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Talking at Cross Purposes
  • Intercultural friendship on the international
    campus

Joy van Helvert jvanhe_at_essex.ac.uk
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The international campus Intercultural dialogue?
  • Is social interaction between host students and
    other ethnic groups really taking place at more
    than a cursory level?
  • Is prejudice challenged or reinforced?
  • Overall insularity, despite a desireto connect
    which suggests theclaims for the international
    campusmay be overstated.
  • Prejudice can be both reinforcedand challenged

3
The real question
  • What can we do to reduce prejudice promote
    friendship and dialogue..?
  • Aims
  • Shed light on three potential barriers
    encountered by Chinese students in their
    relationships with their British hosts.
  • Consider the implications of these barriers and
    finally, what might be done to help students
    overcome them.

4
The research.
  • In-depth interviews with 20 Chinese students
    (single campus)
  • Focus on micro-experiences of adjustment
  • Voice of the student
  • Situated in appropriate social, cultural
    historical context
  • 3 focus groups involving total of 13 teaching
    staff
  • Use of Sense-Making gap metaphor

5
The gap metaphor
  • CONTEXT
  • Power structures dynamics
  • Domain knowledge and systems
  • Cultures and communities

BRIDGE/ WAY FORWARD
  • Ideas, cognitions, thoughts
  • Attitudes, beliefs, values
  • Feelings, emotions, intuitions
  • Memories, stories, narratives
  • SITUATION
  • Histories
  • Experiences
  • Identities
  • Past horizons
  • Present horizons
  • Barriers constraints
  • GAP
  • Questions, confusions
  • Muddles, riddles
  • Angst

SPACE-TIME
Adapted from Dervin (2003)
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Three barriers to friendship
  • Ethnic group strengthThe difficulty of going
    beyond the co-ethnic friendship group
  • Expectations of guest-host etiquetteHolding back
    for others to break the ice
  • Contrasting patterns of friendship makingThe
    difficulty of developing trust

7
Chinese interpersonal connections
  • Chinese society is based on networks of
    reciprocal personal relationships (guanxi)Each
    person is the centre of a unique web or
    relationships. Skilful handling of these
    relationships, including face maintenance, is
    regarded as an art or science extensive
    vocabulary of terms every day use.
  • Inside/Outside dichotomy (nei, wai)Strangers or
    those you have no connection with are outside
    cannot be trusted. At times it depends on the
    situation - behaviour between individuals
    depends on this classificationIn virtually
    every case a boundary between what is inside
    (nei) and outside (wai) is significant. (Scollon
    and Scollon 1994)
  • Instrumentality and affective feelings co-exist
    Connections are about sentiment but also about
    achieving things mutual usefulness framed by
    etiquette that demonstrates for each others
    dignity (Gates 198715)

8
Hwangs framework
  • Sliding scale from stable expressive tie
    (family friends sentiment overrides
    instrumentality) through mixed tie (sentiment
    and instrumentality) to instrumental tie
    (functions to achieve the goals of each party
    affective component minimal) (Hwang 1987)

9
Mixed Tie Relations (Hwang 1987)
  • Bonds formed on the basis of a common attribute
    (tong qualities)Classmates (tongxue), members of
    the same village (tongxiang), colleagues
    (tongshi)
  • Sentiment (renqing)
  • Empathy emotional response
  • Gift or favour with reciprocal connotations
  • Maintaining contacts with reticulum exchanging
    gifts, greetings, visits do a renqing for
    someone.
  • Established slowly distinction between inside
    and outside

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Three barriers to friendship
  • Ethnic group strengthThe difficulty of going
    beyond the co-ethnic friendship group
  • Expectations of guest-host etiquetteHolding back
    for others to break the ice
  • Contrasting patterns of friendship makingThe
    difficulty of developing trust

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Expectations of guest/host etiquette You speak
first
  • Those who expressed a desire to make a connection
    with host students cited shyness and lack of
    common ground (tong qualities) as
    obstacles.KTL I just feel strange because I
    dont know how to talk with the foreigners
    because we dont know each other and I dont know
    how to start the topicIf somebody would have
    talked to me I would have talked to them! Yeah,
    its quite hard for me to talk to somebody
    firstIf somebody talk to me and then I will
    think OK, quite easy.
  • Understandable for any stranger coming to terms
    with a new environment KRL reveals and
    additional more subtle expectationKRL I think
    Chinese students sometimes are really shy. So
    you know a Chinese student in England and in
    China is very different. In China they are very
    openbut here they think OK its up to
    youGuest always very shy and is very
    carefulbut host is very open and look after
    everything is very good.

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Barrier to host friendship.
  • Western notions of shyness tend to be attributed
    to the nature of the person as a whole S/hes
    a shy person.
  • Historically in Chinese society the self was
    realised in accordance with a particular (dyadic)
    role (husband/wife, father/songuest/host) with
    its associated etiquetteThe host demonstrates
    ke qi (politeness) by doing everything to make
    the guest feel at home, and the guest returns ke
    qi by not imposing on the host (Gao and Ting
    Toomey 199846)
  • Successful guesting and hosting can be part of a
    process of moving from being an outsider to being
    an insider from being a stranger to being a
    trusted friend. (Yang 1994)

13
Implications
  • If British students are framed in the role of
    host, Chinese students may expect them, for
    example, to break the ice at gatherings and take
    the initiative in friendship overtures.
  • Shyness, at times could non verbal
    communication to elicit corresponding host
    behaviour
  • Failure to respond could damage face and
    reinforce Chinese students outsider status and
    therefore their preferences for co-ethnic
    friendships.

14
Expectations of friendship
  • Cultural stereotype of Western friendship
    neither deep nor enduring (Yang 1994121)
  • Difficulty establishing trustJHN Sometimes
    British people I think they dont know, they just
    talk to people they want to find something from
    that person. Like they want you to help them to
    do their work so they come and talk to you very
    nicely. After you help them yeah, they say OK,
    thanks, bye and they never talk to you again.
  • Not remembering namesYWHIts because of the
    social skill of China, which means you don't know
    where your business will come from. So, it
    should be better for you to remember everybody's
    name. Chinese people are very good at
    remembering peoples names. Which means we met
    once, we introduce each other and I will remember
    your name next time I will call a name, maybe you
    have forgot it but I will remember it, OK so if
    I call name again and again and again, which will
    make us closer Its associated around guanxi.

15
Contrasting friendship patterns
  • Tendencies in British friendship patterns
  • Disconnection of sentiment and instrumentality
    Western Enlightenment ideas rise of market
    rationalism (Silver 1990)
  • Range of friendship types (Spencer and Phal 2006
    65)
  • From simplicity of an associate to the complexity
    of a soul mate. Intermediate type Fun friends
  • Some of these friendships may be quite casual,
    but they can also be very warm and affectionate
    relationshipsSome friends are more fun than
    others, and friends who are especially good fun
    are often forgiven for lacking other friend like
    qualities, for example, they may be fun but
    flighty or irresponsible and feckless but
    their good company more than compensates for
    other short comingsThe key point about fun
    friends is the lack of excessive obligations on
    either side
  • University setting Fun friendships - students
    left behind long established home based ties
    new milieu first taste of independent living.

16
Implications
  • Overall value of British-style casual friendship
    as seen through Chinese eyes appears minimal.
  • Lack of understanding of the cultural contrasts
    in friend-making behaviour makes it difficult to
    establish trust and therefore meaningful ties.
  • Rejection can reinforce preferences for co-ethnic
    group friendship.

17
Conclusions
  • Be mindful of ethnocentrism in developing
    strategies to encourage engagement between
    different ethnic groups on campus. Notions of
    friendship are culturally constructed
  • Encourage British students to take on the host
    role?
  • Raise awareness of different perspectives by
    creating opportunities for intercultural dialogue
    - spaces, places, events, forums ad-hoc,
    formal, face to face, on-line wherever! For
    example World Café style discussions What is the
    nature of friendship? How do you become someones
    friend? http//www.theworldcafe.com/

18
Overcoming barriers
  • When I first arrived in the UK I felt very scared
    - maybe because Im a very shy person, but also
    back in China we were told in Western countries
    we should expect to experience discrimination. I
    never talked with any other British students and
    I only had a few very close friends but this year
    they all left, and I was on my own. So I stayed
    in my room all day.
  •  
  • In my flat there was one Japanese girl and all
    the other students were British or European. I
    was in my room and my flatmates knocked on my
    door and invited me to the bar. I was so
    surprised you cant believe. I was like oh my
    god, you invite me to the bar! You know when
    you are lonely and people knock on your door its
    special - its so exciting. I thought oh my god
    they like me maybe they wont discriminate!
  •  The first time was more exciting than I expected
    I behaved like a kid! So I went to the bar and
    they asked me where I came from and whether I was
    a Communist. My British friends all study
    politics so they were interested in Communism.
    When they said they hated Communism I felt
    surprised because most of the time Chinese people
    would show their friends a positive face even if
    they didnt like something. But I began to
    understand about the British students that is
    how they are, if they dont like something they
    just express it.
  •  
  • I think for British students it is quite normal
    to challenge the opinions of others - but I
    surprised myself when I asked Japanese students
    about Japanese government policy towards China.
    Most Chinese students get misunderstood by
    Westerners just because they hesitate to ask
    these question - they never get to know the other
    persons opinion.
  • Now I get on well with Japanese students whereas
    before I hated them. I was always thinking you
    Japanese people, you did lots of nasty things in
    WW2 and you never said sorry! It began to change
    when I was with some Japanese students watching a
    television documentary on the WW2. I was
    surprised when they cried because they felt
    ashamed of what their ancestors did to the
    Chinese people. After that I started to get
    along with them and we talked about the issue
    more and more. I understand now that as a small
    island country they felt they needed to protect
    them selves. So now I try hard to understand the
    perspectives of people from other countries.
  •  
  •  

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Thank you Joy van Helvertjvanhe_at_essex.ac.uk
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