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• ????????(?2526),
• ????27?,??????????????(?2634)???,????????????????
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????????(?275-1741-46)

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• ?????????,?????????,???????????

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????????(?2527-28)

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• ???????????(???17???14),??????????????????????????
  ???????????
• ?? 217 ???????????????.
• ????????????????????????(partner),???????(wife of
  your marriage covenant) ?????????(??)(?214?16)?

9

• ?????(??18?22,?9-10)?????(???18???1-7 )?????
• ??????,????????,?????????????,?????????,?????????
  ???????????
• ??????????????????????????????(????4?9,?NIV
  ???,??as for me...as for you ???...???????)???????
  ??????????,?????
• ??????,????????(?????,???????)?

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• ??????????????,????????????,??????????????????????
  ??????,??????????,???????????
• ???,??????????????(?????????????)
• ????????????

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• ??????,?????????,????????????,??????,?????????????
  ?(??,??flood????)
• ????

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?????(??)

• ?????
• ??????,?????(? 216)
• ?????????????,???????? (? 63)
• ???????????,??????(? 710)( vs. ?????????)
• ? ?5-7??????????????

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1. ?????
2. ????

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• ????,
• ????
• ??????????,
• ??????????
• ?????18

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• 1.?(??)???Words of affirmation

16
???????? Express appreciation and affection

• ????,???????????? William James
  ???????????,?????????/??? The deepest principle
  in human nature is the craving to be appreciated??

17

• appreciation ?affection ??????,??????????????????
  ???????????????????????????
• ?1711-19 ?????????,???????,???????????,?????????
  ??????????????,??????,??????????????

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• ??/?????
• ??????????????,????????,??????????????
• ???????????????????????????????????,?????????????
  ?????,??????????,??????Sex begins in the kitchen??

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• ???????????
• ???????????????
• ?????????????,??

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• ?????????????????,?????,?????????????????????
• ????!
• ??????????
• ???? ????

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• 2.???? quality time
• ??
• ??
• ???(?????????? Saving Private Ryan ?
  ????????????? Titanic? )? ???
• ????
• ?????????????

22
3.???? Act of service? Talk is cheap.? Dont
tell me. Show me!

• ??(brown rice ??)
• ?? (??)
• ??(??)
• ??

• ?? (???)
• ??????
• ???/??(???)
• ??????

23

• 4.???? Receiving gifts
• ??
• ?????/??
• ???

24

• 5.???? physical touch
• ??????????????????
• ???? (???????,?????????!)
• ??? ????????? ??????

25

• ??????????????????
• ??41-51 ,
• ????,???,???????,?????????,?????????,?????????
• ?51?,?????????????? ???!??!?????!?(?????
  ???????????)

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• ?????,
• ???????????????? (?????)
• ??????!??!????????????????????????(??)???????,?
  ????????,???????????????????????????????????????
  ???????????,????????????,????????????(?710-13,???
  )

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• ??????
• ???????????
• ?????????????,???????????????????????,??????,???
  ??????????,?????????????,?????????,???????????????
  ???,?????????????????????(??73-5,???)

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1. ?????
2. ????
3. ????

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?. ???? (?? 1225)

• 1223 ??????????????????????.???????????.24
  ???????????????.? ?????????????????????.25
  ????????.???????? (have equal concern for each
  other).
• ? ??????????turning toward each other instead of
  away

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?????? Romance in the marriage

• ?????
• ?????????????,????????????????????????

31

• ????????
• ?????????????
• ?a. ???????????
• ?(?????????)
• b. ??????,?????
• ????,????????
•  

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• ????
• ??????????
• ?a. ???????,????
• b. ???????,????
• ??????????

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• ???????,?????????,???????????,??????????????,?????
  ??,????????????,??????????????,???,????????,??????
  ??????,????????????????,?????????????emotionally
  connected??????????????????

34

• ??????,???????????????????????????????????????????
  ???companionship, spend time together????,??????
  ???????,????(??13-14)?
• ???????????????,??????????????(????????????)?????
  ??????????,???????????????,???????????????????????
  ???!!

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1. ?????
2. ????
3. ????
4. ?????

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?.?????

• 151???????????????????????????2
  ???????????????????????151 We who are strong
  ought to bear with the failings of the weak and
  not to please ourselves. 152 Each of us should
  please his neighbor for his good, to build him
  up. (???1-2 )

37

• ???????????
• ???????? vs ????
• ???
• ???????????!

38

• ????????? Let your partner influence you
• ??????,???????????????????,???????????,???,??????
• Gottman?????,???????,??????????????????,??????????
  ??????,??????????,????????,???????????????

39

• ???????,???????????(?????)?????,????,????????
• Gottman?????????,?????,??????????????????????????
  ,??????????,?????????
• ??????????,??????????????,???????

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• ?????, ?????, ??????????? ???,???????????
  ??,??????????? ????????,?????????
  ?????,??????????? ????,????????????

41

• ???,?????? ????! ????????????, ????? Its
  good for you!? ?, ?????? ??????,?,?????
  ??,??????? ??????,????????? ??,??!
  ??????,??! ????????????

42

• ??, ????????????,?????????? ?,?????
  ??,???????! ????, ??????? ???????

43

• ???, ???????, ???????? ?? ??????? ???
  ??????? ????!

44
????????

1. ?????
2. ????
3. ????
4. ?????
5. ????.??

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?.??????? accepting and bearing with each other

• ?????????????????????????? ?? (?157)
• ??????????????????,??????????????,?????,??????????
  ?????
• ??????????,??????(?313 )
• ????????????????????(Tyndale)

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• ????????????????????????? (reconcilable
  differences)
• ??????
• ??/??(intimacy,
  closeness)
• ??(power/control)
• ????????(??????)
• ??????????/??

47
Understanding the Anxious Mind By ROBIN MARANTZ
HENIG October 4, 2009 NYTM

• What if he was in
  What if there is a
• a car accident?
  terrorist on the subway?

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• In the longitudinal studies of anxiety, all you
  can say with confidence is that the high-reactive
  infants will not grow up to be exuberant,
  outgoing, bubbly or bold. Still, while a Sylvia
  Plath almost certainly wont grow up to be a Bill
  Clinton, she can either grow up to be anxious and
  suicidal, or simply a poet. Temperament is
  important, but life intervenes.

49
???? ??????? overcome gridlock
1. ????(?????) 2. ????,?????? 3. ????,?????? 4.
???????????????????? 5. ????? 6.
????? ???????therapeutic function
50
??????
51

• January 20, 2009 New York Times
• Your Nest Is Empty? Enjoy Each Other
• By TARA PARKER-POPE
• ???,???????,???????????????,????????????????

52

• ????72?????50????longitudinal study
  ????????????????????????????
• ?????????????????,???????????????????

53

• ??????????,???????????????????
• ? ??????????!!
• 2009?9????Vermont

54

• NYT February 12, 2008
• WELL
• Reinventing Date Night for Long-Married Couples
  ???????? ????????

55
?????????????

• ? ?????????(Dopamine) (?????????????????)????????
  ??????,??,????????????,??????????,??,????????????,
  ????????????

56

• ???????????????????????????????
• ????????,????????????????,????????,???????????????
  ???

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Midlife Suicide Rises, Puzzling Researchers By
PATRICIA COHEN February 19, 2008 New York Times

• ???45-54???????1999??2004??????????20???????????,
  ????31,??????????
• ???2004?????????,?????????40??65???,?????????45-54
  ????

58

• ??????????????????????????????????
• ??????????(1946-1964)?????????????????,??????????
  ???????
• ? ?????
• ? ?????!!

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2. ????
3. ????
4. ?????
5. ????.??

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