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Title: Caring Dads: Helping Fathers Value their Children


1
Caring Dads Helping Fathers Value their Children
  • Katreena Scott, Ph.D. C. Psych.,
  • OISE/University of Toronto
  • Tim Kelly, Executive Director,
  • Changing Ways, London, Inc.

2
Acknowledgments
  • Claire Crooks, Ph.D. C. Psych. UWO Centre for
    Prevention Science)
  • Karen Francis, M.A., University of Western
    Ontario
  • CAS London
  • EMERGE, Boston
  • Counterpoint, Toronto
  • Fathers who have participated in the program and
    research
  • Funding for this training has been provided
    through a grant from the National Crime
    Prevention Strategys Community Mobilization
    Program

3
Group Exercise
  • What kind of services does your community need
    for fathers?

4
Agenda Day 1
  • Morning
  • Highlight the need for provision of service to
    maltreating fathers
  • Challenges and opportunities with current
    response
  • Caring Dads program and manual overview
  • Afternoon
  • Caring Dads Goal 1, Engaging men
  • Caring Dads Goal 2, Developing child-centered
    fathering
  • Wrap-up and questions

5
Agenda Day 2
  • Morning
  • Day 1 recap
  • Mother Contact
  • Preliminary evaluation results and future
    directions
  • Afternoon
  • Caring Dads Goal 3, Challenging abuse
  • Caring Dads Goal 4, Rebuilding trust and planning
    for the future
  • Wrap-up and questions

6
Why Work with Maltreating Fathers?
7


Fathers Perpetrate a Significant Amount of Child
Maltreatment
Two parent families
Two parent families
All families
All families
All families
Canadian Incidence Study of Reported Child Abuse
and Neglect, Trocme et al., 2005
Need for Service
8
Parent Lethality Step-Parent Risk
Need for Service
9
Opportunity to Support Fathers
  • Healthy father-child relationships support
    positive child development
  • Among individuals who have been abused
  • One third go onto abuse their own children
  • One third are at substantial risk of abusing
    their children
  • One third break the cycle of abuse

10
Why Work with Abusive Fathers?
  • Many fathers are told that their parenting has to
    change, yet few specific services exist
  • Fathers are responsible for a significant
    proportion of child maltreatment
  • Providing intervention to fathers has the
    potential to increase paternal accountability and
    responsibility
  • Fathers seldom leave the emotional landscape of
    their children
  • Fathers who leave one family seldom end their
    involvement with children in general
  • Providing intervention may be in the best
    interests of children in a variety of ways

Need for Service
11
Cautions for working with maltreating fathers
  • Fathers may use of program to gain leverage in
    custody and access
  • Fathers may use of program material to harass
    childrens mothers
  • Funding of program may come at the expense of
    services addressing the safety needs of women and
    children

Need for Service
12
The need for a new kind of program Guidelines
for service
13
Question
  • What principles would you choose for your
    community for dealing with a father like Mike?
  • What challenges do you see in how your community
    currently deals with fathers like Mike?

14
Caring Dads Program
  • Started in 2001 at Changing Ways in London
    Ontario Canada
  • 2002 Emerge (Boston) became an early pilot site
  • 2003 Expanded to additional sites in Ontario
  • 2005 Expanded to England and Wales
  • 2006 - Manual will be available to other sites

15
Caring Dads Program
  • 17 week program 2 hour sessions
  • Groups of 8-12 fathers
  • Two-three facilitators (male/female)
  • Facilitator backgrounds
  • Referrals

Caring Dads The Program
16
Locating Caring Dads on a Continuum of Service
  • Universal messages about fatherhood
  • Targeted programs (e.g., programs for new dads)
  • Supportive intervention programs (e.g., divorce)
  • Specialized, accountable programs

All Fathers Fathers at key transition points
Fathers facing stressors Abusive
fathers
17
Principle 1
  • The focus of the intervention must be the abusive
    and maltreating fathers abuse of children and
    their lack of recognition and prioritizations of
    childrens need for love, respect, security and
    autonomy-- Not their inability to control their
    childrens behaviour.

A New Approach Principles
18
The Power Paradox
  • Low power parents
  • are highly reactive to the possibility of lost
    control
  • more likely to attribute negative intent
  • engage in more control-oriented appraisal
  • are more likely to derogate children
  • are more likely to be abusive and coercive
  • Bugental et al.

A New Approach Principles
19
Principle 2
  • Men's abuse of children's mothers must be
    recognized and addressed as part of intervention
    for fathers.

A New Approach Principles
A New Approach
20
Parent Relationship
  • Most traditional parenting programs presume a
    basic level of cooperation and consistency
    between parents
  • I was pissed off at her, so I took her to court
    to get custody to get her back for her mind
    games.
  • I tell them not to listen to their mother.
  • I get their mother to take care of the
    discipline. Im more laid back.

Misfit with Traditional Programs
21
Principle 3
  • Interventions must recognize that men may not
    initially be ready for change

A New Approach Principles
A New Approach
22
Focus on Individual Fathers Not Systems
  • Accountability is not a focus of most parenting
    education programs
  • Lack of connection with larger family, community,
    and justice systems
  • Few feedback loops that matter

Misfit with Traditional Programs
A New Approach
23
Principle 4
  • Fathers involvement in intervention should
    have the potential to benefit children,
    regardless of mens progress, or lack of
    progress, in making change.

A New Approach Principles
A New Approach
24
Caring Dads Helping Fathers Value their Children
25
Caring Dads Goals
  • Goal 1 Engaging men
  • Goal 2 Developing child centered fathering
  • Goal 3 Challenging abusive, neglectful and
    controlling fathering
  • Goal 4 Rebuilding trust and planning for the
    future

Caring Dads The Program
26
Caring Dads Manual Overview
  • Summary Table
  • Process notes
  • Worksheets and homework

Caring Dads The Program
27
Caring Dads Goals and Strategies
Goal 1 Engaging Men
Engage men to prevent dropout Enhance motivation
to change
Goal 1 Engaging Men
28
Motivational Interviewing Basics
  • When behaviour change occurs, much of it happens
    or fails to happened in the first few sessions of
    treatment
  • What people say about change is VERY important
  • Change is motivated by conflict between problem
    behaviour and values

Goal 1 Engaging Men
29
Motivational Interviewing Basics
  • Key Skills
  • Joining/Empathy/Good reflective listening
  • Developing discrepancy
  • Rolling with resistance

Goal 1 Engaging Men
30
Motivational Interviewing Basics
  • Joining/Empathy/Good reflective listening
  • Why is this person presenting in this way?
  • Why is change so undesirable?
  • What might we need to understand?
  • What has this persons experience been so far?

Goal 1 Engaging Men
31
Group Practice - Genograms
An opportunity for joining
Goal 1 Engaging Men
32
Motivational Interviewing Developing Discrepancy
How I was How I want
How my child fathered to be as a
father experiences me
Goal 1 Engaging Men
33
Motivational Interviewing Basics
  • Strategies for eliciting change talk
  • Disadvantages of the status quo
  • What makes you think you may need to do something
    about these issues?
  • What difficulties or hassles have you had in
    regards to taking a closer look at yourself in
    relationship?
  • What is it that other people want you to change
    and how does this affect you?
  • Advantages of change
  • How would you like things to be different
  • If you could make this change right now have
    might things be better for you?

Goal 1 Engaging Men
34
Motivational Interviewing Basics
  • Strategies for eliciting change talk
  • Optimism about change
  • What makes you think that if you decided to make
    a change, you could do it?
  • What personal strengths do you have that would
    help you?
  • Intention to change
  • What are you thinking about taking a second look
    at your behavior at this point?
  • How important is it to you to make a change?
  • What would you be willing to try?

Goal 1 Engaging Men
35
Caring Dads Session 1-3
  • Home work assignments
  • Three hopes I have for my children
  • Weekly Fathering Logs
  • Additional handouts
  • Feelings Sheet
  • 3 Fathering Circles

Goal 1 Engaging Men
36
Caring Dads Goals and Strategies
Goal 1 Engaging Men
Goal 2 Child-Centered Parenting
Goal 2 Child-Centered Parenting
37
Developing Child Centered Fathering
  • Four core skills
  • Nurturing and praising
  • Supporting childrens relationship to their
    mothers
  • Listening to and knowing children
  • Understanding child development

Goal 2 Child-Centered Parenting
38
The Parenting Continuum
Goal 2 Child-Centered Parenting
39
Caring Dads sessions 4-9
  • Understanding the links for yourself and your
    children

Goal 2 Child-Centered Parenting
40
Caring Dads session 4-9
  • Home work assignments
  • Fathering logs
  • How well do I know my children quizzes
  • Relationship building challenges
  • What kind of example do I set scale
  • Being a good model for my children
  • Two types of frustrations with your child
  • Additional handouts
  • Nurturing Wheel
  • Parenting Continuum
  • When Praise is not really praise at all
  • Tips for being a good listener
  • Thoughts, feeling, action triangle
  • Thoughts and beliefs to watch out for
  • Developmental charts and practical applications

Goal 2 Child-Centered Parenting
41
Caring Dads Helping Fathers Value their Children
  • Katreena Scott, Ph.D. C. Psych.,
  • OISE/University of Toronto
  • Tim Kelly, Executive Director,
  • Changing Ways, London, Inc.

42
Mother Contact Key Priorities
  • Key Priorities
  • Provide realistic information about the Caring
    Dads program and its potential outcomes
  • Program content
  • Impact of violence on children
  • Evaluation report

Mother Contact
43
Mother Contact Key Priorities
  • Support women by referral to appropriate services
  • May need to liaise with professionals already
    involved in womens lives
  • Contribute to womens and childrens safety

Mother Contact
44
Mother Contact Who will you contact and why?
  • Children are in the care of CAS. Mother and
    father both have supervised access.
  • Children are in custody of father. Mother has
    access, but uses it infrequent.
  • Father referred to program as a result of current
    relationship. Has a teenager from a former
    relationship who recently looked him up. It has
    been 6 years since he last had contact with the
    biological mother.

Mother Contact
45
Mother Contact Suggested Principles of Practice
  • Contact warranted when
  • Mother may need a context for interpreting
    changes in mens behaviour
  • There is a potential safety concern

Mother Contact
46
Mother Contact Opportunities
  • Contribute to risk management
  • Contribute to coordinated case management
  • Contribute to intervention planning for men

Mother Contact
47
Assessment and Evaluation Early Findings
Assessment and Evaluation
48
Comprehensive Evaluation
  • Six levels of evaluation
  • Need
  • Theory
  • Process
  • Outcome
  • Efficacy
  • Efficiency

Assessment and Evaluation
49
Meeting a Need?
  • Number and range of referral sources
  • Second year of program, 150 referrals
  • Community involvement in terms of volunteer hours
  • 432 hours over 1 year or 22,968 of in kind
    contribution

Assessment and Evaluation
50
Self-Reported Difficulties
CAPI
PSI
AAPI
Assessment and Evaluation
51
Physical Punishment
  • Physical punishment is not right. But at some
    point, they need to know that dad and moms word
    means something. Before I kicked my kids in the
    ass to get them to do something that was wrong.
    But they need a slap on the ass at least.
  • I only spanked my older son twice. I explained
    to him why I punched him.

Assessment and Evaluation
52
Emotional Support
  • Well if were talking on the phone and it sounds
    like hes getting upset or Im getting upset Ill
    say the boss is coming and Ill end it, Ill end
    the phone call.
  • When he gets mad, like when he got put in the
    foster home, we just dont see him much til hes
    calmed down.

Assessment and Evaluation
53
Parentification
  • He knows if Im upset. Hell say Want to lay
    down in my room, dad? And hell kind of take
    care of me bring me another beer if the other
    ones empty.
  • When we were split the kids would call me but I
    wouldnt take their calls.

Assessment and Evaluation
54
Foundational Theories
  • Abuse in the father-child relationship results
    primarily from mens sense of entitlement,
    self-centered attitudes, and overcontrolling
    behavior
  • Overlap between mens abuse of children and their
    abuse of childrens mothers

Assessment and Evaluation
55
RISC Interview
  • Five domains Emotional unavailability,
    parent-child boundaries, hostility and coercion,
    anger regulation, relationship with childrens
    mother

Assessment and Evaluation
56
RISC Interview Hostility, rejection
  • Do you feel that your child does things
    purposefully to anger you, get you or to annoy
    you?
  • What do you usually do when your child disobeys
    or does something wrong?
  • When the usual methods of discipline don't work,
    as parents we often find ourselves doing other,
    maybe less desirable things. Do you ever nag or
    lecture your child if he/she doesnt do what
    he/she is supposed to do? How often would you
    say this happens?
  • Have you found yourself saying mean or
    threatening things to him/her? Perhaps things
    that you regret later? Give me an example. How
    often would you say this happens
  • Is your child ever so "in your face" that you
    feel like you just have to get away or that you
    are going to blow up? What happens then?

Assessment and Evaluation
57
Foundational Assumptions
Self-centered, entitled and over-controlling
parenting w DV 30
Assessment and Evaluation
58
Interview Data Exposure to DV
Assessment and Evaluation
59
Interview Data Coercive
Assessment and Evaluation
60
Caring Dads Helping Fathers Value their Children
61
Caring Dads Goals and Strategies
Goal 3 Recognizing Challenging Abuse /
Neglect
Goal 1 Engaging Men
Goal 2 Child- Centered Parenting
Goal 3 Challenging Abuse
62
Goal 3 Awareness of and Responsibility for
Abusive Behaviours
  • Direct confrontation at rationalizations for the
    abuse and neglect they have used
  • Work through many examples and employ whole group
    in problem-solving

Goal 3 Challenging Abuse
63
Challenging Abusive, Neglectful and Controlling
Fathering
  • Core tools
  • Not valuing children wheel
  • Parenting continuum
  • Thinking-Feeling-Action Triangle
  • Effect of abuse on children

Goal 3 Challenging Abuse
64
Caring Dads Sessions 10-14
  • Responding to my childs needs
  • Emotional abuse and neglect
  • Relationship with my childs mother
  • Impact of witnessing woman abuse
  • Using children as confident of children
  • Putting children in the middle

Goal 3 Challenging Abuse
65
Caring Dads Sessions 10-14
  • What are my children learning from my behaviour?
  • Learn not to get caught
  • Learn to expect abuse from authority
  • Learn to use power to solve differences
  • Learn to abuse others

Goal 3 Challenging Abuse
66
Caring Dads Sessions 10-14
  • Denial and minimization
  • Shame and secrecy
  • Identify one thing they have done that has harmed
    their children that causes them to feel ashamed
  • Effects of denial
  • Discussion of impact of denial on childrens
    experience

Goal 3 Challenging Abuse
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Problem-Solving for Parents Steps
  • What is the Situation?
  • What was your Intention?
  • Is intention about Child needs or Parent needs?
  • Thoughts, feelings, and actions
  • F
  • A T
  • Effects on child?
  • Alternatives?

Goal 3 Challenging Abuse
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Caring Dads Sessions 10-14
  • Home work
  • Three parent centered behaviours
  • Problem solving for Parents
  • Handouts
  • Not valuing children wheel
  • Myths and facts how children are affected by
    parental conflict
  • What children learn from abusive and controlling
    fathering

Goal 3 Challenging Abuse
69
Caring Dads Goals and Strategies
Goal 4 Rebuilding and Planning
70
Goal 4 Rebuilding Trust and Planning
  • Realistic expectations for child / parent
    relationship
  • Encourage help seeking behavior
  • Relapse prevention

Goal 4 Rebuilding and Planning
71
Rebuilding Trust and Planning for the Future
  • Core tools
  • Alternatives to parent-centered fathering
  • Beginning to rebuild trust / talking with
    children about past violence
  • Help seeking and safety planning

Goal 4 Rebuilding and Planning
72
Consolidating learning, rebuilding trust and
planning for the future
  • Alternatives to parent-centered behaviours
  • Consider what things I can live with. Can I
    change my demands?
  • How can I arrange the situation so that this
    argument doesn't come up?
  • How can I encourage/support my child's positive
    behaviors?
  • Is there a natural consequence or an outside
    authority that I can rely on?
  • What is child misbehavior really about? Can I
    fix that problem?

Goal 4 Rebuilding and Planning
73
Caring Dads sessions 15-17
  • Identify abuses they have used against their
    children or their childrens mother
  • Identify how they will keep their children and
    their childrens mother safe from their abuse

Goal 4 Rebuilding and Planning
74
Caring Dads sessions 15-17
  • Rebuilding trust
  • Taking responsibility for the abuse
  • Develop a plan to about how to talk to their
    children about the abuse when and if they ask
  • Being child safe
  • Developing realistic expectations for the future

Goal 4 Rebuilding and Planning
75
Caring Dads sessions 15-17
  • Discipline and rebuilding trust
  • Changing parental demands
  • Being positive and encouraging
  • Natural consequences
  • Understanding the underlying needs of children

Goal 4 Rebuilding and Planning
76
Caring Dads sessions 15-17
  • Homework
  • List problems that have occurred in your
    relationship to your children
  • How have I done?
  • Alternative parenting steps
  • Handouts
  • Talking to children about violence
  • Alternative methods to child management

Goal 4 Rebuilding and Planning
77
Caring DadsHow one community mobilized to
address this gap in services
78
Advisory Committee
Community Case Study
79
Partnership Focus
Community Case Study
80
Examples of How Collaboration Works
  • Encouraging compliance
  • Sharing information about risk
  • Connecting service providers
  • Ensuring follow-through

Community Case Study
81
  • I used to think that kids just needed a good
    whack. Now I think they just need an adult to
    make an effort.

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Contact us _at_
  • www.caringdadsprogram.com
  • kscott_at_oise.utoronto.on.ca
  • timkelly_at_changingways.on.ca
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