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Welcome to MENS FRATERNITY!
Fathers and Sons
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Isaiah Lance Baldwin 8.7 22 - 230 AM today
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THE POWER OF DAD

• Three Types of Parenting

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THE POWER OF DAD

• Three Types of Parenting
• 1. Absent Parenting

• 40 of American kids dont have a mom or dad at
  home
• Numbers are even larger for those who are there
  but arent
• In the 50s we had the career driven husband
• In the 80s and 90s rather than fixing the
  career driven, added the career driven mom
• Absent Father Wound Absent Mother Wound

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THE POWER OF DAD

• Three Types of Parenting
• 1. Absent Parenting
• 2. Engaged Parenting

• Health new resurgence of parental involvement
• Realize the important of being involved in the
  lives of their children.
• Often however this is child driven life

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THE POWER OF DAD

• Three Types of Parenting
• 1. Absent Parenting
• 2. Engaged Parenting
• 3. Strategic Parenting

• Engages a son or daughter with time and attention
• Equips a son or daughter with the most important
  issuesof life

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Dad is Destiny
The glory of sons is their fathers. Proverbs
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Every son needs to hear at least 3 things from
his dad over his lifetime

• He needs to hear
• Son, I love you. He needs to hear that
  verbally, specifically, face-to-face
  eyeball-to-eyeball.
• He needs to hear from his dad, Son, Im proud of
  you.
• And he needs to hear from his dad, Son, youre
  good at ______ and whatever hes good at, the
  blank needs to be filled in. He needs to feel
  that from dad.

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Six times God the Father breaks into time and
space and we hear His voice verbally speak to
Jesus Christ.

• Every time he says essentially the same thing
• This is My beloved Son in whom I am
  well-pleased. Listen to Him.
• And in that moment, we hear this affirmation
  father to his Son
• This is My beloved Son (I love You).
• In whom I am well-pleased. (Im proud of You).
  
• Listen to Him. (telling those around Him,
  because this Man has something to say Hes
  good.).

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Three ingredients of Strategic Fatherhood
Dig Set Spike -
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3 INGREDIENTS

• The DIG Dads Compelling Character

The Dig is that you as a dad must have a life
worth wanting, and thats hard, dirty work.
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3 INGREDIENTS

• The DIG Dads Compelling Character

The one that got away.

• He watches the way you react and interact in
  certain specific situations.
• He watches how you handle certain moral dilemmas
  and in those dirty digs, he would see a life
  worth wanting to emulate.

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3 INGREDIENTS

• The DIG Dads Compelling Character
• The SET Dads Clear Instruction

What essential information do I want my son to
leave home with at the end?
What are the things that you want to have your
son leave home with that gives weight and
substance and strategic value to his life?
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3 INGREDIENTS

• The DIG Dads Compelling Character
• The SET Dads Clear Instruction
• The SPIKE Dads Creative Ceremonies

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POWER OF CEREMONY
5 characteristics of memorable ceremonies
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POWER OF CEREMONY

• Memorable ceremonies are costly.

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POWER OF CEREMONY

• Memorable ceremonies are costly.
• Memorable ceremonies ascribe value to the
  person being celebrated.

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POWER OF CEREMONY
C. Memorable ceremonies employ symbols.
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POWER OF CEREMONY
C. Memorable ceremonies employ symbols. D.
Memorable ceremonies involve others who are
significant to the person being celebrated.
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POWER OF CEREMONY
E. Memorable ceremonies empower a life with
vision.
Four Key Ceremonies
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Page Ceremony of Puberty

• A page was a young boy between 7 and 13 or 14.
  There comes a moment where he needs to be
  introduced just like a page into the
  rudimentary elements of manhood
• Leading up to their 13th birthday take them
  through some basics of the new stage they were
  about to enter into these teenage years.

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• James Dobson, entitled Preparing for Adolescence.
• Seven tapes in the series
• Emotions
• Physical changes
• Friendships
• Peer pressures
• Sex
• Followed by a dinner, man-to-man

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Introduce the definition of manhood
RejectingPassivity
AcceptingResponsibility
Believing it all for Gods greater reward
Leading Courageously
Mutual Accountability
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Squire Ceremony of Leaving Home

• Somewhere around 20, a knight would finish being
  a Squire, because up until that time, he was
  taught the disciplines of what it was going to
  mean to be a Knight
• 3 points, finish college
• with good grades
• with good friends
• With a robust spiritual life

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Knight Ceremony of College Graduation

• Formal initiation into manhood
• knight had this magical moment, where he joined
  the round table
• this is the moment where all these men not
  just my dad but these other significant men
  ushered me into the community of men.

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Oath Ceremony at marriage

• One final ceremony and its at the rehearsal
  dinner of the marriage
• We share the things that we have admired about
  him and things that we love about him.
• But on this moment, in front of his friends, we
  want to remind him of something. That is that he
  made a promise to us first

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Introduce the definition of manhood
RejectingPassivity
AcceptingResponsibility
Believing it all for Gods greater reward
Leading Courageously
Mutual Accountability
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Is it too late?
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INITIATING YOUR SON

• Be creative!

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INITIATING YOUR SON

• Be creative!
• Your son will love it!

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