4 Rules for a fair fight

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4 Rules for a fair fight

• Dating best foot forward, manners, dress,
  conversation, activities, no conflicts
• Married constant fussing and fighting
• Dr. Willard Harley lists 5 behaviors he
  calls Love Busters
• Similar to Eph. 425-29

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Never Lie

• Eph 425 Wherefore putting away lying, speak
  every man truth with his neighbour for we are
  members one of another.
• Eph. 528-31 husband and wife are one flesh
• Gen. 222-25 Eve was from Adams rib
• Closeness gives us the power to hurt one another
  more deeply than anyone else can
• Love Buster Dishonesty

3
Never Lie

• Do not misrepresent facts to make you look good,
  her look bad, or to win the argument
• Discuss the issue (not attack and counter)
• Do not use the terms
• Always (you always have a headache)
• Never (you never remember my birthday)
• Everyone else gets to go, to have, to stay..

4
Never Explode

• Eph 426 Be ye angry, and sin not let not the
  sun go down upon your wrath 27 Neither give
  place to the devil.

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Never Explode

• Eph 426 Be ye angry, and sin not let not the
  sun go down upon your wrath 27 Neither give
  place to the devil.
• Resolve anger before going to sleep
• Unresolved anger gives the devil a foothold
• Do not reintroduce resolved problems
• Decide best time to discuss problem
• Love Busters Angry Outbursts

6
Never Steal

• Eph 428 Let him that stole steal no more but
  rather let him labour, working with his hands the
  thing which is good, that he may have to give to
  him that needeth.
• Money issues destroy many marriages
• Steal (selfish) by cheating (I Cor. 71-5)
• Destroy their trust, take their self worth
• Love Buster Disrespectful Judgments

7
Never Corrupt

• Eph 429 Let no corrupt communication proceed out
  of your mouth, but that which is good to the use
  of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the
  hearers.
• Negative (dont say) Positive (do say)
• Communicate with, not at, each other
• Avoid Contamination Communication especially in
  front of others (Prov. 124, 1814)

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Never Corrupt

• Love Busters Annoying Habits
• Love Busters Selfish Demands
• Apply to the congregation (Eph. 41-3)
• Friction goes beyond the home to your
  relationship with God (Eph. 430)
• Empty the evil feelings (Eph. 431)
• Fill yourself with goodness (Eph. 432)