Free yourself from the conflict of opposites

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Free yourself from the conflict of opposites
swami sukhabodhananda
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Life seems to be caught in the conflict of
opposites. How can one free oneself from
that? Opposites can be viewed as conflict or one
can be in harmony with it. Breathing in and
breathing out, in the dynamics of language is
opposites but it is not in conflict. One helps
the other as a compliment and not a conflict.
When sorrow arises, if one can be peaceful in
experiencing sorrow, one will learn from sorrow.
And in that learning one will not create a
conflict of sorrow but a harmony in sorrow.
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How to deal with sorrow? When there is sorrow
experience it. Instead of peacefully experiencing
sorrow, you start worrying, getting angry,
feeling bad, and feeling jealous of the other and
start saying, Why should this sorrow exist? Why
me? This is not fair etc. Such conversations
sullen your mind. The worrying mind loses
sensitivity. When the tide of sorrow goes, then
the same mind will have to meet joy, the opposite
of sorrow. Since, till now the mind was worrying,
it will not be sensitive to receive joy,
peacefully.
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So learn to experience sorrow, be patient that
sorrow will go and joy or peace will come. Like,
when one wave goes the other wave comes. So,
while experiencing sorrow, just experience it and
at that time dont worry, dont be angry, and
then such a calm mind can meet another experience
more gracefully. A young fish started asking
older fishes where is the ocean? When it was
told that the water in which it exists is the
ocean, it used to laugh and swim away. Then it
met an old wise fish. Old fish took the younger
one to the edge of the sea and pushed it out of
the ocean. The young fellow started struggling.
The old fish then pushed it back into the ocean
and said, This water is the ocean. Then, the
young fish saw the beauty and magic of the water.
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In the same way, peacefully experience sorrow.
When the sorrow goes and when joy comes, joy will
not be ordinary but extraordinary. So, nature has
an intrinsic purpose of the play of opposites.
But dealing with it wisely one can be in harmony
with opposites and not in conflict. I am not
still clear. How can one peacefully
experience sorrow?
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Your brain has to search for such a contact, for
such an inner state. Your brain is always
worried, expecting, justifying, comparing. Drop
that, and directly contact sorrow, without all
these foolish conversations. Train the brain to
see sorrow without expecting and then
intelligence will transform sorrow. You have to
search for it.
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You will also learn to be peaceful if you learn
to relish happy incidents in the life. Let it be
a way of life, then at some moments in a day,
reflect on happy and joyous incidents and relive
it. Then you will have the capacity to enjoy
life. Learn also to go on sharing happiness.
Learn to talk on joy more, on love more, on the
things you have more rather than feeling
miserable with unhappy things in life. Then you
will develop an inner strength to face difficult
times.