Domestic Violence

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Domestic Violence
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What is it?

• Is a ____________ __________of abusive behavior
  used by one person in a relationship to gain
  and/or maintain ___________ and control over
  another.
• This includes dating, partner, spouse and elder
  abuse. As well as abuse between present or former
  household member.

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Domestic Violence usually follows a pattern

• __________ Tension builds
• __________ abuse erupts
• __________ period of calm, denial or apology
• But then the cycle ________

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Types of abuse

• _________ Verbal
• Isolation
• _________

• Threats Intimidation
• __________
• __________

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Emotional Verbal

• Survivors recount stories of put-downs, public
  _____________, ________-_______, mind games and
  manipulation by their partners.
• ___________ abuse leaves the deepest scars

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Isolation

• EXTEMELY _____________
• Insist on ____ seeing friends and family
• High ____________
• Loss of job

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Sexual

• Any non-consensual sexual act or behavior
• ________ Sex
• Unwanted __________
• Sexual degradation
• Violence targeted at the ________ area

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Threats and Intimidation

• If you leave I will
• ________ you! (threat of violence)
• I will _________ myself! (threat of suicide)
• You will never see your ______ again! (threat of
  taking away the children)

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Physical

• Pinching
• __________
• Grabbing
• __________
• Scratching
• __________
• Using weapons
• Throwing objects at the victim
• Restraint
• Hair Pulling

• Strangulation
• __________
• Shoving
• Slapping
• __________
• Punching
• __________

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Economical

• Taking car keys or __________ away
• Forbidding the victim from having a __________
• Controlling all of the finances, leaving the
  victim with ____ access to resources

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CHARACTERISTICS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
                                                  
  
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CHARACTERISTICS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
                                                  
  
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You might be in an abusive relationship if he/she

• Is __________ or __________ toward you.
• Tries to control you by being very __________ or
  demanding.
• Tries to isolate you by demanding you cut off
  social contacts and friendships. Is violent and /
  or loses his or her temper quickly.
• Pressures you __________, demands sexual
  activities you are not comfortable with.
• __________ drugs or alcohol.
• Claims you are responsible for his or her
  __________ state.
• Blames __________ when he or she mistreats you.

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• Has a history of bad __________.
• Your family and friends have __________ you about
  the person or told you that they are concerned
  for your safety or emotional well being.
• You frequently worry about how he or she will
  react to things you say or do.
• Makes " __________ " that shame, humiliate,
  demean or embarrass you, weather privately or
  around family and friends.
• Your partner grew up __________ an abusive
  parental relationship, and/or was abused as a
  child.

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• Your partner "rages" when they feel hurt, shame,
  fear or loss of control.
• Both parties in abusive relationships may develop
  or progress in drug or alcohol dependence in a
  (dysfunctional) attempt to cope with the pain.
• You leave and then return to your partner
  repeatedly, against the advice of your friends,
  family and loved ones.  
• You have trouble ending the relationship, even
  though you know inside it's the right thing to
  do. 

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Healthy Relationship

• __________
• Independence
• Open communication
• Sharing desires and feelings
• Allows personal change and growth
• Based on _________
• Encourage self-care

• Accepts limitations/flaws
• Partners retain sense of self
• Enhances personal qualities
• __________
• Risks vulnerability
• __________

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Unhealthy Relationship

• __________
• Overly dependent
• __________
• Deceitfulness
• Promotes stagnancy
• Based on need
• Perfectionist
• __________

• Uses denial and avoidance
• Partners lose identity
• Brings out the "worst"
• __________
• Fears intimacy

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Domestic Violence Children

• They exhibit " _____________________ " symptoms
  even as infants.
• They may exhibit "general aggressiveness" or
  violence to siblings or the "victim parent" in
  ways that emulate the abusive parent.
• They often suffer from ________ self-esteem.
• They often suffer poor _________.
• They may have poor impulse control.
• They often experience academic problems.
• They, along with their mothers, comprise nearly
  ____ of the homeless population in the U.S.

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• They are more often abducted by the abuser parent
  than other children.
• They may have a fear and distrust of close
  relationships.
• They experience confusion over correct behavior.
• They experience psychosomatic complaints, i.e.,
  stomachaches, headaches, stuttering, anxiety,
  fear, etc.
• They experience _______ terrors" (waking up
  screaming in the night).
• They may wet the bed.
• They are likely to __________ learned behaviors.

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• They blame themselves for the violence or the
  inability to stop it and protect the victim
  parent.
• They often experience PTSD (post-traumatic stress
  disorder).
• They are more likely to be victim of child
  physical and sexual abuse, most often by the
  abuser parent and less often by the victim.
• They are four times as likely to be arrested
  eventually.
• They are more likely to abuse alcohol and drugs.
• They are more likely to engage in antisocial
  behavior.
• They are more likely to commit crime against
  other persons and sexual assaults.

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