THE CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

1
THE CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE
genesis 224

• Therefore shall a man leave his father and his
  mother,
• and shall cleave unto his wife
• and they shall be one flesh.

By Ron Halbrook
2
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• Introduction
• 1. Study Principles Revealed in Gen. 224
• Cornerstone the indispensable fundamental
  basis of something (American Heritage
  Dictionary, 1991)
• True from Beginning Til NowNeeded Now!
• Reflected throughout Bible
• 2. Study Principles as Used in Passages, Learn
  How They Apply to Our Lives

3
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• I. In the Beginning
• A. Gen., Beginning of Man
• Gen. 126-28 Man Woman Created in Gods Image
• Spiritual Image Inner Man (Jn. 424)
• Innocent, Intelligent, Moral Capacity,
  Will Power, Emotion
• Order of Existence Higher Than Animals
• Share Blessings, Duties, Dominion

4
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• B. 218-25 Detailed Account Womans Creation

5
18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that
the man should be alone I will make him an help
meet for him. 19 And out of the ground the
LORD God formed every beast of the field, and
every fowl of the air and brought them unto
Adam to see what he would call them and
whatsoever Adam called every living creature,
that was the name thereof. 20 And Adam gave
names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air,
and to every beast of the field but for Adam
there was not found an help meet for him.
6
21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall
upon Adam, and he slept and he took one of his
ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof
22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken
from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto
the man. 23 And Adam said, This is now bone
of my bones, and flesh of my flesh she shall be
called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and
his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and
they shall be one flesh. 25 And they were both
naked, the man and his wife, and were not
ashamed.
7
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• B. 218-25 Detailed Account Womans Creation
• Vs. 18 Man Without Suitable Helper
• Vv. 19-20 Adam Reviews Names Animals
• Vv. 21-23 Eve Made From Adams Rib
• Joyful, Thankful Excitement!
• From His Side, Not Head or Heel
• Near Dear, Union Unity
• Value, Protect as Part of Himself
• Companionship, Communication, Complement
• Share Blessings, Duties, Dominion
• Total, Comprehensive Love

8
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• C. 224 The Cornerstone of Marriage
• Leave His Father His Mother
• Relationship to Parents First, Foundation
  (Ex. 2012 2115, 17)
• New Relationship Now First
• Independent Life Together
• Strength, Security, Stability of New Home

Therefore shall a man leave his father and
his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and
they shall be one flesh.
9
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• C. 224 The Cornerstone of Marriage
• Cleave Unto His Wife
• Hebrew Word Cling, Keep Close, Stick to, Adhere
  to, GlueLoyalty, Devotion, Affection
• 2 Sam. 2310 His hand clave unto the sword,
  stuck (NKJ), froze (NIV)
• Permanent Relationship to God (Deut. 3020),
  to a relative (Ruth 114), to a friend (Prov.
  1824)
• Take Responsibility for Her, Lead, Provide
• Create Peace, Security, Stability
• Closeness Share Time, Communication, Interests
• Bond Permanent, Perpetual

10
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• C. 224 The Cornerstone of Marriage
• They Shall Be One Flesh
• Two Lives Blend, Unite into One
• Loving, Sexual Union
  Expression of Closest Earthly Relationship,
  Symbol of Total Union of Life
• Child Result, Reflection of One Flesh
  Union Occurs Before Child Born,
  While Child at Home, After Child Leaves
• Context of Sexual Union
  Love, Companionship, Unselfish Giving
• Positive Blessing, Not Necessary Evil

11
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• D. Lessons from Creation of Adam Eve
• 1 Man for 1 Woman Excludes Fornication!
• No Commune, Polygamy, Child Molesting, Incest,
  Homosexuality, Bestiality
• 1 Man for 1 Woman For Life!
  
• Lifelong, Not Temporary, No Experiment
• Total Commitment to Mate
  No Adultery, No Serial Marriage
• 1 Man for 1 Woman Mutual Responsibility
• 1 Man for 1 Woman For All Humanity

12
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• II. Principles of Gen. 224 in Old Testament
• A. Ex. 2014, 17 Deut. 2222 Reinforce
  Gen. 2 by Condemning Adultery
• B. Deut. 241-4 Limited, Temporary Concession
  to Lead Man Back to Gen. 2
• C. Jer. 31, 8, 14 2910 Gods Relationship
  with Israel Reflects Gen. 2
• D. Many Admonitions Reinforce Gen. 2
• Prov. 515-21 Drink from Your Own Well
• Mal. 214-16 God Hates Divorce

13
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• III. Principles of Gen. 224 in New Testament
• A. Matt. 531-32 End Mosaic Concession,
  Reaffirm Gen. 2
• B. Matt. 193-12 Gen. 2 Cornerstone of Jesus
  Teaching on Marriage

31 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away
his wife, let him give her a writing of
divorcement 32 But I say unto you, That
whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for
the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit
adultery and whosoever shall marry her that is
divorced committeth adultery.
14
Matt. 19
3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting
him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man
to put away his wife for every cause? 4 And he
answered and said unto them, Have ye not read,
that he which made them at the beginning made
them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause
shall a man leave father and mother, and shall
cleave to his wife and they twain shall be one
flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but
one flesh. What therefore God hath joined
together, let not man put asunder.
15
Matt. 19
7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command
to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her
away? 8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the
hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away
your wives but from the beginning it was not
so. 9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put
away his wife, except it be for fornication, and
shall marry another, committeth adultery and
whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit
adultery.
16
Matt. 19
10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of
the man be so with his wife, it is not good to
marry. 11 But he said unto them, All men cannot
receive this saying, save they to whom it is
given. 12 For there are some eunuchs, which were
so born from their mother's womb and there are
some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men
and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves
eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He
that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
17
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• B. Matt. 193-12 Gen. 2 Cornerstone of Jesus
  Teaching on Marriage
• Cornerstone from Beginning Til Now (vv. 4, 8)
• 1 Man for 1 Woman for LifeStill True!
• WhatGod Hath Joined Together God
  Not Man Has Authority Over MarriageMan Can Obey
  or Violate Gods Law But Cannot Overrule, Change,
  or Modify It!
• Rule If Put Away Mate, Marry Another MateNot
  Joined by GodGo to Bed of Adultery!
• 1 Exception Faithful Mate Put Away Fornicator,
  Marry AnotherJoined by GodNo Adultery
• Sound Too Strict? Then, Do Not Marry!

18
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• A. Rom. 71-4 Illustration Based on the
  Principle of Gen. 2

19
ROM. 7
1 Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them
that know the law,) how that the law hath
dominion over a man as long as he liveth? 2 For
the woman which hath an husband is bound by the
law to her husband so long as he liveth but if
the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law
of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband
liveth, she be married to another man, she shall
be called an adulteress but if her husband be
dead, she is free from that law so that she is
no adulteress, though she be married to another
man. 4 Wherefore, my brethren, ye also are
become dead to the law by the body of Christ
that ye should be married to another, even to him
who is raised from the dead, that we should bring
forth fruit unto God.

20
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• C. Rom. 71-4 Illustration Based on the
  Principle of Gen. 2
• Vs. 1 Gods Law Applies While Men Live
• Vs. 2 Marriage Law Applies While Husband
  Wife Live
• Vs. 3 Husband Lives Wife Marries
  AnotherAdultery
• Vs. 3 Husband Dies, Wife No Longer Bound
  May Marry Another
• Jews Bound to Law of MosesIt Died May
  Marry Christ

21
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• D. 1 Cor. 7 Answers to Questions Reflect
  Principle of Gen. 2
• Vs. 26 Advise Against Marriage While Crisis
  Facing Church
• Vs. 1-5 Marriage Relationship Helps Prevent
  Temptation of Fornication
• Vv. 10-13 Fidelity to Marriage Vow
• Vs. 39 Marriage Vow Binding for Life
• Only Our Duty to the Lord Is Higher

22
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• E. Eph. 522-33 Principles of Gen. 2 in
  Conduct of Husband Wife
• Vv. 23-25 Man Leads Wife Cooperates by
  Unselfish Love
• Vv. 28-31 One Flesh Union
  Unselfish Love of Mate Blesses Both Partners,
  Failure to Love Harms Both
• Vv. 32-33 Gods Plan for Harmony, Unity, Peace
• Christ Loves ChurchChurch Submits to Christ
• Husband Loves WifeWife Submits to Husband

23
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• IV. Principles of Gen. 224 Greatly Needed Today
  
• A. Gen. 224 Teaches 1 Man for 1 Woman for
  Life
• Matt. 194-6 Marriage Ordained by God from the
  Beginning
• Lifetime Covenant Witnessed Sealed by God
• God by His Own Law Determines Who is Scripturally
  Married, Divorced, or Remarried
• Human Custom, Law, Concepts Secondary
• False Ideas Renewable Contract, No Fault Divorce
  
• Gods Law Applies to All Humanity
• Bible Emphasizes Lifetime Rule (1 Exception)

24
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• B. Marriage Vows Reflect Gen. 224
• I, Ron Halbrook, desire this one, Donna Bell, to
  become my lawful wedded companion, and I promise
  to love, honor, and cherish her in sickness as in
  health, in adversity as in prosperity, and
  forsaking all others be to her such a husband as
  God directs that I should until death does us
  part.
• I, Donna Bell, desire this one, Ron Halbrook, to
  be my lawful wedded husband, and I promise to
  cling to him, honor him, continue faithfully to
  love and be true to him, according to all the
  laws of God, and forsaking all others be such a
  wife as God desires and commands that I should so
  long as we both shall live.
• Lifetime Covenant Witnessed Sealed by God

25
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• C. Responsibilities Commanded by God
  in Marriage
• Cornerstone Duties in Gen. 224

Therefore shall a man leave his father and
his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and
they shall be one flesh.
26
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• C. Responsibilities Commanded by God
  in Marriage
• Duties of Husband Wife in Eph. 522-25

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own
husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband
is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the
head of the church and he is the saviour of the
body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto
Christ, so let the wives be to their own
husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your
wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and
gave himself for it
27
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• C. Responsibilities Commanded by God
  in Marriage
• Duties as Mother of Children in 1 Tim. 214-15

14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman
being deceived was in the transgression. 15
Notwithstanding she shall be saved in
childbearing, if they continue in faith and
charity and holiness with sobriety.
28
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• C. Responsibilities Commanded by God
  in Marriage
• Duties as Mother of Children in 1 Tim. 214-15

14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman
being deceived was in the transgression. 15
Notwithstanding she shall be saved in
childbearing, if they continue in faith and
charity and holiness with sobriety.
29
Duties of Daily Work in 1 Tim. 58-14
8 But if any provide not for his own, and
specially for those of his own house, he hath
denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
9 Let not a widow be taken into the number
under threescore years old, having been the wife
of one man, 10 Well reported of for good works
if she have brought up children, if she have
lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints'
feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she
have diligently followed every good work. 11
But the younger widows refuse for when they
have begun to wax wanton against Christ, they
will marry 12 Having damnation, because they
have cast off their first faith. 13 And withal
they learn to be idle, wandering about from
house to house and not only idle, but tattlers
also and busybodies, speaking things which they
ought not. 14 I will therefore that the younger
women marry, bear children, guide the house,
give none occasion to the adversary to speak
reproachfully.
30
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• C. Responsibilities Commanded by God
  in Marriage
• Duties as Wife, Mother, Mentor in Tit. 23-5

3 The aged women likewise, that they be in
behaviour as becometh holiness, not false
accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of
good things 4 That they may teach the young
women to be sober, to love their husbands, to
love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste,
keepers at home, good, obedient to their own
husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
31
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• C. Responsibilities Commanded by God
  in Marriage
• 1 Cor. 927 Learn Submission to God, Accept
  Responsibility

27 But I keep under my body, and bring it into
subjection lest that by any means, when I have
preached to others, I myself should be a
castaway.
32
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• C. Responsibilities Commanded by God in Marriage
• Some Leave Not Learn Responsibility

• I am not cut out for family life.
• I want a change in my lifestyle.
• I do not love her cannot live with her.
• God wants me to find my potential
  self-satisfaction.
• I am going out into the world to find myself.

• Marriage is not an experiment!
• By breaking the vow to my mate made before God?!
• God commands you to learn to love your mate!
• That is why God prepared marriage for you!
• By throwing away Gods law love?!

33
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• C. Responsibilities Commanded by God
  in Marriage
• Sense of Responsibility to God Man Lessened by
  Wrong Emphasis
• Subjectivism (Self as Standard)
• Fleshly Excitement, Experience, Stimulation
• Emotion, Feelings
• Infatuation
• Fantasy
• Immediate Gratification of Carnal Appetites

34
GENESIS 224 CORNERSTONE OF MARRIAGE

• Conclusion
• 1. Inscribe Gen. 224 on Our Hearts
• Principles Given by God to Make Marriage the
  Greatest of Blessings on Earth
• Principles Embraced in Marriage Vows
• Principles Shape Our Character
• 2. Violation of These Principles in Thought,
  Word, or Deed Sinful
• Separates Us from God
• Harms Our Mate, Weakens Relationship, Hurt Self
• 3. God Ready to Forgive Change Us Acts 238