Title: Buddhism, Meditation and Modern Psychotherapy
1Buddhism, Meditation and Modern Psychotherapy
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4Psychotherapy and Religion
- What is the purpose of psychotherapy?
- Freud and tolerating the intolerable
- What is the purpose of religion?
5The Buddha
- Siddhartha Gautama
- Born to royalty
- Trained as a warrior and athlete
- Plowing festival compassion, natural Samadhi
and first jhana (meditative absorption) - Marriage at sixteen and then fatherhood in his
late twenties - Life of hedonism
- Venturing outside the palace
- The four sights aging, sickness, death and a
sadhu - At twenty-nine he renounces his lay life of
luxury and takes a vow to end the suffering of
all sentient beings (Bodhisattva) - Asceticism and extremism
- The middle way
- Complete enlightenment (union of wisdom and
compassion) at thirty-five
6The Buddha (cont)
- First turning of the wheel of Dharma
- The development of the Sangha
- The Three Jewels
- Buddha, his Aunt, ordination and feminism
- Buddha teaches for forty-five years and dies at
the age of eighty
7The Buddha (cont)
- Four Noble Truths
- The Truth of the Existence of Suffering
- Three Types
- Universal Suffering
- The Truth of the Cause of Suffering
- Three Poisons
- The Truth of the Cessation of Suffering
- The end of suffering is a possibility
- The Path to the Cessation of Suffering
- Noble eight fold path
81st Noble Truth
- The Truth of Suffering
- Three Basic Types of Suffering
- Gross suffering
- My head aches!
- My feelings are hurt!
- Ive been shot!
- The suffering of change
- Eating, drinking, sex pleasure becomes pain
- What we want we chase, once caught we cease to
want it and quickly become dissatisfied - The myth of desire (You are my everything)
- Pervasive suffering
- Having a mind under the influence of ignorance,
attachment and anger - Having a human body
- Having a human life
91st Noble Truth (cont)
- The Truth of Suffering
- Eight forms of universal suffering
- Birth
- Aging
- Sickness
- Death
- Being met with unfortunate circumstances beyond
our control - Being separated from people, places, and things
that we desire - Impermanence
- Karma
102nd Noble Truth
- The Truth of the Cause of Suffering
- The Three Poisons
- Ignorance
- Attachment
- Anger
11Poison 1 Ignorance of Self
- Western Perspective Eternalism
- Aristotle / Descartes / Newton
- I is eternal / permanent
- I is independent
- I is inherent
- God (the creator) exists
- The soul
12Poison 1 Ignorance of Self
- Western Perspective
- Descartes Cognito ergo sum
- Freud Where the id was, there the ego shall be
- Strong ego is affirmed as necessary for success
in work, love and play - The ego is strengthened in therapy and low
self-esteem is corrected - Fixed, continuous duality of observer and object
- From the Buddhist perspective, western
psychotherapy often seeks to reinforce and deepen
the fundamental illusion of self (which is the
root cause of our suffering as human beings). It
is tantamount to treating a wound by rubbing dirt
and filth into it - Question Do physicians heal the body? Do
psychologists heal the psyche?
13Poison 1 Ignorance of Self
- Eastern Perspective
- Hinduism
- I is impermanent
- I is interdependent
- I is inherent
- God (the creator) exists
- The soul or permanent self (atman)
14Poison 1 Ignorance of Self
- Eastern Perspective
- Hinduism
- Realization that self is a worldly construct
- Attempts to actualize (through spiritual
practice) the true or real self - Union of true self and God (Brahma)
15Poison 1 Ignorance of Self
- Eastern Perspective
- Buddhism
- I is impermanent
- I is interdependent
- I is not inherent
- No God (the creator)
- No soul / no self (anatman or annata)
16Poison 1 Ignorance of Self
- Eastern Perspective
- Buddhism
- The self (or ego) is a fundamental
misapprehension that should be deconstructed on
the most subtle and profound levels - Self (or ego) is formed as one attempts to avoid
the experience of suffering and craves and grasps
at the experience of pleasure - Self (or ego) should be deconstructed to reveal
the truth of no self (anatman or anatta),
compassion and emptiness - Through Shamatha and Vipassana the illusion of
self (or ego) begins to dissipate as the
meditator realizes the interconnectedness and
impermanence of many life experiences and mental
phenomena - Meditative Exercise (Impermanence of self)
17Poison 2 and 3 Attachment and Anger
- Ignorance, attachment and anger
- In Buddhist psychology the trio of
misapprehension/ignorance, attachment/craving and
anger/hatred are linked in a causal chain. - Anger ultimately arises from attachment to the
people, places, and things of our lives.
Attachment is a superimposition of exaggerated
good (or bad) qualities onto people, places and
things that do not inherently possess such
qualities (Dalai Lama, 1997 Chodron, 2001a
Chodron, 2001b) - New car
- New job
- New mate, etc
18Buddhism Three Poisons
- The joy and satisfaction of attachment are
transitory and are impossible to sustain - Freuds Pleasure Principle
- Inevitably stemming from attachment to
pleasurable stimuli, then, is a sense of
dissatisfaction and frustration - New car is relabeled old car
- New job is relabeled the grind
- New mate is relabeled the ball and chain
19Buddhism Three Poisons
- Buddhist Understanding of Anger (cont)
- Existential frustration then becomes the fertile
ground for the cultivation of anger (Dalai Lama,
1997). - Old car gets a flat and is relabeled piece of
crap. Perhaps we curse at and kick the car. - The grind is forced to freeze raises in our
salary and is relabeled a prison. Perhaps we
feel entitled and justified in committing a
hostile act like stealing office supplies. - The ball and chain is irritable one day and is
relabeled the bitch or the inconsiderate
asshole. Perhaps a heated and destructive
argument later takes place. Perhaps this argument
(and several more like it) is then used to
justify an infidelity.
20Buddhism Three Poisons
- Buddhist Understanding of Attachment
Satisfaction
Attached
Insightful
More balanced
Attached
-
-
Dissatisfaction
212nd Noble Truth (cont)
- The three poisons lead to negative Karma
- Karma the idea that all actions of body, speech
and mind have spiritual consequences they leave
imprints - Old Testament to lust in ones heart for another
mans wife is to have committed adultery - Karma is the ultimate spiritual responsibility
- Causes and conditions
- Karma can be manifested or purified
- Reincarnation
- No God / no judgment
- No permanent hell
- No savior
223rd Noble Truth
- The Buddha proved that the cessation of
existential suffering (gross, change and
pervasive) is a possibility - The Buddha taught that this is a possibility for
all sentient beings - We must extinguish the three poisons from our
mind streams and then our negative karma must be
manifested or purified - How do we do all this????
234th Noble Truth
- The eight fold path to the cessation of
suffering - Right view
- Right intention
- Right speech
- Right action
- Right livelihood
- Right effort
- Right mindfulness
- Right concentration
244th Noble Truth
- The eight fold path to the cessation of
suffering - Two paths for the development of wisdom
- Right view (to become deeply and profoundly aware
of the four noble truths interdependence and
emptiness) - Right intention (to become deeply committed to an
ethical life such that every action of body,
speech and mind is motivated by insight, kindness
and compassion)
254th Noble Truth
- The eight fold path to the cessation of
suffering - Three paths for the development of ethics
- Right speech (abstain from false speech,
slanderous speech, malicious speech, harsh speech
and idle chatter). - Right action (abstain from killing, lying,
stealing, sexual misconduct and intoxicants) - Right livelihood (any occupation that violates
right speech and right action should be avoided,
i.e., weapons and slave dealing, prostitution,
butchery, etc)
264th Noble Truth
- The eight fold path to the cessation of
suffering - Three paths for mental development
- Right effort (this is mental energy to be
aggressive and angry takes effort and similarly
to be compassionate and kind takes effort) - Right mindfulness (here the mind is anchored in
clear perceptions without being carried away by
dualistic concepts like judgment and opinion
e.g., the table) - Right concentration (this is a single point of
focus, the ability to focus the mind in its
entirety on a single object of meditation and
thereby create and sustain penetrative insight
and realization this path is specifically
associated with the practice of meditation)
27Emptiness
- Emptiness is THE foundational Buddhist
psychological concept - All things exist interdependently (not
independently) - All things exist in a context (not as stand alone
objects) - All things exist temporarily (not permanently or
eternally) - Ex. The train and the tea
- Ex. A coffee table
- Three Nature Theory
- Imputed
- Dependent
- Consummate
- The first two actually construct reality. Ex.
Halle Berry - The last is the empty nature of all phenomena and
objects - All things exist as a result of what we have
thought -Buddha
28Emptiness of Self
- ...meditation on emptiness begins with gaining a
sense of the inherent existence of which
phenomena are empty, for without understanding
what is negated, you cannot understand its
absence, emptiness...Through carefully watching
how you conceive your self, or I, to be
inherently established, you will determine that
the I appears to be self-instituting without
depending on the collection of the mental and
physical aggregates, which are its basis of
designation, or without depending on any of them
individually, even though the I appears with
those aggregates. Proper identification of this
appearance is the first essential toward
realizing selflessness--ascertaining the object
of negation. - --from Yoga Tantra Paths to Magical Feats by
H.H. the Dalai Lama
29Emptiness of Self
- The self postulated by the extremists, When you
thoroughly analyze it with reasoning, Within all
the aggregates of body and mind, Nowhere can
you find a locus for this. Nagarjuna (2nd
Century), A Commentary on the Awakening Mind - No known neural correlates for self
- No known neural correlates for consciousness
- Underlying all mental affliction is our belief in
our identity our permanent, eternal,
independent selfhood. To release our grasp on
this belief is to move towards mental health,
peace and happiness. - Complete enlightenment is the union of method
(compassion) and wisdom (emptiness)
30Ethics
- Why are ethics necessary for mankind
- What is the relationship between civilization and
ethics? - What is the primary ethic of both medicine and
psychology? - Why are ethics necessary for psychotherapy?
- What is the relationship between successful
psychotherapy and solid professional ethics?
31Ethics
- Religious Ethics
- Judeo-Christian Tradition
- Seven Deadly Sins
- Envy
- Gluttony
- Greed
- Lust
- Pride
- Sloth
- Wrath
32Ethics
- Religious Ethics
- Christian Tradition
- Sermon on the mount
- Eye for an eye leads to turn the other cheek
- Righteous injury leads to love your enemy
- Absolute generosity is proclaimed (give to all
who ask and give more than they asked for) - In later teachings Christ equates the internal
experience (thoughts, feelings, fantasies, etc)
of killing and lust to the actual physical acts
of murder and adultery - In essence, Christ encourages mankind to work
with the seven deadly sins. - Christ directs mankind to psychologically and
spiritually recognize our own mental habits and
to produce change from the inside out, for how
else will one become able to love an enemy? - It is no longer enough to be angry but not sin
(old testament), now man must begin to train his
own mind and heart he must begin to reshape his
basic relationship with sin. - How one works with sin, though, is left rather
vague (faith, prayer, etc)
33Ethics
- Religious Ethics
- Buddhism
- Five Poisons
- Envy
- Pride
- Wrath
- Attachment
- Ignorance
34Ethics
- Religious Ethics Common Ground
- Now the teaching of Christ and Buddha have
overlap. From Robert Thurmans book Anger (2005) - Once you realize the absolute loss pertaining to
killing or even angrily thinking to do it, you
reverse your worldly values. You realize that
tolerance, meekness, and gentleness are a supreme
evolutionary advantage, breaking the vicious
cycle of mutual domination, developing a virtuous
cycle of increasing vulnerability and tolerance
You begin to live more and more in the Kingdom
of God, the domain of absolute strength,
imperturbability, where nothing can harm you
because of your ultimate flexibility beyond life
and death, bliss beyond pain and pleasure. This
is the domain wherein you can love not only your
friends but also your enemies, wanting them all
to be as happy as you, at the extreme end of the
virtuous circle of mutual surrender beyond not
only the hells of fire but also the temporary
heavens of superficial pleasure, in the supreme
bliss of freedom beyond all dualities such as
self and other. (pg. 39)
35Ethics
- Buddhisms Ten Destructive Behaviors
- 1. Taking life 2. Taking what has not
been given 3. Inappropriate sexual activity
4. Lying 5. Speaking divisively 6.
Using harsh language 7. Speaking idle words
8. Thinking covetous thought 9. Thinking
thoughts of malice10. Distorted, antagonistic
thinking
Body
Speech
Mind
36Ethics
- Religious Ethics All Major World Religions
Agree - Killing
- Stealing
- Lying
- Sexual misconduct
- Intoxicants
37Ethics
- The Eight Mundane Concerns
- Most humans spend their lives chasing the left
and avoiding the right - Praise / Blame
- Gain / Loss
- Approval / Disapproval
- Pleasurable stimuli / Unpleasant stimuli
38The Six Realms of Existence
- The Hell Realm (sociopaths, AIDS babies)
- The Hungry Ghost Realm (alcoholics, junkies,
anorexics) - The Animal Realm (Psychopaths, gang bangers)
- The Human Realm
- The Demi-God Realm (B-List celebrities, wealthy
hedonists, millionaires) - The God Realm (A List celebrities, billionaires)
39Mindfulness
- Samadhi is also termed as a single point of
focus but is generalized within Buddhism and
Hinduism - Shamatha is called mindfulness, calm abiding, and
single point of focus - The relationship of attention and insight both
meditatively and psychotherapeutically - Shamatha is spoken of as the foundation for
meditative realizations in the Pali Cannon, the
Lam Rim and the Bodhicharyavattara
40Mindfulness
- Shamatha (also known as calm abiding and single
point of focus) - Settling the Body in its natural state
- Object of meditation Tactile sensations of the
body - Settling the Speech in its natural state
- Object of meditation Abdominal sensations of
respiration - Object of meditation Sensations of respiration
at the apertures of the nostrils - Settling the Mind in its natural state
- Object of meditation The space of the mind
itself
41Mindfulness
- Shamatha
- Settling the Body in Its Natural State
- Session time find a balance
- Correct posture
- Laxity and Excitation
- Three deep breaths
- Mind / Body relaxation
- Begin with body scan identify tension and
create relaxation - Bring your awareness (consciousness / attention)
to the tactile sensations of the body as a whole - Become disinterested in sight, auditory, taste,
smell and mind stimuli (mental phenomena)
select the tactile sensations of the body as a
whole only - Allow your breathing to settle into its natural
rhythm - When you become distracted or lost in thought,
recognize your distraction (observe it) - Bring your mind back to the object of meditation
- Goat herder and his flock
- 25 attention to my voice / 75 attention to the
object of meditation
42What Is Mind?
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- Traditional Greek Senses
- Sight, Sound, Taste, Touch and Smell
- Traditional Buddhist Senses
- Sight, Sound, Taste, Touch, Smell and MIND
- What is Mind? Mind, in a gross yet practical
sense, is that which experiences mental phenomena - What would be left if you were suspended in a
sensory deprivation tank? That is mind.
43What Is Mind?
- Greek and European Philosophical Understandings
of Emotion - Socrates
- Plato v. Aristotle
- Aristotle and Logic explaining ambivalence
- Aristotle and anger
- Seneca
- Early Christian church and emotion as the Beast
Within (e.g., 7 deadly sins are all emotions) - Descartes and Reason v. Emotion
- Emotion as irrationality
44What Is Mind?
- Greek and European Philosophical Understanding
(cont) - The creation of a taboo of subjectivity
- Because Aristotelian empiricism (as a mode of
inquiry) is limited in its ability to explore and
understand first-person phenomena (which is often
also paradoxical by nature) many scientists
mistakenly conclude that these phenomena simply
can not be understood at all (Batchelor, 1997
Wallace, 2000 Wallace, 2003 Ekman et al, 2005).
45What Is Mind?
- Greek and European Philosophical Understanding
(cont) - Scientific materialism the tendency to reify
science as the only valid mode of inquiry for
obtaining information about reality. - Exemplifying Scientific Materialism, Alfred Ayer
in his 1936 treatise Language, Truth and Logic - We conclude, therefore, that the argument from
religious experience is altogether fallacious.
The fact that people have religious experiences
is interesting from the psychological point of
view, but it does not in any way imply that there
is such a thing as religious knowledge, any more
than our having moral experiences implies that
there is such a thing as moral knowledge. The
theist, like the moralist, may believe that his
experiences are cognitive experiences, but,
unless he can formulate his "knowledge" in
propositions that are empirically verifiable, we
may be sure that he is deceiving himself.
46What Is Mind?
- Greek and European Philosophical Understanding
(cont) - It follows that these philosophers who fill their
books with assertions that they intuitively
"know" this or that moral or religious "truth"
are merely providing material for the
psycho-analyst. For no act of intuition can be
said to reveal a truth about any matter of fact
unless it issues in verifiable propositions. And
all such propositions are to be incorporated in
the system of empirical propositions which
constitutes science. (pp119-120). - In one page Ayer dismisses 5,000 years of
spiritual, philosophical and religious insight. - This attitude set the stage for psychology (as a
fledgling field) to dismiss introspection as a
valid mode of inquiry and to embrace scientific
materialism at first in the form of behaviorism
and now in the form of empiricism
47What Is Emotion?
- Greek and European Philosophical Understanding
(cont) - The death of introspection around the turn of the
20th century - James and Freud v. Skinner
- As Plutchik (2000) states in Emotions in the
Practice of Psychotherapy - Behaviorists held the view that the only truly
reliable objective information obtainable about
living creatures was information about their
behavior (and preferably simple behavior). This
attitude lead to a preoccupation with conditioned
responses emotions, on the other hand, were
considered to be inner states that could not be
reliably observed and were therefore outside the
realm of scientific psychology. (p 40)
48What Is Emotion?
- Greek and European Philosophical Understanding
(cont) - Aristotelian Logic the laws of identity,
contradiction and excluded middle - A is A (identity), that A is not non-A
(contradiction) and that A is not A and non-A
(excluded middle) - Obviously this logic can not apply to many mental
phenomena (thought, emotion, judgment, opinion,
memory, fantasy, impulse)
49Blind Spot in Scientific Materialism
- No definition of consciousness
- No objective, 3rd person means of detecting and
measuring consciousness - No identified neural correlates for consciousness
- No identified causes (both necessary and
sufficient) for consciousness - No understanding of the relationship between
consciousness and mental phenomena - No understanding of how the brain creates and
manipulates mental phenomena - William James and Wilhelm Wundt tried to remedy
this over a century ago
50What Is Mind?
- Modern Psychological Understanding
- Is it possible to understand mental phenomena
from the inside out? The contemplative traditions
of the world say that it is possible - The modern, scientific endeavor is to understand
mental phenomena from the outside in (PET, CAT,
MRI. Etc) - Modern science / empiricism is not qualified to
define, explain or predict mental phenomena - If three core tenets of any science are
systematization, quantification and
reproducibility then on some level could
meditation (the methods of working with mental
phenomena) be considered a valid science of the
mind?
51What Is Emotion?
- Five Core Psychological Perspectives
- The evolutionary tradition Charles Darwin
- The Psycho-physiological tradition William James
and the behavior/body before mind argument. - The Neurological tradition Cannons sham rage
in the hypothalamus of cats. - The Psychodynamic tradition id, repression and
subconscious. - The Cognitive tradition emotions and our
reactions to them become habituated
52What Is Emotion?
- Evolutionary Psychology
- The evolutionary tradition The ability of an
animal to use expressive behavior to communicate
information (danger, safety, etc) greatly adds to
the survivability of that animal and is therefore
adaptive (Darwin, 1872/1965) . - In a unique and forward looking leap, Darwin
recognized that the process of evolution applies
not only to an animals genetic and physiological
structures but also to the animals emotional and
behavioral expressions (Darwin, 1872/1965). - The ability of an animal to use expressive
behavior to communicate information (danger,
safety, etc) greatly adds to the survivability of
that animal and is therefore adaptive. - Darwin felt similarly about emotional expression
and furthermore concluded that most emotional
expression is innate and therefore unlearned
(Darwin, 1872/1965). - Darwins work expanded the study of emotion from
the study of subjective feelings to the study of
behavior within a biological, evolutionary
context. It became scientifically legitimate to
ask the question, In what way does a particular
emotion or behavior pattern function in aiding
survival?
53What Is Emotion?
- The Psycho-physiological Tradition
- The psychophysiological tradition is most
identified with the work of the Harvard
psychologist-philosopher William James. - Twelve years after Darwin published his work on
emotion, James (1884) published an article that
founded a second theory of emotion, one primarily
concerned with the sequence of events in
emotional experience. - James asked the question which comes first,
emotion or behavior? In essence, does the fact
that we run away from a predator cause the
emotional experience of fear or does the
emotional experience of fear cause the behavior
of running away from the predator? - James himself came down firmly on the side of
behavior before emotion. As James (1890) stated,
common sense says we lose our fortune, are sorry
and weep My hypothesis is that we feel sorry
because we cry, angry because we strike, afraid
because we tremble. (p. 1066). In an attempt to
prove or disprove James hypothesis, a tremendous
amount of research has been conducted over the
last century. While inconclusive about James
hypothesis, this research, has produced
significant advances in our understanding of
autonomic physiology, arousal, lie detection and
other areas (Plutchik, 2000).
54What Is Emotion?
- The Neurological Tradition
- Walter Cannon, another Harvard professor,
conducted medical research on domestic cats and
discovered that the hypothalamus was the
neurological seat of emotion - A few years after James death, Cannon (1929)
removed certain parts of the brain in cats and
discovered that he could create a sham rage
that would last between two and three hours. - In essence, Cannon discovered that there are
neural correlates for emotion. - Based on these results, Cannon directly
challenged James strict hypothesis of behavior
before emotion. - His work also inspired related research that set
the basis for advanced neurological research
along with the psychopharmacological treatment of
mental disorders (Plutchik, 2000).
55What Is Emotion?
- The Psychodynamic Tradition
- Working on the condition called hysteria, Freud
and Breuer (1895/1936) published Studies on
Hysteria, which described a new theory about the
genesis of psychiatric illness. - Within this larger topic, the book also set the
stage for a new theory of emotion (Plutchik,
2000). - Although Freud initially utilized hypnosis as a
treatment method he later developed free
association as the primary means by which
patients would make conscious repressed memories
and emotions. - The point of therapy was thereby transformed from
abreaction to a process where unconscious
motivations were brought into conscious awareness
and replaced with volitional judgments (very
Buddhist ? ). - Over the course of decades Freud developed a
complex theory of neuroses that had within it (as
an implicit part) a theory of emotion. - This implicit theory proposed an extremely
complex interaction of drives, developmental
stages, conflicts and personality developments. - Even today, an agreed upon theory of emotion does
not exist in the various branches of
psychoanalysis.
56What Is Emotion?
- Cognitive Psychology
- The cognitive tradition The work of Fritz Heider
(1958) is the historical foundation of the fifth
main tradition cognitive psychology. - Cognitive psychology was the first to markedly
point out the contextual reality of our emotional
worlds. - Heider talked of our casual attributions, our
sense of what ought to be, and our personal
goals (that we superimpose onto the world) as
being some of the forces that create our
emotions. - Heider also connected the dots between thoughts
and emotions saying that our affect often creates
thought and then that a thought often creates an
affect. - In this way Heider saw that the emotional life of
man was foundationally self-created from ones
own perspectives, attitudes, beliefs and
perceptions, emotions - Our reactions to these mental phenomena become
habituated (i.e., we develop emotional habits)
57What Is Anger?
- As Paul Ekman (2003) said in his book Emotions
Revealed The word anger covers many different
related experiences. There is a range of angry
feelings, from slight annoyance to rage. There
are not just differences in the strength of angry
feeling, but also differences in the type of
anger felt. Indignation is self-righteous anger
sulking is a passive anger exasperation refers
to having ones patience tried excessively
resentment is another member of the anger family
of emotions but holding a grudge, a long standing
resentment, is different It is not that you are
continuously angry, but whenever you think about
or see this person, anger reemerges Hatred is
enduring, intense dislike. We are not angry
continuously towards the hated person, but
encountering that person or hearing about him or
her may easily awaken angry feelings. We are
likely to feel disgust or contempt towards the
hated person It is hard to classify hatred and
enduring resentment. They are not emotions, for
they last too long. They are not moods for the
same reason, and also because we know why we hate
or resent someone while we typically dont know
why we are having a mood. (pp. 112-113).
58Working with Emotion
- Western Perspective
- In the West, we tend to take an adversarial
approach to our suffering (trying to destroy it,
numb it out, deny it or fix it) - In the West when we suffer, we think that means
something is wrong, almost as if our life should
not include suffering - Freuds radical technique free association
- Learning to open, look, and analyze our mental
experiences
59Working with Emotion
- Western Perspective
- Rogerian unconditional positive regard
- teaching self compassion as a means of generating
compassion for others - Cognitive psychology and the union of perception
and personal reality - Buddhist psychology would agree
- Kohut and Self psychology
- Creating a better house
- Cognitive behavioral therapy as a way to make
practical the salubrious effects of psychotherapy - Criticisms of insight and supportive therapy
- CBTs limited efficacy with addiction, high risk
youths and domestic violence - CBT and anger management low efficacy
60Working with Emotion
- Buddhist Perspective
- Ask ten psychologists what consciousness is and
see what happens. Ask ten psychologists what
emotion is and see what happens. Ask ten
physicists what gravity is and see what happens. - At present, there are over thirty different
theories of emotion in the field of psychology - Medical model and the pathology model and why
these do not work well with the goal of
understanding and working with mind - Positive Psychology
- Good Lives model for sex offenders
- In Buddhist psychology suffering is to be
expected, recognized, acknowledged, accepted,
learned from and then transformed - Sakya God myth of Buddhism
- Is anger a thing to be managed?
- You will not be punished for your anger, you
will be punished by your anger. Shakymuni
Buddha
61Working with Emotion (cont)
- Buddhist Meditations presented in this class
- Shamatha (also known as calm abiding and single
point of focus) - Settling the Body in its natural state
- Settling the Speech in its natural state
- Settling the Mind in its natural state
- Shamatha without a Sign
- The Nature of Suffering
- Friend, Foe and Stranger
- Tong Len
- Loving Kindness and interdependence (Metta)
62What Is Meditation?
- Meditation is slowing down
- Meditation is learning to stay
- Meditation is becoming educated about your
hooks, your limits, and your exit doors. - Shamatha cultivates three things relaxation of
body and mind, mental stabilization
(concentration), and mental vividness
63What Are Your Limits and Hooks?
Getting cut off in traffic (we get hooked by our
anger)
Helplessness
We come home and our spouse is wrapped up in her
day and is insensitive to our feelings (we now
reach our limit)
We tell ourselves stories starring us as the
victim or unsung hero
We assign blame and become fundamental and
righteous
Emotional Overwhelm
Anger and victimhood doesnt feel good, we are
very uncomfortable, and now we look for an exit
door
64What Are Your Exits Doors?
Exit Door 3
Feeling overwhelmed with anger, irritation,
frustration, anxiety, fear, sadness, mourning,
depression, grief, shock, etc
Materialism / We Crave and Seek (retail
therapy, buying bigger and better things,
splurging)
Exit Door 2
Anger / Aggression (we yell, condemn and put
others down, quietly intimidate, threaten,
passive-aggressive manipulation, assault, etc)
Exit Door 1
Numb Out (drugs, alcohol, food, sex, TV, Xbox,
etc)
65Mind Training
- From the Buddhist perspective one must
simultaneously - Decrease the grip of the three poisons by
meditating on their essential nature AND - Meditate on the benefits of loving kindness and
compassion thereby naturally increasing their
presence in your mind - In essence, Buddhist meditation seek to eliminate
negative emotions while simultaneously replacing
them with positive emotions
66Seven Points of Mind Training
- From the Buddhist perspective one must
simultaneously - Decrease the grip of the three poisons by
meditating on their essential nature AND - Meditate on the benefits of loving kindness and
compassion thereby naturally increasing their
presence in your mind - In essence, Buddhist meditation seek to eliminate
negative emotions while simultaneously replacing
them with positive emotions