GUIDANCE Vs' DISCIPLINE

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GUIDANCE Vs. DISCIPLINE

• Human Development

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What is guidance??

• Discipline and punishment are only a small part
  of effective guidance.
• DOES NOT mean making children behave.
• It DOES mean using firmness and understanding to
  help children develop self discipline

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Effective Guidance

• Linked to a childs age and emotional and social
  development.
• Helps children learn to get along with others.
• Helps children to handle their own feelings in
  acceptable ways.
• Promotes security and positive self worth

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Effective guidance moral development

• Very young children understand right and wrong
  only in terms of being praised or scolded.
• Children gradually develop a conscience.
• As they mature, they use this conscience to act
  morally when facing new situations.

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What is the key to guiding childrens behavior??
CONSISTENCY
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Consistency what is it why is it the key to
effective guidance?

• Its a matter of clearly making rules and
  applying them in the same way all the time.
• Children will know what is expected of them and
  what responses they can expect from their
  parents/caregivers
• Important when more than 1 person cares for a
  child.
• Multiple caregivers need to agree in advance on
  rules and ways to enforce them.

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What happens if were not consistent?

• Children will lose trust and confidence in
  caregivers who constantly change rules or doesnt
  enforce them.
• Children could be come confused and insecure
• Children will pay little attention to the next
  limits that are set.

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So, how can we guide children to behave
appropriately?

• Encourage appropriate behavior.
• Setting and enforcing limits
• Dealing with inappropriate behavior in effective
  ways.

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Encouraging Appropriate Behavior

• Guidance that is applied only after the child has
  done something wrong has little chance of
  success.
• Set a good example
• Tell what is expected
• Praise appropriate behavior (Positive
  reinforcement)
• Be specific
• Notice the behavior ASAP
• Recognize small steps
• Help the child take pride in his or her actions
• Taylor the encouragement to the needs of the
  child
• Offer choices

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Setting Limits

• Limits include physical restrictions, such as
  preventing a child from crossing the street and
  rules of behavior we dont hit other people.
• Limits should keep children from hurting
  themselves, other people, or property.
• Children will respect and follow limits if there
  are few and theyre reasonable.

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Questions to ask when setting limits

• Does the limit allow the children to learn,
  explore, and grow?
• Is the limit fair and appropriate for the childs
  age?
• Does the limit benefit the child, or is it just
  for the adults convenience?

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Make limits clear!

• State limits simply and briefly
• Youll probably need to restate the limit each
  time the situation arises.
• Young children may not remember or even realize
  that limits stated one day still apply.
• If you think the child remembers the limit, ask.
• Limits must be clear.
• Use a calm, direct tone of voice when setting
  limits.

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4 steps to setting limits

• Show understanding of the childs desires.
• Set the limit and explain it.
• Acknowledge the childs feelings.
• Give alternatives.
• Once established and explained, limits should be
  firmly and consistently enforced

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Deal with inappropriate behavior

• No matter how much or what adults do to encourage
  appropriate behavior, children all children
  misbehave from time to time. When this happens,
  adults must deal with the situation appropriately
  and effectively.
• A childs age should shape the response.

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Questions to ask when responding to misbehavior

• Is the expected behavior appropriate, given the
  childs development?
• Does the child understand that the behavior is
  wrong?
• Was the behavior done knowingly and deliberately,
  or was it beyond the childs control?

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Unintentional Misbehavior

• Should not be punished
• Misbehavior is unintentional if the child had no
  way of knowing it was wrong
• Examples of unintentional misbehavior
• A child drops a cup of milk that is too heavy
• A child accidentally breaks something that should
  have been out of reach
• A child picks a flower in the park to bring to a
  parent the child was never taught not to pick
  the flowers in the park

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Using punishment effectively

• When children deliberately do something that they
  know is wrong, some form of punishment may be
  necessary.
• In punishing the adult should make clear that he
  or she disapproves of the behavior, but still
  loves the child.
• The first time a child breaks a rule the child
  should be given a warning.
• Remind the child of the rule and its importance
• Gives child a chance to regain self control
• After a rule has been broken a second time,
  punishment is in order.

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What is punishment?

• Negative reinforcement
• a response aimed at discouraging a child from
  repeating a negative behavior.
• Useful techniques for dealing with inappropriate
  behavior
• Natural consequences
• Loss of privileges
• Time-out

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Natural consequences

• The child suffers the results of the negative
  behavior
• A child is told to stop running on the sidewalk.
  The child continues to run on the sidewalk but
  falls and scrapes his or her knee.
• Falling and getting hurt should be punishment
  enough to remind the child not to run on the
  sidewalk again.

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Loss of Privileges

• Most effective on children older than 5
• Works best if the privilege that is taken away is
  related to the negative behavior.
• For example
• A child throws a toy and is warned. After
  throwing it again the toy is taken away. The
  child can now associate the behavior with the
  punishment.

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Giving time-out

• Its a short period of time where the child sits
  away from other people and the center of
  activity.
• Purpose to give the child a chance to calm down
  and regain self control

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Poor disciplinary measures

• Bribing
• Child will expect reward for misbehavior
• Making children promise to behave
• Children naturally make mistakes, dont you?
• Shouting or yelling
• Frighten young children
• Older children tune out
• Shaming or belittling
• Harm the childs self confidence
• Threatening to withhold love
• Creates a fear of being rejected and abandoned

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If all else fails

• Take a break!
• Walk away
• Send them to a friend/relatives house for a short
  while
• Count to 10
• Just dont lose control!!!!