness
• Confusion about manhood
• Anger

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Security

• Security what are we talking about?

Security
or
Security
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Security
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Security
How could any man ever think wed choose money
over him?
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Security
So in essence you guys are thinking that we are
materialistic really, really materialistic
and that wed choose things over your happiness?!
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Security

• Why are we unbalanced in favor of work?
• Your job might be at risk
• You have a demanding boss
• Your familys lifestyle requires it
• You want to get ahead
• You cant let your organization down
• Youd rather be at work than at home
• You enjoy it
• Your work doesnt include yourhome

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Security

• For a woman, security means
• She feels you are close
• You make time together a priority
• She sees your commitment
• You are active at home
• You make an effort to provide

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Security
She Feels You Are Close

• Physical proximity ? closeness
• She feels you are close when she feels
• You belong to and love each other
• You two are best friends

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Security
You Make Time Together a Priority

• Being a priority time you give her compared to
  other things
• You prefer to spend time with her

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Security
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She Sees Your Commitment

• You are willing to choose her over
• Job
• Hobbies
• Friends
• Other women
• Anything but God

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Security
You Are Active at Home

• Noticing things around the house
• Being home for dinner on time
• Leaving your work at work
• Working out your weekend schedule together
• Helping with the dishes, etc.
• Bible studies for your children
• Planning what you want your children to know
• Teaching your children what you want them to know
• Spending time with your children
• Praying with your children
• Praying about your family
• You study your Bible every day
• Planning family vacations together
• Leaving your work behind on family vacations

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Security
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Security
Am I providing the type of security that she
genuinely wants and needs?
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Real World Case Study
Plans for the Weekend
1. Well, sure. Lets go for the fancy hotel
as long as you dont mind getting there on unsafe
tires.
2. Putting on blue indoor-outdoor carpet isnt
the kind of golf I had in mind.
3. We couldnt afford that if we ate Taco Bell
for a month.
4. ???
Blake
Nicole
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Listening
Note The following slides on the topic of
Listening are incomplete.
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Listening

• The scenario
• She seems to need a listening ear
• You care, so you say, Whats up?
• She reveals whats bugging her
• You care, so you try to help
• She reacts with,Obviously, you dont care!

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Listening
She doesnt want you to fix it,she just wants
you to listen.
Doesnt want or need your solution
Does want and need you to understand her feelings
it emotional issue
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Listening
So we can understand how she feels about
something that is bothering her.
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Listening