Leadership Begins With an Attitude

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EXTERNALLY FOCUSED CHURCH LEADERSHIP TRAINING
Million Leaders Mandate Curriculum by JOHN C.
MAXWELL Notebook Three Christ, the Great
Communicator Lesson 3
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Improving Your Communication Skills by Imitating
the Master Death and life are in the power of
the tongue, and those who love it will eat its
fruit Proverbs 1821
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Power of Triangle- Robert Dilenscheider

• Communication

Recognition
influence

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Publius Syrus

• Speech is a mirror of the soul.
• As a man speaks so he is.

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Question

• Todays Matter book states that YOU WILL never
  change your life until you change something you
  do daily
• Do you have effective communication skills?
• If so how are you using it?
• What would you need to change in order to
  IMPROVE on your communication skills?

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1. Simplify the Message
Matthew 133, 10-13 Its not what you say, but
how you say it. The Educator takes something
simple and makes it complicated The Communicator
takes something complicated and makes it
simple Winston Churchills Rules of
Communication

1. Strong beginning
2. One theme
3. Simple language

• d. Familiar pictures
• Clear objective
• f. Heart response

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James 4 13-17

• Look here, you people who say, Today or
  tomorrow we are going to a certain town and will
  stay there a year. We will do business there and
  make a profit. How do you know what will happen
  tomorrow? For your life is like the morning fog
  its here a little while, then its gone. What
  you ought to say is, if the Lord wants us to, we
  will live and do this or that. Otherwise you
  will be boasting about your own plans and all
  such boasting is evil.

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2. Know The People
Matthew 131-2, 9 Its not what you say, but how
you hear it.

• Public Speaker
• Puts the message before the people
• Asks What do I have?
• The key is techniques
• Content-oriented
• Goal is to complete the message

• Communicator
• Puts the people before the message
• Asks What do they need?
• The key is atmosphere
• Change-oriented
• Goal is to complete the people

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Perspective of a Leader

• Practical people know how to get what they want
• Philosophers know what they ought to want
• Leaders know how to get what they ought to want.

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Definition of success

• Success can be defined as the progressive
  realization of a predetermined goal. This
  definition tells us that the discipline to
  prioritize and the ability to work toward a
  stated goal are essential to a leaders success.

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3. Seize The Moment
Matthew 132, 14-17, 57-58 Its not just what you
say, but when you say it.

• Questions to ask .
• Unclear Purpose. What is the point? We can
  identify content but not purpose.
• Dont just inform. Persuade!!!!
• So much information that the subject becomes too
  broad
• Poor Finishing. Boring

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4. Show The Truth
Matthew 1354 Its not just what you say, but how
you show it.

• Everytime you speak your audience is quietly
• asking
• Why should I listen to you?
• Can I trust you?
• Do you care for me?
• Do you know your subject?

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5. Share The Passion
Matthew 1353-57 Its not just what you say, but
why you say it.

• Tips on speaking with passion
• Speak on themes that you own for yourself.
• Be impact-conscious rather than image-conscious.
• Be authentic. Lock on to a pair of eyes with each
  point.
• Paint pictures in their hearts.
• Know what your goal is when you speak.
• Prepare with prayer and let God build a fire
  inside you.

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• Left brain thinking
• Logical
• Rational
• Analytical
• Objective
• Sequential

• Right brain thinking
• Intuitive
• Instinctive
• Synthesizing
• Subjective
• Random

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Questions for discussion

• How do you rate your ability to communicate with
  others?
• Is communication a priority for you?
• Can you inspire and motivate people?
• Do you express your vision in such a way that
  your people are able to understand, internalize
  and implement it?
• When you talk to people one on one, are you able
  to connect?
• How about with groups?

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6. Seek The Response
Matthew 1351 Its not just what you say, but how
they respond to it.

• Tips on helping people respond to the truth
• Have a clear objective for your listener to act
  on.
• Reduce it to a simple phrase and write it down.
• Use a hook the listener can grasp and remember.
• Give them a point for their head and a picture
  for their heart.
• Provide a vehicle for them to use to respond.
• Ask for what you want them to do.

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Steps to Reduce Your Anxiety

1. Prepare extensively.
2. Memorize your first burst.
3. Speak to friendly eyes.
4. Dress comfortably for the audience.
5. Take deep breaths before you begin.
6. Visualize yourself being effective.
7. State your goal to yourself before you begin.
8. Use visual aids.
9. Come to the meeting room early.
10. Pray, pray, pray!

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Communicate Continually

• Develop platforms for communication.
• Control communication killers.
• Encourage honesty and transparency in
  conversations.
• Adopt a positive communication style.

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Perceptions of People

• Visually How we appear 55
• Vocally How we sound 38
• Verbally What we say 7

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Voice and Speech Evaluation

• Voice Production
• Support of tone
• -------Good ------Needs Improvement
  ---weak
• 2. Proper Breathing
• 3. Vocal Quality (harsh, nasal, breathy etc )
• 4. Resonance
• 5. Overall vocal energy

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Voice and Speech Evaluation

• Producing the sounds
• 1. Sharp articulation
• 2. Flexible lips, jaw and tongue
• 3. Clear and correct punctuation
• Diction using long and short vowels sounds

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Voice and Speech Evaluation

• Vocal Variety
• 1. Volume
• 2. Pace or rhythm
• 3. pitch
• 4. Inflection -nuance, modulation, intonation,
  shade, tone
• 5. Attitude
• 6. Shading and word emphasis
• 7. Use of the pause