REPAIRING RELATIONSHIPS The Road to Recovery, Part 6

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REPAIRING RELATIONSHIPSThe Road to Recovery,
Part 6
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Step 6 E valuate all my relationships. Offer
forgiveness to those who've hurt me and make
amends for harm I've done to others, except when
to do so would harm them or others.
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"If it is possible, as far as it depends on you,
live at peace with everyone. Romans 1218 "Get
rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger ... along
with every form of malice. Be kind and
compassionate to one another, forgiving each
other, just as in Christ God forgave you."
Ephesians 43132

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• PART 1 FORGIVE THOSE WHO'VE HURT ME.

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• WHY?

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1. Because God has forgiven me.
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• "Never hold grudges. Remember, the Lord forgave
  you, so you must forgive others."
• Colossians 313 (TLB)
• "Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have
  anything against anyone, so that your Father who
  is in heaven will also forgive you your
  transgressions.
• Mark 1125

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• 2. Because resentment doesnt work.
• "Watch out that no bitterness takes root among
  you, for as it springs up it causes deep trouble,
  hurting many in their spiritual lives.
• Hebrews 1215 (TLB)

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• HOW?

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• 1. Acknowledge my hurt.
• Make a list of those who've harmed me and what
  they said ... thought ... did.

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• 2. Release my offender.
• "How many times should I forgive my brother when
  he sins against me? ... Jesus answered, "not
  seven times, but seventy times seven times!"
• Mark 182122

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• 3. Replace my hurt with God's peace.
• "Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts.
• Colossians 315

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• PART 2 MAKE AMENDS TO THOSE I'VE HURT

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WHY? "Watch out that no bitterness takes root
among you, for as it springs up it causes deep
trouble, hurting many in their spiritual lives.
Hebrews 1215
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• HOW?

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• 1. Make a list of those Ive harmed and what I
  did.
• Debts? Broken promises? Overcontrolling?
  Overpossessive? Hypercritical? Forgetting?
  Unfaithful? Dishonest? Abusive verbally?
  emotionally? physically? Disrespectful?
  Unloving?

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• 2. Think how Id like others to make amends to
  me.
• "Do to others as you'd have them do to you."
• Luke 631

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• The right timing.
• The right attitude.
• "Speak the truth in a spirit of love."
• Ephesians 415
• Is it healing?
• "Thoughtless words can wound as deeply as any
  sword, but wisely spoken words can heal."
• Proverbs 1218

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• 3. Refocus my life.
• "Put your heart right, reach out to God then
  face the world again, firm and courageous. Then
  all your troubles will fade from your memory,
  like floods that are past and remembered no
  more."
• Job 111316 (GNB)

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• Do not call to mind the former things,  Or
  ponder things of the past.
• "Behold, I will do something new,   Now it
  will spring forth   Will you not be aware of
  it?   I will even make a roadway in the
  wilderness, Rivers in the desert.
• Isaiah 4318,19