Dating Violence: Building an Effective School System Response

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Dating Violence Building an Effective School
System Response

• Daniel A. Schaefer, Ph.D.

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Bureau of Justice Statistics
In 1999 there were about 671,110 intimate partner
victimizations of women age 12 or older,
including 91,470 rapes and sexual assaults,
65,970 robberies, 68,810 aggravated assaults and
almost 444,860 simple assaults.
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Bureau of Justice Statistics
The majority of intimate partner violence
that occurred between 1993 and 1999 was
perpetrated by boyfriends and girlfriends (53
percent), with an additional 33 percent
perpetrated by a current spouse.     Younger
victims of intimate partner violence were least
likely to report the violence to the police.      
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Bureau of Justice Statistics The percentages of
all homicides against males or females committed
by an intimate from 1993 through 1999 by gender
and age were as follows http//www.ojp.usdoj.gov/b
js/abstract/ipva99.htm
Age of victim Female victims Male
victims 12-15 10 1 16-19 22
  1   20-24 32   2   25-34 36   4   35-
49 38   6   50-64 30   8   65
older 21   5  
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Troubling Statistics
A. 20 to 25 of college woman experience
completed or attempted rape (JAMA 2001) B. 83
of girls report being sexually harassed at school
before they graduate from high school C. 20 of
adolescent girls were physically or sexually
abused by a date D. 40 of 14-17 yr old girls
report knowing someone their age who was hit or
beaten by their date
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Troubling Statistics
E. Both teenage boys and girls report being
victims of physical violence in relationships
(Okeefe Treister, 1998). However, teenage boys
and teenage girls use physical force for
different reasons and with different results
(Molidar Tolman, 1998) F. While both report
acting violently because they were angry, teenage
boys are much more likely to use force in order
to control their girlfriends, while girls more
often act violently in self-defense. (Okeefe,
1997) C.
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Troubling Statistics
G. Teenage girls suffer more from relationship
violence, emotionally and physically.They are
much more likely than teenage boys to have
serious injuries and to report being terrified.
(Foshee, 1998) H. In contrast, male victims
seldom fear violence by their dates or
girlfriends, often saying that the attacks did
not hurt and that they found the violence
amusing. (Molidor Tolman, 1998)
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Correlates of Intimate Violence
A. Mental Illness (Bipolar, depression, ASPD) B.
Alcoholism/Substance abuse C. Attachment Styles
D. Family of Origin/Dutton Trinity E. Power
and Control Issues
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Teen gets life term for killing classmateSt.
Louis Post-Dispatch , (11.02.2006)   William C.
Lhotka

• At times during a hearing in which Alexander
  Stirlen was sentenced to life in prison without
  parole, he took full responsibility for the
  slaying of fellow Lindbergh High School student
  Erin Mace. But sometimes Stirlen tried to justify
  the rape and murder of the girl who considered
  him a friend...

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John Hit Mary. Mary was hit by John. Mary was
beaten. Mary was battered. Mary is a battered
woman.
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The Atlantic Monthly November, 2006 -a book
review by Elizabeth Judd
According to Raising Boys without Men, not
having a father is a bit like not having a
skateboard - kind of a bummer but at least you
dont have to worry about head injuries.
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The three enemies of change
1. Apathy 2. Hostility 3. Defensiveness/Shame
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Ohio Revised Code re Domestic Violence (R.C.
2919.25)

• knowingly causing or attempting to cause
  physical harm to a "family or household member"
• recklessly causing serious physical harm to a
  family or household member
• by threat of force, knowingly causing a family or
  household member to believe that the offender
  will cause imminent physical harm to the family
  or household member

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Ohio Senate Bill 267 (HB 436)

• Expands the criminal and civil domestic violence
  laws to also apply when the victim of the offense
  was a child under the age of 18 with whom the
  offender has had or has a dating relationship.

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SLAPSHOT
You are in the hallway between classes. You see
a couple you know arguing. Then you see the guy
shove his girlfriend up against her locker. The
guy is not a close friend of yours, and neither
is the young woman, but you do hang around with
the same group of people. Nobody else is doing
anything. From MVP
Playbook, Jackson Katz
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OFFSIDES
You are riding in the back seat of your friends
car one afternoon with two other male friends.
Someone spots a young woman jogging a few hundred
yards ahead and the driver starts to slow down.
Your friend in the front seat starts to roll down
his window to yell something most likely
demeaning to her . From
MVP Playbook, Jackson Katz
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Mentors in Violence Prevention (MVP)
A. Training of trainers (teachers, coaches..) B.
Train Mentors (diverse group of student leaders)
C. 1. Trainers lead discussions with existing
teams (sports teams, student council) 2.
Mentors lead discussions with 9th graders D.
Elements of success 1.Buy in at all
levels 2. Follow through
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Intimate Violence Resources

• Www.Jacksonkatz.com
• SAFEYOUTH.ORG
• NATIONAL YOUTH VIOLENCE PREVENTION RESOURCE
  CENTER
• National Domestic Abuse Hotline [phone]-SAFE
• www.colorado.edu/cspv
• Center for the Study and Prevention of Violence
• Mensfraternity.com
• Mens Fraternity
• The LINK (419-352-1545)
• Kathy Mull Vital Program 419-352-9504 ex 3516

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• Mensfraternity.com

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Rape Poem There is
no difference between being raped and going
through a windshield except that
afterward you are afraid not of cars

but half the human race
-Marge Piercy