Common Gay Myths

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Common Gay Myths

• Homosexuality is not a perversion.
• Homosexuals are as psychologically healthy as
  'straight' people.
• Homosexual relationships are as loving and valid
  as heterosexual marriage.

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Psychologically healthy myth

• Research shows that homosexuals are more likely
  than others to
• expose themselves sexually to more different
  bodies (orgies, more sexual partners)
• frequently participate in socially disruptive sex
  (e.g., deliberate infection of others with HIV
  STDs, cheating in relationships, obscene phone
  calls)
• frequently engage in socially disruptive
  activities (e.g., criminality, shoplifting, tax
  cheating)
• frequently expose themselves to biological
  hazards (e.g. fisting, bestiality, ingestion of
  faeces, sadomasochism).
• Homosexuality, violence and child sexual abuse
• Top six U.S. male serial killers all practised
  homosexuality. Top 3 women killers were lesbian.
  Modern world record for serial killing is
  Russian homosexual, Andrei Chikatilo who was
  convicted of raping, murdering and eating parts
  of at least 52 people.
• Although homosexuals account for only 1.5 2.5
  of the U.S. population they constitute about a
  third of child molesters. Homosexuals are 10-20
  times more likely to molest a child.

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The healthy relationships myth

• The classic Bell and Wienberg study found that
  43 of homosexuals estimated they would have over
  500 sex partners in their lifetime and 28 more
  than 1000.
• Cape Town study showed that the most common place
  where homosexual men had sexual activity is
  steambaths (43), followed by bars, dark rooms at
  clubs and then public parks. This activity is
  usually with strangers.
• Unfaithfulness is endemic. The study showed that
  60 of men who claimed to have a partner had
  outside sexual activity in the last year.
  Studies show that gay partnerships lasting
  longer than 5 years all include outside sexual
  relations.

• Married women experience lower rates of violence
  than women in any other kinds of relationships.
• 31 of lesbians are physically abused by their
  lesbian partners each year. 90 experience
  verbal aggression.
• In the book Men who Beat the Men Who Love
  ThemBattered Gay Men and Domestic Violence it
  states, the incidence of domestic violence among
  gay men is nearly double that in the heterosexual
  population.

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SA legal benefits for gays

• The Constitution - the first in the world to
  explicitly protect sexual orientation
• Equality Act - affirmative action for gays
• Sodomy made legal
• Pink-friendly Defence Force and Police
• Refugee status for sodomites
• Employers forbidden to fire homosexuals on that
  grounds.

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Partnerships marriage for homosexuals

• Already have medical aid, pension and inheritance
  benefits
• Lesbians can get donor sperm
• Single homosexuals can adopt children
• Legally they still want
• Co-adoption for homosexuals
• Partnerships for hetero- and homo- couples
• So-called marriage for homosexuals

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The Born Gay myth

• For more than 30 years pro-homosexual researchers
  have tried to prove that people who engage in
  homosexuality are born that way. Despite wide
  research on genes, the size of the brain and
  hormonal differences, not one study has ever
  proven that there is a single heredible genetic,
  hormonal, biological or physical difference
  between heterosexuals and people who claim to be
  homosexual.

Do homosexuals really believe they are born
gay? Actually there is no such thing as a
homosexual person, any more than there is such a
thing as a heterosexual person. The words are
adjectives describing sexual acts, not people
- Gore Vidal (US politician, homosexual
atheist) Searching for proof of genetic
gayness undermines peoples freedom to choose
their sexual orientation. - Darrell Yates Rist
(Gay activist)
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Fighting for the Right to Marry

• NCGLEs Kevan Botha says
• The biggest and most hotly-contested issue in
  our fight The term marriage, more than
  anything else, touches every straight couple who
  are married and they cling to that title with
  everything they hold holy That means getting on
  ones stiletto heels and going out door-to-door
  if necessary forcing people in your
  neighbourhood to recognise your relationships and
  vote for it.
• (OUTright Magazine, Feb/March 1998)

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Reordering our views of reality

• Lesbian activist and U.S. policy director for
  the National Center for Lesbian Rights Paula
  Ettelbrick says
• Being queer is more than setting up house,
  sleeping with a person of the same gender, and
  seeking state approval for doing so Being queer
  means pushing the parameters of sex, sexuality
  and the family, and in the process, transforming
  the very fabric of society In arguing for the
  right to legal marriage, lesbians and gay men
  would be forced to claim that we are like
  heterosexual couples and vow to structure our
  lives similarly We must keep our eyes on the
  goals of providing true alternatives to marriage
  and of radically reordering societys views of
  reality.

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Redefining Marriage and Family

• Homosexual activist Michelangelo Signorile urges
  co-workers
• to fight for same-sex marriage and its benefits
  and then, once granted, redefine the institution
  of marriage completely, to demand the right to
  marry not as a way of adhering to societys moral
  codes but rather to debunk a myth and radically
  alter an archaic institution that as it now
  stands keeps us down. The most subversive action
  lesbians and gay men can undertake and one that
  would perhaps benefit all of society is to
  transform the notion of family entirely.

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The anything goes family

• Robert H. Knight of the Family Research Council
  is concerned that these definitions of family and
  partnerships are so vague that, multiple-partner
  unions are not excluded, nor any imaginable
  combination of persons, including a fishing boat
  crew. The whole point is to demote marriage to a
  level with all other conceivable relationships.

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Homosexual activity increases

• Positive images of homosexual life on TV and in
  the movies have increased homosexual activity in
  the U.S. The percentage of women who admit to
  having lesbian sexual activity (not necessarily
  being lesbians) increased 15-fold from 0.2 in
  1988 to 3 in 1998. (Federal Social Survey)

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PPASAs videos for SA kids

• "Getting it Right Safer Sex for Gay Young Men
  Deals with a range of issues including coming
  out, cruising, relationships, sex work (male
  prostitution) and safer sex.
• Sex A guide for the Young This frank,
  animated video is designed to give teenagers a
  better understanding of their sexuality. It may
  help them avoid some of the problems that
  teenagers commonly experience in their sexual
  relations. It shows them how to give pleasure
  and how to enjoy themselves. Masturbation,
  homosexuality and safer sex practices are also
  discussed.
• "Telling Parents You are Gay"

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PPASA teaches 10-year-olds

• Our main aim in this book is to promote
  tolerance and respect for difference, so we feel
  that it is your duty as an educator to challenge
  this attitude of intolerance, and to explain that
  people can differ in their preferences and
  interests. Some adults prefer sexual
  relationships with people of the same gender,
  most prefer to have a partner of the opposite
  sex, and some people have sexual relationships
  with both sexes.

PPASAs Sexuality Education for Intermediate
Phase Grades 4-6 (Std 2-5) teachers guide
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Paedophilia is not a disorder

• In 1994, the APA redefined paedophilia.
  According to the APAs new definition,
  paedophilia only represents a problem if a
  paedophile feels bad or anxious about his
  behaviour.
• Classifying a behavior as abuse simply because
  it is generally viewed as immoral or defined as
  illegal is problematic

• Homosexuality is not a perversion.
• Homosexuals are as psychologically healthy as
  'straight' people.

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Child/adult sex can be loving

• People seem to think that any contact between
  children and adults has a bad effect on the
  child. I say that this can be a loving and
  thoughtful, responsible sexual activity.
• Dr John Money

• Homosexual relationships are as loving and
  valid as heterosexual marriage.

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Paedophiles cant change

• Paedophilia is not a voluntary choice, and
  there is no known treatment. Punishment is
  useless. One must accept that paedophilia exists
  in natures overall scheme, and with
  enlightenment, formulate of what to do.
• Dr Money in New Statesman (1992)

• Homosexuals can't change and it is
  psychologically harmful to try and change.

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Paedophilia is an orientation

• It is a sexual 'orientation', not just a
  choice.

• Paedophilia should be viewed as a sexual
  orientation, not a disease or a disorder.
• Dr Money in Citizen Magazine (1992)

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SA judge promotes paedophilia

• Former acting SA Constitutional Court Judge
  Edwin Camerons book Defiant Desire Gay and
  Lesbian Lives in South Africa describes
  paedophilia positively
• Passing on knowledge
• Sex is more often learned from older boys and
  men (than peers).
• In each case the early experience with an older
  male is related as positive and formative.
• For Chris, the relationship was important in
  helping him to come to terms with his
  homosexuality.
• The priest, for his part, was unselfish about
  the arrangement.

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The Biblical View

• Clearly against homosexuality
• If a man lies with a male as he lies with a
  woman, both of them have committed an
  abomination. They shall surely be put to death.
  Their blood shall be upon them." Leviticus 2013
  (NKJ)

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Gay myth vs Bible

• Homosexuals can't change and it is
  psychologically harmful to try change your
  orientation. It can even lead to suicide.

• Do not be deceived Neither
• the sexually immoral nor idolaters
• nor adulterers nor male prostitutes
• nor homosexual offenders will
• inherit the kingdom of God. And
• that is what some of you were. But
• you were washed, you were
• sanctified, you were justified in the
• name of the Lord Jesus Christ and
• by the Spirit of our God.
• 1 Corinthians 69-11 (NIV)
• The ex-gay ministry has been successful and
  active since the days of Acts!

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