Christian Married Life

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Christian Married Life
A Companion for the Journey

• Catholic Marriage Preparation
• Sincere Gift of Self Overview

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Christian Married Life Components

• Sincere Gift of Self Marriage Course
• A Couples Book
• Covenant Love
• A Retreat Manual

• Team Manual
• Living Sacrament
• A Home Book

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Opportunity to form
Initial Contact
Diocesan/Parish Program
Wedding
Retreat
12 months
Prenuptial Inquiry
Liturgical Prep
Foccus/PMI
Rehearsal
Individual sessions with priest
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Christian Married Life

• A Living Living Sacrament
• A Home Book

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Four Parts

• Sacrament
• Prayer
• Families Become What you Are
• The Wedding Liturgy

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Sacrament

• Matrimony
• Eucharist
• Penance

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Prayer

• Synthesis of Types of Prayer
• Practical recommendations
• Treasury of Prayers

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Families Become What You Are

• Family Life Education
• Evangelization
• Sharing the Mission of the Church

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The Wedding Liturgy

• Liturgical considerations
• Liturgy of the Word
• Customs

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Christian Married LifeTraining Workshop

• A Sincere Gift of Self
• Marriage Course

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A Sincere Gift of Self -8 Sessions
Familiar ideas

• Married Love
• Sharing What is Important
• The Vow You Will Make
• Adjusting to Marriage

• Christian Vision of Sexuality
• The Gift of Children
• Family Dynamics
• Family Goals

Establish a foundation of principles for proper
understanding
Return to practical applications that have
interest
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Session 1Married Love

• Married Love
• Passion in Marriage
• Family Values
• Understanding, self-knowledge intimacy
• Communication skills

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Session 2 Sharing Whats Important

• Communication and communion
• Dignity of the person
• The total gift of self
• Virtues
• theological, cardinal and moral
• Family Roles Styles

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Session 3 The Vow You Will Make

• Vocation to marriage
• Understanding the marriage vows
• Forming a marriage covenant
• Sacrament of Marriage
• Goods of Marriage partnership, permanence,
  fidelity fruitfulness
• Demonstration of the vow

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Session 4Adjusting to Marriage

• Moving from single to married life
• Ten most common problems in marriage
• Just jitters or real problems?
• Four types of love

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Session 5 Christian Vision of Sexuality

• Conjugal love symbolism, honesty justice
• The Trinity and the family
• Unity and procreation indivisibility of the
  marital act

• Contraception vs. Christian vision
• Continence
• expressing love and trust

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Session 6The Gift of Children

• Seeing a child as a gift of God
• NFP orientation
• Justifiable reasons for using NFP
• NFP communication
• Value of a child vs. material values
• Common questions about NFP

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Session 7 Family Dynamics

• Attentiveness
• Living consistently with your values
• Friendships in the workplace
• Overcoming problems
• The escape hatch
• Dealing with anger

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Session 8 Family Goals

• Forming a community of persons
• Educating children
• Sharing in the mission of the Church
• Spiritual dimension of marriage
• Living with differences in faith
• Goals and Objectives

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Couples Manual

• Main points for understanding marriage
• Authoritative principles
• Explanations
• Illustrations graphics
• Exercises

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The Presentations

• Main points
• Explained by speaker
• Supported by
• Main points in Couples Manual
• Reinforced by transparencies, slides or PowerPoint

• Stories illustrate
• Integration questions
• Couples Dialogue

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Whats the Point?

• Sincere gift provides theme
• Clear points (3-5) for each theme
• Priest or Couple present
• explanation
• anecdote illustrating the points.

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Exercises

• Reflection
• Integration
• Identify own position
• State position
• Dialogue

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Effective

• 10 of what we read
• 20 of what we hear
• 30 of what we see
• 50 of what we hear and see
• 70 of what we say
• 90 of what we say and do

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Effective Media
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Effective Media

• Dynamic
• Concise to the point
• Primary points are clear in outlines
• Combine presentations, reflection integration

• Couples manuals highlight main points
• Transparencies Powerpoint available
• Provides vocabulary defines terms

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Contraception and Divorce
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Survey Results of Workshop
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Essential Understanding of the Vision of Marriage

• Family Values
• Nature of Married love
• Communication
• Virtues, character maturity

• Vocation to marriage
• Vow Covenant
• Sacrament
• Goods of marriage

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Human Sexuality

• Marital act
• Meaning
• Honesty
• Justice
• Continence

• Regulating birth
• Moral criteria
• NFP
• Contraception

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Tasks of the family

• Form community of persons
• Serve life
• appreciate meaning of a child
• educate the children
• Participate in society
• Share in Churchs mission

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Practical considerations

• Family roles styles
• Goals objectives
• Listening skills
• Attentiveness
• Anger forgiveness
• Escape hope
• Pain happiness

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Adjusting to marriage

• Problem dynamics that threaten marriage
• Expectations, changes adjustments
• Types of love
• Proving love in marriage

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Develop spiritual life

• Importance of sacramental prayer life
• Habit of confession
• Corporal spiritual works

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Christian Married Life

• Covenant Love
• A Retreat

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Covenant Love objectives

• Primary objective
• See marriage as a sacred covenant
• ordained by God

• Secondary objectives
• Sacramental weekend
• Retreat
• Prayerful reflection
• Sacraments
• Quiet practical reflections
• Dialogue

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How we do it?

• Reflections on the theology of the body
• the meaning of the body

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6 talk program

• Beginning with first chapter of Genesis
• Marriage as primordial sacrament
• Marriage corrupted by sin
• Marriage gloriously resurrected in the person of
  Jesus

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6 Covenant Love Sessions

• The Blessed Trinity
• A Covenant Relationship
• The Human Person
• Gods expression of Himself
• Covenant Love

• Two Become One
• Your Partnership with God
• Spirituality of marriage
• Light to an unbelieving world

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Christian Married Life

• Team Manual

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Christian Married Life

• Covenant Love
• A Retreat

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Covenant Love objectives

• Primary objective
• See marriage as a sacred covenant
• ordained by God

• Secondary objectives
• Sacramental weekend
• Retreat
• Prayerful reflection
• Sacraments
• Quiet practical reflections
• Dialogue

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How we do it?

• Reflections on the theology of the body
• the meaning of the body

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6 talk program

• Beginning with first chapter of Genesis
• Marriage as primordial sacrament
• Marriage corrupted by sin
• Marriage gloriously resurrected in the person of
  Jesus

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6 Covenant Love Sessions

• The Blessed Trinity
• A Covenant Relationship
• The Human Person
• Gods expression of Himself
• Covenant Love

• Two Become One
• Your Partnership with God
• Spirituality of marriage
• Light to an unbelieving world

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Aid for Priests counseling cohabiting couples

• Defining the problem
• Defining the goal
• Pastoral objectives in counseling the cohabiting
  couple

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Commitment to sexual activity

• The case against cohabitation
• The effects of cohabitation
• How couples rationalize cohabitation
• How the Church sees cohabitation

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Pastoral care for sexually active or cohabiting
couples

• Ascertaining cohabitation
• Addressing the issue
• Possible lines of approach

• Understanding Cohabiting Couples
• Dealing with defensiveness
• Determining the circumstances

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Christian Married Life

• A Companion for Marriage Family

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Companions on the Journey
Engagement Christian Married Life
MARITAL PEDAGOGY
PROXIMATE
IMMEDIATE
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FORMATION IN CHRISTIAN LOVE
Remote
Birth to 18 Formation in Christian Love
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Complete manual for workshops retreats

• Diocesan, parish retreat leaders
• Organizing retreat or workshop
• Team members
• Preparational procedures

• Sessions, schedules talks
• Reproducible masters
• Charts, forms, tips, organizational tools